Dads new girlfriend is younger then me!!!!

[KattyKatty1991]

My dad is 40 years old and his new girlfriend is 22! He has been with her for a few months and only told me about it a week ago. The problem is not only how young she is but the fact shes younger then me! im 24 (dad had me very young). To say im creeped out would be an understatement. My dad has been in a few relationships over the years but hasnt really found the right partner even though his last relationship on and off lasted 3 years. Seems like he's now going through his midlife crisis. :( Should i tell him to leave her

Be positive, she can give you tips on the latest fashions and music.

Who your dad sees is not up to you, and it seems that you have missed at least one of their common interests.

Being with her for a few months doesn't make her your step mum! get over yourself, op. Let your dad be happy.

What if YOU met a 40yr old man, would your dad be telling you it's "icky"

It's hard because he's your Dad.

But 40 isn't old. And 22 can be quite mature.

I would let it run it's course (if that is what it's going to do) or give it time and if it does work out you will be used to it by then.

I'm 40 btw and my husband of 5 years is 27. Do the maths! Definitely more than a few eyebrows raised! Although I didn't have children so slightly different. I would definitely find it weird to date someone younger than my kids! (thinking of it that way!)

It's probably more than likely it won't last. Is it worth falling out with your Dad over it?

You can tell him what you think but I doubt that would make him change his mind if he is v keen.
So better keep quiet.

If he can't find someone his age, which is what seems to have happened, you can't really dictate who is or isn't suitable.

God knows what her family will say, plenty I would guess, so you can probably just keep schtum and see what happens. though of course according to the posters on here her family will be popping the champagne corks, thrilled and happy with the relationship

Your wish is our command, DrinkFeckArseGirls!

Katty, you are going to have to do a lot of growing up.

When I met DH he was 25 and his dad, 48, was living with a woman who was 22, younger than me! They had a child and got married. They stayed married for 20 years, much longer than DHs mum and dad were together.

It isn't horrid, disgusting, disrespectful etc. It's just your dad, doing what he wants with his life.

You only have 2 choices. Accept it and maintain a good relationship with your dad, or try and throw your weight around and lose that relationship.

It really isn't any of your business!

Still

Now I'd like a Maserati, West End properties bought to let and Peter Capaldi and Michael Sheen to alternatively shag me Will it take ling, Iona? Oh and throw in an all-inclusive in Bali or somesuch.

Sorry but Katty has a different perspective than just an age gap. She is his still his relatively young daughter.Sorry Nomama but that way different to being one step removed to the relationship as you were.
To me it's not not Katty that should grow up but her Dad.

And of course it's her business. What if they go on to start a family?
She might not be able to do anything about it but I for one wouldn't be happy with a half sibling 25 years younger than me brought up by a mum younger than me. Chances of that working out smoothly would be nil I'd say (based on experience.)

^ I agree totally with revealall

revealall her dad needs to grow up? Seriously! All he did was find someone he loves...what's not grown up about that!?

It's her business in that he's her father and she's entitled to feel anything she likes about his love life, in this case uncomfortable that he's seeing a woman younger than his daughter. But it's not her business to the extent that she can feel her opinions should influence him to break up with her.

'I for one wouldn't be happy with a half sibling 25 years younger than me brought up by a mum younger than me.'

So what would you do, refuse to share your toys? Grow up.

revealall and how do you think my DH coped, or his 2 younger siblings?

Don't be daft, I didn't have anything to do with it at all... but my DH had to. And your 'what if...?' is exactly the situation they found themselves in... as I have said. Their youngest sister is 28 years younger than DH.

It didn't hurt anyone. No one had to cry, feel pushed out, unloved or, as katty seems to be, embarrassed. They just got their heads around the reality... their dad was shacked up with a much younger woman! His life, his choice.

And in his experience, they had 20 years of happily married life. So in my experience, it has every chance of working!

Katty, take a deep breath. You can't change it, it is happening. But you must change how you see it/react to it, or your relationship with your dad will suffer. How he gets on with his young girlfriend is his business. You have no part of that.

I agree! But it could be worse - my dad has a gf he is 3 years younger than me and 5 years younger than my sister. The worst part is that can basically stopped talking to us, he accepted her children and has absolutely no interest in what is happening in our life. My sister laughed when I told her this (I discovered it first, unfortunately), but now she is really frustrated as she got her baby and it seems my father doesn't care about it at all.

Bloody hell Nale this thread is over 6 years old!

You poor thing, how hard, id struggle with that too.

Well, I've just found it and my situation is bloody new so...

ha, dp is 14 years older than me (not the same i am older than his children!!) but i am certainly not with him for his money (i bleeding wish!)

You cant tell him what to do - you can dislike it but at the end of the day its up to him!

oh ffs! old thread!

I love MN ,but it really makes me laugh how we get a completely different answer on any particular day .Only the other day we were to be "repulsed " by middle aged men lusting after young girls! I think it is a fairly large age gap TBH, and YANBU to feel uncomfortable about it! It may blow itself out of course .In the meantime just maybe get to know her a little ,and see how you get on with her .Dad is probably flattered to have such a young GF !

My DM married a man 5 years younger than me, that was weird.

? have a baby and insist on calling her granny?!

There is no fool like an old fool. You asked what she sees in him. Money perhaps? That’s usually a big reason. No young woman is chasing after Middle Aged men for their personality. Usually it’s financial security and the appeal of the older man being experienced.

You of course can tell your father how you feel. It’s weird and I personally find it disgusting that he’s dating someone younger than his child. But it’s common behaviour for
Middle aged men.

That being said. Your father is an adult and maybe this relationship won’t last so maybe you are getting upset for nothing. Maybe he has some fun and gets the feeling of recapturing his youth and then the young woman finds a man her own age and leaves him. You don’t know.. maybe they stay together. This can also happen.

This is likely a midlife crisis and yes some men date younger women. You can tell your father how you feel, but I don’t think he is going to leave his girlfriend.

It can’t hurt to let your father know how you as his daughter feel about this. Keep in mind he doesn’t have to dump her based on that.

None of your business really.

Perhaps he hasn't found the right partner yet because he is searching amongst his daughters peers. There is nothing like an old fool.