Dads new girlfriend is younger then me!!!!

[KattyKatty1991]

My dad is 40 years old and his new girlfriend is 22! He has been with her for a few months and only told me about it a week ago. The problem is not only how young she is but the fact shes younger then me! im 24 (dad had me very young). To say im creeped out would be an understatement. My dad has been in a few relationships over the years but hasnt really found the right partner even though his last relationship on and off lasted 3 years. Seems like he's now going through his midlife crisis. :( Should i tell him to leave her

Wow! You lot have really missed the point havent you. My stepmum is now younger then me!! I dont live with them but we all went out last saturday and it was weird watching my father show affection to a girl younger then me. There was a lot people rolling eyebrows around us as well. Its just really creepy and im going to defitnley have a word with him about it

It is a very awkward situation for you. However your dad and his GF are both adults. You cannot demand they split up. Sorry 💐 It is what it is.

I’ve been in your exact situation , it sucks
You can’t tell your father what to do , it’s his choice
In my situation my father ended up marrying her and having children with her . Now she’s older he would keenly trade her in if another woman would have him . Believe me he tries
He was all for showing off his new 21 year old when she was shiny and because because that was what was important to him, huge ego , massive insecurities , but even she didn’t stay 21
Their marriage has been very unhappy and lonely for her according to what she’s told me over the years
Will this happen with your father ? Who knows . You don’t have to like it but you also can’t do anything about it

Yeah... grow up. My husband is 31 years older than me, his kids and I get on great and we're both happier than we've ever been. He's in a relationship with a consenting adult. He's not dating you - get over yourself and literally grow up - also, what gives you the right to 'tell him to leave her".... I'm sure you'd allow him to tell you to leave someone because he didn't approve. Get over it, move on and be happy your dad is happy

Shes young, probably energetic in bed, plenty of stamina, isnt set in her ways, all traits your Dad is probably loving.

Its unlikely to last so let him have his fun till it fizzes out, no need for you to tell him anything.

YANBU at all, I think this is seriously creepy! It’s not the age gap it’s the fact he’s dating someone younger than his daughter! Urgh! It’s like he’s chosen to date one of the OP’s friends!! OP you have my sympathy!

Obviously you can’t force him to dump her but you can definitely make it clear how uncomfortable it makes you and tell him you won’t be hanging out with them. Can’t believe how many people would be ok with this?!

Been there - my father in his 70s took up with someone in her 40s (younger than his youngest DD) and had really been yearning after another woman in her 30s, who sees him as a father figure, but he wasn't emotionally intelligent enough to realise that.

It's gross. He insists he has the right to be happy, and he does. But it means I really don't have to have much to do with my father - he reaps what he sows ...

The real problem is, he's spent all his money on this so-called "partner" and I doubt she'll look after him if he gets ill/old/frail.

My old man did this - she was / is 30 years younger than him and several years younger than me. I thought she was a grand lass and encouraged him to go for it as he’d had a rough time when my mother left. What I didn’t expect was for her to “accidentally” fall pregnant within three months, move in and systematically remove us first litter. She burnt a lot of our things that were left in the family home, slowly ostracised us from him eg “lost” his phone, wiped answerphone messages etc and I don’t think I’ve seen him since before the pandemic started 🤷‍♀️ A combination of her insecurity and his spineless nature started it and my stubbornness has probably ended it. Apparently they’re really happy but when I’ve seen him / photos of them he just looks bewildered / irritated with the band of feral children around him.

@SukieTuesday

Maybe they have really, really good sex.

OP definitely doesn’t want to hear this 🤣🤣🤣 but it’s a valid point. Older men have more experience, a 40 yr old is likely to be a better lover than someone her own age.

This thread is 6 yrs old !

@flapjackfairy

This thread is 6 yrs old !

It is! I wish the OP would update us!

@honeybuns007 Me too. My guess is the relationship is long gone

My DPs dad left his wife for a 19 year old and he was 22 at the time. I get it OP.
It’s weird and you don’t have to accept it. You also can’t control your dad though. I think the best way to be is to say that you’re happy that he is happy, but you would rather he didn’t bring his partner along when he spends time with you, as it makes you uncomfortable.

Wow, they rolled their eyebrows? I've tied that since reading your post, but no luck.

Seriously, it's none of your business. Keep your nose out of what shouldn't concern you. It gives you the ick, so stay away.

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