God knows what I've done wrong now!

[mumto3beautys]

hi to all
I've got a thread on here about my toxic mother but I'm not sure my dp is much better, can I think aloud and people give me their opinion
take today for example he's staying over as we are going to visit family in the morning for the weekend
he's been off work all week but I've not seen him since Saturday as he's been "busy"
he was meant to come last night but cancelled as his ex threatened if he didn't have his son while she went drinking he wouldn't be seeing him again
so hes coming tonight ive spoken to him a few times today and he's just so angry all the time bites my head off for the smallest thing
the only thing I have done today is say oh probably in a bit of a dissapointed voice when he said he had to go and see his mum at 8 so no idea when he will get here...infact his words were ill be there when I'm there stop putting pressure on me ( I havent seen him all week! )
he's bringing a takeaway so I guess he will call when he's there to ask what I want but he has literally bit my head off in every single conversation today!
I said are you going to be in a better mood or be nice when you get here, I didn't mean it to be patronising I just wanted a heads up and his reply was yeah if u do this this and this and don't do this or this
surely there shouldn't be so many rules for someone to just be kind???
I have no idea why he's so angry/nasty atm

thats v.possible yes

Mull that one over then.

(Have you got a movie to watch tonight?)

yeah I will settle down and watch a film to distract myself thanks I did that last night 50 shades of grey n it reminded me of him rather than distracted me!

I'm settling down to watch one of my favourite movies - Addams Family Values. (It just makes me laugh.)

Good watching.

Mum you should try the film addicted to love instead. It's funny and will take your mind off!

Saving Grace is a fab film, funny and sweet, good story. If you get stuck for distraction, curl up with it and enjoy.

You are doing so well!

Is this the longest you've not talked to him? Are you feeling stonger for it, overall?

Have you watched Gone Girl yet? I enjoyed the book and film, even if the ending was a little weak, so if you haven't already maybe give it a go...

Op, if I didn't know better I would think this Prick is my ex! Everything you are saying he did too. I wasted four and a half years on him until he cancelled one last time and I just got so angry I phoned him and broke up with him then and there. It was hard, it hurt, I missed him so much! But do you know what? Four amazing single years later I could not be happier! In fact I would say it took me about 2 months to stop kmissing him. So don't worry that you are feeling this way, stay strong and I.guarantee you will be so much happier just a few.weeks down the line!!!!

It's understandable that you miss him, even though he is a total selfish prick, he has been part of your life and that's hard to end.

Hi Mum, I'm sorry about my last post. I'm not dealing with your situation so it's easy for me to shout at you. A lot of people have recognised that you surely don't deserve to be treated the way this man treats you, and now it's down to you to see it for yourself. Distance is the only way.

I recently split from my ex and in the first month I really missed him. I was quite sorrowful, although I didn't entertain any ideas of getting back with him because I'd finally made the break. I analysed myself to work out why I felt such grief and sorrow, and I realised I didn't miss him as he was today, I missed him as he was when we first met. I'd never get that back again, when I was so heady with love and looking forward to my first and probably only child.

Tell yourself that the bad side isn't worth it to get the good side, as there are plenty of men out there who only have good sides and you'll meet one of them someday. All of my life I've thought of myself as fat, ugly and useless but somehow I still managed to find love. When I was single I at least had control over my life and money and found I needed to 'ground' myself between relationships this way in order to preserve my self worth so that I could see with open eyes whether the next man who came along was worth having me.

I hope you come to realise very soon that being single for a while will empower you. You don't need this bloodsucker in your life.

I'm betting that he's already officially moved on actually. There's been a fair change in his behaviour of very recent days.

This sort of person needs someone in his life to adore him and look after him unquestioningly so (subject to what mum says) he was probably down the pub last night lining up his new victim.

how are you mum?

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