Thoughts on this fuck buddy?

[DarwinianLoser]

I have a work-colleague FB that I've been sleeping with for a few weeks now (once a week). On one hand he obeys the fuck-buddy 'rules' with regard to intimacy (no romantic texts, sometimes will go for days without contact, says I can have sex with other people, etc) yet on the other hand he does the following: holds my hand - fingers entwined (always initiated by him), chivalrous acts like holding doors open, paying for all drinks and meals, paying me compliments, helping me with things, regular texts.

I'm confused by these mixed-signals, and - I confess - I'm new to this FB lark.

What on earth is the deal here?

if

Great post

Agree with if completely.

Just to add, I truly believe that if you were happy (on your own, not in your marriage) you would be a happier mother.

Secondly, your children are still so young - many friends of mine (particularly 'career-women') have found these early years difficult and unrewarding. However, they have come into their own as mothers as the children have got older.

The deal is - you're having an affair. FB is just a vile term for an old fashioned bit-on-the-side.

Do the honourable thing and release your DH from your marriage. It's clearly suiting neither of you. If he doesn't want sex, that's actually his right. It's his body.

Ok so this is like 2 years on, but nevertheless i have to agree with kaneda on this one, i really dont get this fb thing at all.
Any decent guy is not a machine that you simply slot in a couple of batteries and away you go !
Part of the enjoyment for me is knowing i have pleased my partner, it simply is not possible for some guys to treat their sexual partner as nothing more than a piece of meat !
You notice i do say some..? Because there are obviously men from the other end of the scale, that can be quite abusive & in so.e cases rapists.
I slept with a long time friend once & this was a big mistake for both of us simply because, while she was a very good friend, there wasn't enough emotional commitment from either of us and so sex was basically very clinical / mechanical and very unsatisfying. This is the very same reason why i have never been with a prostitute !
If all you really want is just a damn good fuck then my advice to you would be to learn how best to pleasure yourself, whenever & wherever you want, and stop following this ridiculous ladish culture.
Remember, at the end of the day you are a woman, so don't be surprised when you find a guy that wants to treat you as such !

Zombie!

I have a lovely fuck buddy. I'm 48 and he's 10 years younger. He's just paid me a visit today and I'm smiling from ear to ear. I am divorced and tbh not really looking for anything serious or another quasi marriage situation. He's a kind and quite sensitive guy and we enjoy each other's company and the sex is absolutely amazing. Which is great because I have always had a very high sex drive and need to have someone who can provide that. I think sometimes these things can work really well. It just depends what you want. I like the honesty and simplicity of it. If I meet someone and fall in love then fine, but in my experience sex just dies in long term relationships and I'm at a point in my life where I don't really want to be tied down anymore and am enjoying my independence. Having a younger and very sexy guy who pops over happily whenever I need a good seeing to suits me just fine and he seems to be enjoying it because we are very sexually compatible. Don't knock fuck buddies. Sex is a physical need after all and I think it works with us because I really like him as a person. But I don't necessarily want him here when I'm making my kids' tea and settling down to watch Corrie. If you've done the whole marriage thing and have come to value your hard won independence then this arrangement can work quite well.

I need some advice on a my friends affair (FB)

Zombie

I know this is from 2015, if the OP was still around I was wondering if everything worked out for her in the end?