Just what do you have against marriage?

[DumbledoresGirl]

All you girls who are thinking of getting married after YorkieGirl's advice but just can't bring yourself to do it, or are only doing it because of the legal implications, please explain to me, what have you got against marriage? I won't agree with you, but I would love to understand more about your reasoning.

martianbishop, thank you, that was very interesting and touching

Ye Gods, gay people fought and fought for the right to be married. Now straight people are fighting for the right to be unmarried. Surreal. Just get married fgs.

"I Franny take you Man to be my wedded husband"

I get the same visceral response to it as you do MP

It isn't going to happen, I don't think

sorrell: words are everything

No they aren't. Words change all the time.

snap, sally

In fact he insists that the RAF address me in my maiden name....has cause some amusement on times

an 19 years down the line, he is still the person I want to wake up next to in bed!

words do change.

Awful used to mean full of awe. And a flibertigibbit was a fiend from hell!

At a civil partnership, you don't need to SAY anything. You just sign the form.

OK, so you're a couple living together and you want the state to recognise that you're a proper couple for children and inheritance purposes, not just lodgers as it were. So you make an appointment at your local council offices and both sign a piece of paper in your lunch break. Great! How easy is that? And the even better news is that you can do it right now! It's called a Marriage Certificate

F&Z!

I do want to understand truly I do!

(I also want a good old fight, but I am in that mood tonight.)

And after you've signed the form, the Superintendent says:

"You are now partners in law; It is my pleasure to extend to you my very good wishes"

Oh wouldn't it be LOVELY!

I would LOVE to be dp's "partner in law"

I really DON'T want to be ANYONE'S "wife"

tiredemma - the blessing was pretty much identical to a church wedding. Only thing we didn't have to pay for extra was the registrar bit, as we were already legally married. The party costs as much as you want it too!

DG

It is what you make it MP, in my experience.

For me is really isn't downbeaten drudge!

no one says you have to be 'wife' and 'husband'..call yourself whatever you like. egg and bean if you want, doesn't matter.

well the LAW says you have to be husband and wife

that's what you ARE

lol at "egg and bean"!

I wouldn't have wanted to be a 'wife' life my mother or MIL was. But then I don't want to be a 'um' like they were either.

For me, and I say this with total honesty, I am my husbands total equal. So wife doesn't mean lesser, or subservient.

Well I guess the law calls you a spinster but I bet you don't call yourself one.

I think it is actually quite important that a distinciton in law is made between married couples and co-habitees. Turn the argument on its head. If there was no distinction, then you could be living with a man for 2 weeks, fall under a bus, and he would have rights over your property, etc instead of your family. how can that be right?