Just read this - isn't this what we all want (and thought we were getting)?
A Conscious Man is at His Most Magnificent When Life is at its Most Challenging~~
What a woman's intuition tells her is possible (and virtually all women look for) is a man with courage and conviction that becomes stronger under pressure. She knows this is the kind of man who can be counted on to do what's necessary when it counts, when life's challenges become especially tough.
What's the point in investing in a relationship with someone who becomes more reluctant, more reserved and more withdrawn, angry or afraid as the level of need increases? Too many women have found the self on the receiving end of excuses and avoidance when life applies pressure to a man, discovering a sudden need or demand to pick up his slack.
It's in a woman's feminine nature to be supportive, understanding, gracious and accommodating, but a deeper indignation eventually results towards the man who hesitates, tantrums, breaks down under pressure or runs away.
This is not an attack on men, but an explanation of why so many men lack the will to do whatever it takes to succeed in life and in love.
We no longer have predators attempting to gain entrance to our dwellings, we sleep soundly at night without fearing murders, rapists or thieves. Men no longer live in fear of conscription to the army or even the demand to be the sole provider for a family that will be destitute without their contribution.
While men don't crave pressure, they require it in order to grow and perform at their best. Today, instead of actual pressure men gravitate to the illusion of it in video games, sporting events and online arguments. Lives are instantly regenerated in their games, sports teams will live to play another day and the online rants or trolling are left with a click of the mouse.
Instead of pressure, men in relationships find themselves 'supported & understood' by women who hear their excuses about life being hard, accept their explanations about circumstances being unfair, and tolerate their 'challenges' finding the kind of employment that doesn't damage their ego.
At first, she accepts his excuses, believing he will prove his mettle when things 'really' count. She takes on more of the housework so he has the space he needs to 'recover' or 'get focused'. The demands of finances and parenting begin to build and he withdraws further as she picks up the slack. As weeks become months she asks what the plan is, and he yells that her question implied a lack of faith.
It all comes to a head with a catalysing event of infidelity, financial crisis or his inability to support her in a moment of need and she realizes she's taken on his responsibilities and that SHE is becoming the man she always hoped he would be.
Men don't require space to grow, they require pressure to step up and lead. And here's the hardest part of the truth for a man - he isn't counselled into courage or motivated into magnificence. A man either makes a choice to step through fear and act despite personal risk or he remains stuck in place with his excuses and desire for life to be easy and fair.
The promise with our birth was neither that life would be easy or fair, the only promise we were given was that we would have the choice to take it on as a victim or step up and become our own hero. No one else will save us, and if you're an Evolved woman you've already accepted the truth of that and taken full responsibility for your own life and circumstances.
Choose a higher standard, the one you truly desire and give your energy only to those who demonstrate the willingness to take on what's uncomfortable, grow to take on what's challenging and face their fear with courage of one who lives with purpose and conviction.
Let go of the sense that your love can change anyone, it can't. Love says, "I see the magnificence in your potential and my greatest desire is to see you claim it." Only the conviction of a man inspired by his internal purpose and compelled by the pressure of necessity will shift into the fully masculine conscious version of his potential that you believe he can be.
It requires pressure to form a man, not the soft space of belief, hope and understanding. Set your standard to 'Magnificent,' and wait for a man who has achieved it. In the meantime, focus on your own work and fulfilling the purpose and potential inside you. After all, the only person we can truly affect is ourselves.
~Graham R White