DRY 7!!!

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The new thread for the alcohol free and the wanna be free . come and join us

Morning all.
Just dashing on to say hi, usual morning chaos here.
Feeling more positive this morning, hope it lasts! Slept well apart from crazy dog deciding he needed a wee at 3am! Lots of weird dreams though, guest it's just my sleep patterns getting back to normal non alcohol induced state.
Be back later.

Good morning to all. I'm just on my way home after working a night shift. I'm knackered but it still beats the gross feeling of a hangover. Off to bed very soon. Have a lovely sober day.

I think I might have won any shouty mother competition going tonight bobbly. My word these children of mine can be testing! I can still hear them blathering away to each other in their room but I am sipping my sleepy time herbal tea and hoping that by some miracle they will become sleepy too.
Corn I worry too about my boy being happy just because he is going to be a little different from others. I want to do what I can to make his life easier and to do that I need to be sober.

morning all. Am so glad I started on this journey and thinking about you Corn as you process your son's DX.

Hi everyone! Sorry I am hopeless at remembering everyone's names and what they have said (even when sober!!) but I will try to keep up!

Day 5 for me, so I think I am in roughly the same place as Em? It has been a struggle, to be honest, and when DP gets home from work I really crave a drink. Mind you, once he is home and the initial craving passes, I find I am fine for the rest of the night, so it's just that trigger point. I know that some of you enjoy mocktails and AF beers etc, but my experience from Dry January was that having a "fake" drink made me want a "real" one IYSWIM, so we tend to just drink gallons of tea instead, and I drink quite a lot of milk.

I hope you are managing to get your head around things corn - a diagnosis just makes everything seem more real, even when you know anyway. The school have suspicions that DS1 may have ASD, mainly because he lacks social skills. I know that he is "different", but have always resisted having him assessed as I didn't want him to be labelled, but I often wonder whether I am holding him back in some way. At least we will all be clear-headed to work through our problems!

The good news is that DS2 has been a wee star, and has settled into nursery no problem at all. I am so pleased, but sad at the same time as I will miss him, but I plan to walk and go on the exercise bike, and maybe even lose some weight!

hello again - and thanks for the welcome.

Haven't managed 1 day yet :( but onwards and upwards...

been for a run! amazing how much time you have when you are not pouring a drink at 6...

You wait tiggy, ... soon you will be doing.... evening classes ....

Actually I am still amazed I can get up bright and early in order to finish work deadlines and MN without feeling like death.

Thanks so much everyone for the kind advice and support about DS. It helps, hugely. I feel so humble with all the support I have had on the DRY thread in the past months, not just about being DRY, but everything.

Sigma how are you? xx

There are so many more hours in the day when you aren't counting down to wine time and then losing the rest of the night! And then the following morning really...
BamBam, we are the same - day six for me and I am doing what you do, necking anything that isn't wine at the crunch hour of 5ish but then finding the rest of the evening okay. DH gets home from a week long work trip tmr but he is quite happy not to have a drink of an evening so hopefully we can stick with it.
Tonight I have what would have been a big night out at the pub, but have offered to drive and have said that I need to be home early to let the babysitter go.
Onwards and upwards Sigma, you will get there.

Hi cornchips and EmMcK

I'm OK, just miserable and stressed... job hunting, and avoiding working out how long I have before the money runs out. So buying alcohol REALLY isn't a smart move (apart from the health aspects) but of course that makes me want to do it even more :(

Realistically, I am looking after a friend's house for 10 days, and she has loads of booze (able to have it without feel the need to drink it all at once) so there is going to be too much temptation here to stop right now. I know that sounds an excuse, but I know myself. Someone suggested a drink diary to identify the crunch points, so will use the time to do that, and try & do some constructive activities in the daytimes as well...

On the rare days I don't drink I don't seem to have withdrawal symptoms, but will watch out for them... up until about 6 months ago I was on one bottle of wine a day, then the family crisis triggered an increase. Crisis sorted, but I lost my job as a result :(

Congrats to all of you managing to be AF :)

Morning all :) Glorious weather here - perfect for a run So nice to see so many new people joining the thread. Em and bambam 1 week almost bested - well done! Corn It's an ace thread isn't it? Sigma When do you leave your friends? Could you set your quit date for then? The only reason I ask that is, from experience, I could always find a reason to put it off for another day Setting a date keeps yourself accountable :)

Hi everyone!

Don't beat yourself up sigma - you will get there. I find that quitting drinking is just like quitting smoking, and it can take a few tries before it all just clicks. It took me ages to quit smoking (and even when pg with DS2 I kept puffing away) but it's been nearly 2 years now since I quit. It took a while to get my head around the "never again" aspect, but hopefully that will all kick in soon with the booze too. Day 6 here!!

tiggy and corn - I am reading a book by Lucy Rocca just now, and it was something that really hit me, when she spoke about how much time and effort we put into our drinking, and all the sneaky behaviour that goes with it. It really struck a chord with me, and I look forward to be able to properly relax and get on with life without that shadow over me.

Great positivity this morning, both on this thread and in the Tiggy home. Day 3 and I am heading into a banquet work do tonight and a fortieth tomorrow so will be reaching out a bit for support here, but am actually looking forward to them. Dry Jan was such a great thing for me to remind myself how good I can feel without drinking that I can't wait for that clear headed ness to kick back in. So glad I started my Dry May early! Watched a very depressing documentary on plastics yesterday so am now working out how we can be more green in the Tiggy home.

Have a good day all, I will be back later

hello all, not posted before but lurked:) I keep trying to stop, manage it for a day or so then start again:( I think made myself quite ill last night, made me really think and am so determined to stop. Does it take something to make you think and stop or do you just stop? thank you for reading, hope it's ok I have posted:)

welcome mrs! For me I had a line that I vowed I wouldn't cross and when crossed it I knew I had to do something about it. Took a few more months of trying before it stuck but I haven't looked back since that final quit attempt. Determination is a good starting place and support is also vital so hang around and some of the others will be sure to chime in soon :)

I found when I went beyond ( oh so far beyond!) my personal line - I was so shamed I stopped. No ifs no buts. But that was me To each their own

Welcome mrs. :)

Happy Sober weekend everyone!

Sober treats...... at B&Q early this morning, bought geraniums, wallflowers, lavenders, and summer bulbs all to plant in a newly created flower bed. The lawn was mown yesterday.

Happy, nourishing, joyful.

Had a coffee date yesterday with another mother at DS's school who has a DD with ASD. It was good to talk IRL, and to find out how the school approaches things and how to get support etc. Feeling brighter, less alone, and it was thanks to you people here on DRY that made me reach out to RL people too.

Corn Happy days :) Enjoy your garden bounties and so happy you have people IRL to talk to about it. Helpful and reassuring.

I had a bad evening... I am so tired of the retching in the toilet the next morning. :(

Today's positive though has been turning some old carrots into yummy soup with lentils, LOTS of garlic, and some coconut milk. DD at BFF's birthday party and not back for about 3 hours, so time for a hot bath with bubbles and a good book.

CC my LO is adopted so I know quite a few adoptive parents, and many of their children have complex needs and diagnoses. Apparently an ASD diagnosis is one of the most useful in getting support - people are more likely to see and respond to their individual personalities. But those first days of coming to terms with it is tough.

morning all, glad you are having a good day corn. After drinking water all night at the banquet I came home and had a small white wine with DH but I am not being derailed by this, on wards today on the sober wagon.

Corn. I'm glad you have someone to talk to about your ds with regards to school and are feeling a bit more upbeat. That's a great sober treat. I do the same and worry myself sick some nights about the future and what it holds for my ds. Not academically so much but socially and his own self esteem. I want to wrap him up in a protective little bubble.

Culmination of lots of little and not so little things I think mrs

I think it really pays to have a little sober treat lined up for when you get home tiggy. Some nights I've been out, it's being home is the hard bit. Almost like you've concentrated so hard not to drink you feel like you deserve it and you're full of energy and restless. Well done for only having a small though and getting straight back on the horse :)

Hi everyone.

I feel your pain sigma I am also having a bad weekend. After being so positive on Friday, we ended up drinking on Friday night and last night, and if I'm honest probably tonight too. I am fed up with it, but I want it too much, and DP is just the same which doesn't help at all. I'm determined that tomorrow has to be a new start, and I really want to do a dry May too, but it's hard when DP has the same problem.

Gah!

Corn your garden sounds lovely! We are in a flat, but we have a balcony, so I am thinking of getting a couple of planters to make it look nice. Don't want to attract wasps though!

Morning all! Sigma BamBam as someone who has had a bit of a stop-start approach to staying totally Dry I can only offer this....every time I slip it serves to confirm in my head that I WANT to stop..... and that is a positive thing..... it is a part of the preparing stage, or a trial run as mentioned upthread..... a means by which to increase your determination, not think 'Oh fuck it, I'll chuck the whole idea in'.

I've now had no 'single sip slips' since the start of Lent..... hoping this is really it now. :)

Last I know what you mean about wanting to wrap your DC in a protective bubble.... DH is focused on academic stuff, I am breaking my heart over 'will he have any friends, will he find a partner.... will he love his mummy...'. I want to gather up my family and run away. I have a long-held dream about having a small-holding and living in the middle of nowhere (that has good wifi though).

Thanks Sigma for the info about ASD usually having alot of support. I am going to seek it out. :)

BamBam I don't know much about gardening it has to be said, but do geraniums attract wasps does anyone know? You could a massive geranium planting..... I have images of a Spanish balcony in my mind..... ..... black iron breakfast table and chairs........ mmmm........ [dreaming]

evening all
I am still hanging on, on day 6 now. really felt the need for wine last night, but just went to bed instead!
I have had a garden filled wk/end. I find gardening very therapeutic. i went to a garden show yesterday and it was lovely, especially as I didn't have a hangover!
Then today have spent many hours planting things out in the garden and tending my little seedlings in the greenhouse
Sending lots of positive dry vibes to all those struggling....
Now need to go and catch up on much neglected household tasks, clean school shoes, sort uniform etc!

Morning everyone.

Thank you for your encouraging words corn. It has been a pretty much pissed weekend, and I am really disappointed in myself, but I am determined that today is the first day of the rest of my life, and I will crack this. I deserve better, and so do my boys.

Loving the idea of a Spanish balcony covered with geraniums! Unfortunately it's more grey concrete than iron railings, and the Scottish weather isn't quite as nice as Spain!