Dads new girlfriend is younger then me!!!!

[KattyKatty1991]

My dad is 40 years old and his new girlfriend is 22! He has been with her for a few months and only told me about it a week ago. The problem is not only how young she is but the fact shes younger then me! im 24 (dad had me very young). To say im creeped out would be an understatement. My dad has been in a few relationships over the years but hasnt really found the right partner even though his last relationship on and off lasted 3 years. Seems like he's now going through his midlife crisis. :( Should i tell him to leave her

I can understand why you feel it's weird. However you really mustn't say anything to him about it. How would you like it if he told you, an adult, what to do with your life or who to date?

You have to remember that she is a woman. Not a teenager. And whatever they have together it seems to be working and even if it is lust or sex it is perfectly fine for them to enjoy that kind of relationship - even if it's weird as it's your dad!

As awkward as it is you're going to have to try and get on with her.

I'm sure he'll be charmed by your appraisal of his utter dullness

Not your circus, not your monkeys.

Clearly you do have a problem with if you are creeped out.
My DH and parents are the same age, like your father my parents had me young amd there is a big age gap between me and my DH.
Luckily being adults they were mature enough to understand that adults make their own decisions about relationships and interfering relatives no matter how close have no say in the matter.
If you interfer in this matter you give him free range to interfer in your relationship too.

Do you honestly think he will dump her just on our say so?
Are you willing to risk the damage to your own relationship with him by making such a demand?

I don't think someone of 40 dating a 22 year old is eyebrow raising worthy. I dated now DH when I was almost 22 and he was 40, my own dad is 11 months older than DH. My dad has also dated women around my age or younger, I don't care who he dates if they are happy with each other.

It's not quite the same thing but I'm nearly 10 years older than dh and we met when he was fresh out of uni and living on his mums sofa and I was newly divorced and had a 7 year old dd.... We raised a few eyebrows!

All kinds of relationships work. I actually think age is one of the least important things to worry about.

MIL's father married a woman the same age as her after his first wife died. I know she found it very unsettling to start with but they are both now in their seventies and good friends.

Meh - my ExH was 17.5 years older than me. Not really that big a deal in my opinion. He's a grown man who makes his own decisions. You really should accept them.

Maybe they have really, really good sex.

my dp is nearly 24 years older than me and 5 years older than my dad and one year older than my mum.

they struggled at first and I can totally see why. especially my Df

but they can see how happy we make each other and its the happiest they've seen me so that overrides everything.

bare With them.

I see how it may feel odd to you but the way you describe him it's like he's 80 rather than 40! 40 isn't actually that old.

It does sound kinda gross. I think your dad should be more respectful.

Why is it gross and how is he being disrespectful?
He's only 40 FFS!

Given 3 of my closest friends are all married to men with an age gat of about the same I think your attitude stinks.

Credit your dad with enough intelligence to have fun and decide for himself how serious they are.

I think you've had a hard time on here OP. I agree with you, it's a bit rubbish. I'd be questioning his judgement tbh. But you can't say anything at all. You just have to put up with it and try to avert your eyes.

Really Treacle

It's quite a large age gap but not that crazy. Your reaction is what I'd expect but the situation is highlighted because your dad was so young when he had you. Eg my dad is 58 so for him the gf would be 40 & I'm 29 which isn't as odd sounding

You can't have a word with him but you can decline going out with them and tell him why (you are uncomfortable with him dating someone younger than you). Just see your dad without her and then you can pretend they're not going out. Be warned he's probably not going to share who he dates after this with you.

It's not up to you to decide what she sees in him or why he has chosen her. Let's say you clicked with a man who is older than your dad, and your dad gets all the same as you are here now... And then tells you to leave him stating you might have no interest in common... What would you do?
Or suppose a daughter of your partner will tell her dad to leave you assuming you are using him, how would you react?

Just visualise it a bit and you might know where you stand.

Be happy that a young girl is dating your dad... It means he is still attractive and willing to in a company of a woman.

My uncle is 70 years old, dated a girl younger than his daughter.
Daughter and dad had an argument. Just the same statement "what people would say". He left a girl but he doesn't talk to his daughter any more...

Why create a problem out of nowhere.
Live and let others live!

I can understand why you're creeped out but I don't think a 40 year old seeing a 22 year old is that bad personally...maybe she just likes older men? I know a few women in their 20s who are mainly attracted to men in their late 30s/early 40s (and no, it has nothing to do with money). If he was 50, it would be a bit more rank.

That said, my great grandparents had a 30 year age difference, she was younger than some of his children by several years but they were very happy together and obviously went on to have 2 children. That's probably not a story you want to hear but it could work out. I don't tldren (one of my grandmother's brothers never really acknowledged her existence though, which I think is very sad).hink saying anything to him will do much other than piss him off or encourage him to see her even more.

Jesus I'm nearly 50. Some of the attitudes expressed on here are shocking. The arrogance of youth is breath taking.

Op, none of your business what he does unless it's illegal. Poor bloke