HOBBIT'S BAR - still finding it hard to move on...part 4

[WellWhoKnew]

If you are struggling to come to terms with the ending of your marriage, no matter how that came about, this is the place where you come to say SHIT THIS IS HARD, when you hit those times of despair.

It is the place where it is never rude to interrupt if you're having a bad day and need to vent. No matter what.

The bar, owned by Hobbit, but run by committee, is open to all as we wind our way through divorce, come to terms with our individual circumstances, or just cope with adjusting to a new life.

My name is WellWhoKnew (known here as everyone's bloody mother!). I was suddenly abandoned nearly eleven months ago. I've just had the final hearing (finished five days ago) and I am now officially an ex-wife. I now have to start making plans for a very different future than I ever imagined, which includes moving home, getting a job, and leaving the deadwood behind.

It is the place where the only thing anyone will tell you to do is keep on, keeping on.

Part three

Part two

Part one

What did you google Izzie? Have I missed something confused

iwas may I say for the first time, as a joke though, RTFT

Be right back to tell you the answer , got to go to previous page

It's in response to the post at 20.03

I mean 20.43

That would be why I couldn't find a post at 20.03!!

I still don't get it thick

Who are you?

I'm memory woman.....

Check for. PM. And I don't mean David Cameron.....

Must be the slow gin I've been drinking! (For bad joke purposes only - I don't like gin - sorry WWK)

Mystery solved, thanks Izzie. Haven't we lowered the tone on the thread enough without bringing David Cameron into it!

David Cameron, lowering the tone ? Are we doing politics now? Or just smug twats?

So we are non gin twins. Although I said I would give it another go.

On another subject.....being back to the joys of a single life......I should have done the online grocery shop tonight. Not sure logistically when can get it delivered. And I thought to myself, I have enough cigarettes and fizzy drinks to last me, so to hell with it. Whereas Twat would have been all " oh no, we have to, because there are loads of things we need" huh, like bloody everything he think a we can't do without, ie the full grocery shop. Oh yawn yawn. And tonight I couldn't be bothered to cook so had two and a half boiled eggs and half a tub of coleslaw. He would be horrified.

I have one cooked egg left if anyone wants it? I got bored of eating the eggs....

This thread is getting distinctly light-hearted - even ever so slightly smutty Izzie

at the pliers Hobbit - none needed!

Did someone mention sloe gin? I luuuuuuurv sloe gin - best drink ever Make it myself when I can be bothered to pick the sloes. Of course that then leads to making raspberry gin (that one can be drunk much much quicker) and so on hic

I'm getting a bit worried that Izzie may disappear. I'm getting very organised here. My floordrobe is no more, my ironing is done, I've even told the kids about the new order in which we fill the fridge. I can forgive the last one for a while, as I do have a thing for filling new cupboards and such like. How bloody sad am I?

I need to take stock of myself.

Gin Virgin alert! Raspberry gin. That sounds better. What do I need to do for that?

Just googled sloe I'm a peasant No, won't like that

We had a bit of smut on one of the earlier Hobbit threads I seem to recall. Actually, just head on down to SidSmut and fill yer boots[ grin]

Why am I the only one adhering to the mick taking of Sid??

I think we can tell the time by the tone of this thread. It's unwind time.

Do you know I have had an opened wine bottle in my fridge for approx two weeks? My taking up drinking resolution is not going too well.....

If I could have voted my vote would have gone to Neil Kinnock at one point!!

Can I join in on the mick taking of sleazy Sid please Izzie? x

Ahem...Raspberry gin - fill a bottle half full of gin, throw in some frozen raspberries and sugar. Then put on a cupboard, give a good shake when the mood takes you, and about 2-4 weeks later seive into a clean bottle and hey presto ??

Did someone mention sloe gin? I luuuuuuurv sloe gin - best drink ever

When we lived back in the wilds of Wales (and I do mean the wilds) we used to make Sloe Gin every year without fail (and cracked open at Christmas) and all our own booze out of allsorts - rosehips, elderberries, apples, plums, quinces, dandelions ... any old shit we could pick or scavenge really. It was almost like a factory ... with plastic barrels of beer and demijohns of wine fermenting all over the gaff. It's a wonder I've got a liver left to be honest!

We did an apple wine once and it double fermented like Champagne, so it was fizzy. Dry as fuck and almost undrinkable, but with a proper Champagne fizz on it.

Best wine by a country mile was the Elderberry. Perfect every time and bloody delicious. Next to grapes I reckon elderberries are probably the perfect fruit to make wine with.

now, now children - I go off gallivanting and you all start misbehaving. Hobbit you know where I keep my bolt cutters, I suggest you head over to my place and get things back in order. Just because I have annexed your bar, does not mean that amockwittery runs!

Who is on the gin? Names now please! Detention in the morning.

Who is sending notes behind the teacher's back? I want those names RIGHT NOW.

Just because mother is off gallivanting, doesn't mean Big Brother isn't watching y'know!

And as for you Green - just because you're interacting with the 'penal' community, doesn't stop me having the right to issue you with a penal notice. PM to my inbox now!!

MrsC - will buy cape if necessary. KOKO til tom.

And who the fuck stole my picture? That was me leaving the deadwood behind...and now I've been obliterated!

Pah!

So this is where everybody went...apologies for being so slow to catch up.

So...WhyMe ....a summary of my story so far....

My stbxh left me and my two DD's in August 2014. He swore there was nobody else but low and behold I discover the OW in September. He then appears to have decided to try to destroy me.

We had been together 23 years and married for 14.

He proceeded to cancel my utility bills (took credits), took all our savings (including some of the childrens), took the car with the help of the Police, accused me of domestic violence (he said that I had hit him on numerous occasions in front of the children - actually he is the perpetrator not me), stalked me, harassed me, threatened to take the children (on numerous occasions), took me to court and the list goes on.

He also informed me that he had been using prostitutes and meeting women from plenty of fish.com between shifts. Nice.

I also have a rare lung condition and I have been off sick since last May. Then my poor mum passed away in December. Despite this he continued his nasty games.

We went to court in March and he turned up 45 mins late, CAFCASS said he was belligerent and the Judge wasn't impressed. He is using the children as a weapon to hurt me. We're back in court in June.

He's also stopped my child maintenance last week.

He has also said that he is getting married directly our divorce comes through to the OW who is 9 years younger than me.

I now refer to them as the 'slag and weasel'.

Some days I cope and others days I just get by.

I appreciate all the support that I have received from the lovely people on mumsnet. xx

Hello Why, good to hear from you. I'm wound up because of something said about OWs in general, and it's too late to go to bed now. Great!

How are you doing since court?