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Dh said I'm fat

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runlikeagirl · 02/04/2015 22:12

I suggested some chocolate (might have suggested cracking open and Easter egg). He said no and then added "you can't keep complaining of being fat and then eat chocolate. You'll always be fat if you carry on like that"

I pulled a Hmm face. He carried on "well, am I supposed to pretend you haven't put on weight, you have"

I have put on a little weight as I've been injured and not running and there is possibly some issues with my thyroid. I'm 5lbs over my upper bmi weight, 5'6" and a size 14.

Im really hurt, be he seems to think he is only stating fact.

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DaemonPantalaemon · 04/04/2015 11:26

I do need a solution. But while I have a mortgage to pay there isn't an easy answer.

But being huffy at your husband when he makes a tactless but true comment is hardly a solution. Nor, from the looks of it, is his comment your biggest problem.

TendonQueen · 04/04/2015 12:06

What is your husband doing to support you in all this? I would be inclined to dismiss his comment as a bad moment if he was otherwise supportive and helpful, but you've said very little about that. How often does he get up with your DC at 5.30? Does he do the shopping, does he cook, what else does he do that would free up time for you? If he isn't pulling his weight in these areas, I'd tell him that he needs to do more beyond just talk to 'motivate' you. For a start I'd chuck out his biscuit stash and say it's not helpful to you to have junk food in the house.

GraysAnalogy · 04/04/2015 12:09

My post up thread was so badly written please ignore Blush

pinkfrocks · 04/04/2015 12:13

run this is a bit off topic but if work means you have a crap work-life balance have you thought of changing what you do? If you tutored 15 hours a week after school (in your own home) you may well earn the same as your p/t post in school without all the added stress.

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runlikeagirl · 04/04/2015 12:16

Thanks for that. I'm going to look at those cooler box/bag things. Marking lunchtimes I get to eat at desk, and I'm going to try some low carb, high protein lunches after Easter.

The lunchtimes when you are running about trying photocopy, chase SLT about an incident etc aren't always so successful. I'm not saying it's impossible, I was asking for alternatives to sandwiches that don't require heating (like soup).

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runlikeagirl · 04/04/2015 12:20

I don't teach a very tutor type subject (RE and history). I'm on ups2 so my salary is £21000 for 3 days. I've not seen anything else offering that. It's a good salary.

I do want to leave teaching. Actually, no. I love teaching, but it is a mess as it is now and the stress is unbelievable. But it will have to wait until at least both dc are in school.

Dh gets up with them at weekend so I get lie in. He does his fair share of cooking, he always does bath time. But I get up in night to them, mostly as I am able to settle the quicker.

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pinkfrocks · 04/04/2015 12:28

Could you work in the independent sector- anything close to you? Smaller classes etc.

Might be worth looking at the OU for history- friend of mine works for them and really enjoys it.

Re. lunches- soup keeps well in a flask. Get a wide necked one with a lid that is more like a bowl than a cup.

TendonQueen · 04/04/2015 13:17

Hmm, he could alternate nights with you to get up to the kids. If you always settle them, then of course they will settle more quickly for you. But it won't harm them to have him do it every other night, and it would give you some better quality nights of sleep. It's easy to forget how much harder everything gets when you are losing out on sleep. Plus isn't there research that says you are more likely to have trouble losing weight if you don't get enough sleep?

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runlikeagirl · 04/04/2015 15:53

I'm looking every day pink. I have the TES jobs section bookmarked! History is just something I teach, I've not even got it at A level.

We are going to alternate the getting up. I've spent this afternoon asleep, I meant to go for a quick lie down but I feel wiped out.

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pinkfrocks · 04/04/2015 16:09

run- this is slightly de-railing your original post but have you considered changing age ranges? You could re-train for primary instead of teaching RE.

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runlikeagirl · 04/04/2015 17:05

You can't retrain once you have QTS. Technically I could teach primary Ks2, but there is an excess of primary teachers nationally, so it's unlikely they would employ a secondary trained. I also think that primary teachers work even harder, so much more marking and hardly any ppa.

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pinkfrocks · 04/04/2015 18:44

You can. I know lots of teachers (friends) who have moved across age groups- always secondary to primary rather than the other way round. One friend is now a Senco in a primary school after years in secondary - her subject was special needs. It's more common than you think.

sassytheFIRST · 04/04/2015 19:39

Run like - I got my current part time post (in which I am very happy) by applying for a full time. I made sure my application was shithot (Wink), and when they rang me to invite to interview I was very much "oooh, well I've thought about it and...well I think id like part time really...could you keep me on your books likewise..." Part time post offered 3 weeks later.

Try it. There's nowt to lose and a lot to gain.

sassytheFIRST · 04/04/2015 19:50

My job is secondary teaching,btw; i was UPS2 at the time, now UPS3. Didn't make that clear in my post, sorry.

LividofLondinium · 05/04/2015 08:29

Run, I take soup, stews, risottos etc for my lunch in a Thermos food flask. It's pretty good and adds variety to packed lunchesSmile

HelenaDove · 05/04/2015 16:03

Livid i didnt know about those Smile

lavendersun · 05/04/2015 17:39

They are fab Helena. We have one each and when DD couldn't have school lunches (YR to Y3) she would take a casserole or soup in them to school in the cold months, it just needed one of the supervisors to open it for her because she couldn't manage it.

pinkfrocks · 05/04/2015 19:27

I posted about wide necked flasks several posts down the page.
They have been around for yonks and are good- you could- not that you'd want to- put stuff like baked beans and sausages in them.

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