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Dh said I'm fat

244 replies

runlikeagirl · 02/04/2015 22:12

I suggested some chocolate (might have suggested cracking open and Easter egg). He said no and then added "you can't keep complaining of being fat and then eat chocolate. You'll always be fat if you carry on like that"

I pulled a Hmm face. He carried on "well, am I supposed to pretend you haven't put on weight, you have"

I have put on a little weight as I've been injured and not running and there is possibly some issues with my thyroid. I'm 5lbs over my upper bmi weight, 5'6" and a size 14.

Im really hurt, be he seems to think he is only stating fact.

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Georgethesecond · 03/04/2015 19:24

I would suggest a carb free lunch with plenty of protein. For me, that would be a chicken breast or salmon steak or tin of tuna with veggies, fruit afterwards, maybe a snack of almonds in the afternoon with some dark chocolate if having a crap day. I do better without the carbs, and if I cut them out of one meal a day and cut them down in another then I feel better and I lose weight.

lavendersun · 03/04/2015 19:24

OP - I have gained weight, over 2 stone in weight (illness and steroids, thank you). I was quite skinny before and always have been. I have always been mega fit and am married to someone who cycles a lot and has a fantastically fast metabolism.

We were away this week and I moaned that I felt fat - he said 'well, do something about it then, you know what you need to do'.

He is absolutely right, a bit blunt perhaps but the bottom line is that I need to move more than I have been doing. I do exercise and the level of exercise I currently do would be fabulous if I hadn't gained weight.

So, now that I am feeling more like my old self I really do need to get moving.

TalkinPeace · 03/04/2015 19:24

helena darling, this thread is already full of deleted posts
stick to the OP's case in hand - in a constructive manner - pretty please

HelenaDove · 03/04/2015 19:29

How have i not stuck to the point? It wasnt me that brought up how hard it is to do while working long hours.

liveloveluggage · 03/04/2015 19:34

I can understand someone feeling the need for a mars bar during a long day, however when I got used to fasting and was sticking with it I actually found I felt quite energetic and alert on fast days, so I think it can be done if this style of eating suits in other ways.

pinkfrocks · 03/04/2015 19:38

I think I have now heard every reason why there is an obesity epidemic- of course, because 'the workers' don't have enough time to eat 'properly'.

I suppose they must be fed chocolate intravenously while they work.

Funny how so many people (Like DH) have to have working lunches ( over meetings) which means in effect NO lunch break, but still manage to stay slim.

HelenaDove · 03/04/2015 19:45

pink i said it would help. I didnt say it was the only cause.

"but still manage to stay slim" Note you said slim which is what this is really all about. You could have said healthy or slim and healthy but no just slim.

HelenaDove · 03/04/2015 19:48

My ex had to eat at the wheel while driving while delivering and dropping off cars (car rental firm) so for him eating healthily was harder than it would be sitting in a meeting in a building.

flippinada · 03/04/2015 19:48

Actually long working hours are one of the contributers to a culture of unhealthy eating. Not the only reason but a significant one. People generally lead more pressured and busy lives.

If you are stressed, tired and work very long hours without a break (in thinking of people like doctors, midwives, nurses and teachers ) that's when you are more likely to reach for convenience food.

Of course if you work very long hours you are less likely to have the time for or feel like exercising.

Vivacia · 03/04/2015 20:02

If you are stressed, tired and work very long hours without a break (in thinking of people like doctors, midwives, nurses and teachers ) that's when you are more likely to reach for convenience food.

I agree. And more likely to reach for comfort food.

GraysAnalogy · 03/04/2015 20:05

pink Yeah I hate the excuses too, but in my job where I literally don't sit down for all them hours and couldn't exactly carry a sandwich with me flitting ward to ward the vending machine in the hall between them was my saviour Grin things have changed though now and I do thankfully get a 15 minute break every now and again.

itsbetterthanabox · 03/04/2015 20:26

It's not really your business though and people don't need to give you 'excuses'. They don't have to excuse their body to you. There's no morality to weight.
You don't have to justify yourself op to your DH or people online.

GraysAnalogy · 03/04/2015 20:35

Are you talking to anyone in particular?

MrsCampbellBlack · 03/04/2015 20:36

Talkin - do you know a lot about type one diabetes? Just that my 10 year old has it and he does need to snack so your comments do not correspond with anything I've been told by medical professionals.

OP - It is rubbish when you know you need to lose a few lbs and someone points it out to you. I sympathise greatly but suspect your DH was just trying to be helpful.

pinkfrocks · 03/04/2015 20:39

My ex had to eat at the wheel while driving while delivering and dropping off cars (car rental firm) so for him eating healthily was harder than it would be sitting in a meeting in a building.

Not exactly safe driving.
But I expect he ate sandwiches- same as served up for a working lunch.

Box5883284322679964228 · 03/04/2015 20:48

Pinkfrock - running is a great calorie burner. If OP ran 20 miles a week, she would lose a pound every 10 days or so. It must be really hard adjusting to a non-runners calorie intake.

MaryWestmacott · 03/04/2015 21:06

Thing is, when you've had an injury to the foot, it's not the "high profile" and "highly obvious" exercise you stop doing, the clearly noted running etc, but the "background" exercise that goes too - when I damaged my foot, I stoped taking the stairs or walking up escalators, but taking lifts or standing on the right. Driving to the supermarket rather than walking to the local shop to pick up missed bits of groceries etc.

That stuff, the stuff you don't really register, makes a huge difference to your calorie burn levels.

OP - you sound like you know what the problem is and why you aren't quite ready to deal with it.

TalkinPeace · 03/04/2015 21:20

basks in the glow of my "fan club"
knowing that OP is safe from their idiocy and is chatting to her DH Smile

HelenaDove · 03/04/2015 22:01

YY flippinada People who i have known through SW in the past who struggled to eat OR drink healthily actually worked for the NHS.

One was a theatre nurse. They spent nearly a week moving medical equipment from one operating theatre to another due to a theatre closing. When she queried when they could nip off and quickly have something to eat she was told "Sorry there isnt time"

Another was a ward nurse who developed kidney stones due to not having time to drink on shift.

TalkinPeace · 03/04/2015 22:04

helena
Please explain why you post on threads that annoy you
the rest of us have a life

HelenaDove · 03/04/2015 22:05

Not in the summer pinkfrocks He couldnt store sandwiches in a car without the contents going off.

And he was TOLD by his employer to eat while driving because there wasnt time to stop.

GraysAnalogy · 03/04/2015 22:06

Do have to agree with you there Helena, when I first started my job I was constantly getting cystitis from either not being able to be hydrated properly or having to hold pee in. Not good.

HelenaDove · 03/04/2015 22:07

Talkin my last couple of posts wernt even directed at you so can you desist with the bullying please.

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runlikeagirl · 03/04/2015 22:35

I'm a teacher. This half term I have been assaulted by a pupil, sworn out and shouted at weekly (if not daily), dealt with ofsted and much more. I usually mark during lunch break so that I an get to bed by 10pm. Sometimes I'm dealing with the consequences of behaviour and referring etc, so get none. There is no toilet near me, or fridge. We have one microwave and one kettle for over 100 staff. I often have to wait until 3pm to go for a wee.

At least one of my teaching days I have a full timetable, break duty, and a meeting immediately after school. 8.15-5pm with virtually no stop.

I'm going to try low carb (argh I LOVE bread) and high fibre and protein. On Tuesday

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HelenaDove · 03/04/2015 22:38

Run that is awful.. No toilet or fridge is absolutely ridiculous.

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