Dads new girlfriend is younger then me!!!!

[KattyKatty1991]

My dad is 40 years old and his new girlfriend is 22! He has been with her for a few months and only told me about it a week ago. The problem is not only how young she is but the fact shes younger then me! im 24 (dad had me very young). To say im creeped out would be an understatement. My dad has been in a few relationships over the years but hasnt really found the right partner even though his last relationship on and off lasted 3 years. Seems like he's now going through his midlife crisis. :( Should i tell him to leave her

What's wrong with live and let live?treacle grow up.

Sorry, the end of that post got messed up. I meant to say one of my grandmother's brothers never acknowledged her existence. But anyway, I don't think saying anything to your dad will do any good but will just aggravate your relationship. She could be taking him for a ride but your dad is a grown man who is capable of making decisions about people for himself.

She's his new gf, not your stepmother. You don't need to be so melodramatic. If she sees something appealing in him, good for them both.
Maybe you'll find someone over 40 who you find attractive!

I,m jealous of your dad. Good for him. I can't find a younger GF. Let him get on with it.

Wow! Lots of judemental people on here including the OP!
My late dh was 35 years older than me. He had been widowed eighteen months when we met and luckily for me his four children were very welcoming.
We had nine happy years together until he died.

It must feel very strange. I would be kind but distant to start with and let them get on with it. If they have nothing in common it will peter out.

Don't ask him to choose between you and the g/f, you may not like the answer.

I speak from bitter experience (won't give details as it would out me to any family/friends who may be on MN).

Obviously you can't tell him what he can and can't do!

I would think feeling pretty squicked out was quite normal myself so surprised there are only a few saying they understand that reaction and more would be totally AOK with one of their parents going out with someone younger than them. If my mum or dad started going out with someone in their 30s I'd be, um, no I really wouldn't like it at all. TBH I think in real life most people would be a bit freaked, at least initially.

Still yes obviously it's his business and if it makes you feel uncomfortable then you either need to pretend it doesn't, and hope the feeling goes away, or cut down on seeing him / them which is of course another option.

And of course while you can't tell him what to do, telling him how you feel if he asks is perfectly reasonable and preferable really in case he wonders why you are being a bit different to usual, although I'd imagine he'd probably guess TBH.

"Maybe they have really, really good sex."

I'm 35 this year. .. by some of the attitudes on this thread I should be ready to collect my pension!

Also thinking about it TBH if I started going out with a 22 year old (let's forget about DH for the moment!) I would expect most of my work colleagues and friends to be gobsmacked TBH. And pretty .

Just thinking about your post there Fairylea!

I am appalled at some of the posts saying 'yuck' and 'disgusting'! He's only 40!

Maybe what she likes about your Dad is his company, his humour, maybe he has a non-judgmental attitude?

I think you are doing your Dad a huge disservice by asking what would she see in him.

It's his life.

Hard for you to digest? Yes, of course.

Anything you can/should do about it? No. None of your business.

treacle - you should be ashamed. Reported your post and I hope MNHQ remove it.

Regardless of whether we agree or what we feel of the OP's difficulty in coming to terms with this situation, she doesn't deserve your vile comment!!

My ex h is living with a 20yo, he's 41, his eldest daughter is also 20.

Age gap hasn't been an issue, but a lot has been said about the creepiness of him fucking someone who was gestating at the same time as his daughter unfortunately for me people haven't been rude enough to say anything to his face so I get to listen to people spewing their disgust at him to me. Tis a joy.

I found it revolting to begin with, but they seem to be doing okay and as ex h's mental development peaked at 17 and then stalled entirely they're probably perfect for each other! I'm not sure if his daughter knows about the girlfriend, so not aware of her reaction to the situation.

I feel for you but I wouldn't say a word.

Finding it really hard to believe people were rolling their eyes.

Some rock stars have young partners, do people roll their eyes ?

I have met a few similar couples, none of the relationships lasted
The young girls went clubbing with their friends
The older men stayed at home with baby watching tv
The men had assets, job, house, car
The couples did seem to be mis matched

www.channel5.com/shows/age-gap-love-series

Would you want your father to tell you who to date ?

Just think of en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hugh_Hefner

You might be surprised but alot of women around your age go for men much older, it's not always about money either. Men mature much slower than women, so a bloke in his early twenties can seem a bit juvenile.
I hope they're very happy together :)

Have you actually considered that they both want to be in a mutual relationship with each other?
Time for you to pull up your big girl panties and let them get on with it. Its no business of yours who your dad wants to be with

Hugh Hefner is almost 90, FFS! Hardly the same as a 40 year old. fluffapuss Do you not think your comment is pretty offensive to the people who have commented on here talking about their own marriages?

I'd find it grim, too.

And I say this as an ancient 41 year old.

I totally agree with how you feel OP, it is creepy. But he is very unlikely to listen to you if you do say anything.

KattyKatty1991 Part of growing up and maturing is the realisation and recognition that your parents are actually people in their own right and that you have no right to tell them what to do or to expect them to behave as you want. That's for 6 year old and petulant teens. You can feel what you like, but if you want to consider yourself like an autonomous adult, then start relating to your farther like one.