please give me the strength to leave him...

[bobbyelle17]

my boyfriend treats me ( I think but maybe I'm overreacting ) really badly he upsets me most days but still I'm with him hanging on for the days hes nice, which there are a few but I cant seem to find the strength to leave him as I do love him
I dont really know what I'm looking for on here as I know everyone will say leave him just like that but its hard so just someone to talk to I guess
any advice would be great thanks

Yay! Well done you.
More sensible people will help you with the boss, but I am soooooo impressed you have not contacted STBXBF!

BOBBYPOWER!

Don't give your boss any more written ammo. Sounds a v dangerous thing to do.

Well done on not replying to FW (Fuckwit, as we on the EA thread call these kinds of people)

Hi there Bobby,

Please allow me to join your cheerleaders! I'll be going to bed soon I'm afraid, but just keep checking back, the night shift brigade will be along shortly!

Just to echo everyone else, stay strong, you need to get out of this relationship, for your sake, and for your kids. I was in a bad relationship for over 4 years, so I know how hard it is to get out, but trust me you will look back on this time and be happy you did it.

You deserve better,don't give into his " kind " words now, as soon as you allow him back into your life, he will go back to his old ways!dontbe tempted to think he will change.

It gets easier. Hang in there

Thank you all :) I fell asleep on the sofa watching a boxset on sky...I have a couple of missed calls and a msg but it didnt take any effort to ignore them as I was asleep lol

Hi bobby I have a book recommendation for you - it's called A Woman In Your Own Right here

Please get hold of it if you can and have a read. It's a book that's often suggested on here and I read it when I was very young and it really helped me.

I think you try hard to please people and put aside your own feelings - then when they don't reciprocate, or treat you badly, you (understandably) feel very angry or hurt. This book is about how to stand up for yourself and not put up with poor treatment, but in a calm, confident way that really works.

Again I should stress that doesn't mean your behaviour has caused anyone to treat you badly – that's their responsibility. But you can learn how to be someone who just doesn't accept that kind of treatment.

Hope things are going well today.

hi all I haven't been on here much the past couple of days I'm just trying to make sense of everything....still not sure how I feel...ive told him I will talk to him once I get my head straight...just to stop the constant msgs and calls and to get him off my back for a bit...

Good - you've no need actually to speak to him, of course - just cos you said you would. I see he doesn't like it now the balance of power in the relationship has shifted but make no mistake - as soon as you appear to be interested again he'll revert straight back to his previous behaviour.

Have you had any luck finding the book that ZoomZoom recommended? Less than a fiver for the Kindle edition.

hi I havent got a kindle...I will have a look for the old fashioned paper version on amazon though...then I can read it in the bath too :) lol

Can you block him?

Well done on putting your foot down. :)

You can use a Kindle app on your phone, tablet or PC. You don't need an actual Kindle :)