HOBBITS BAR - still finding it hard to move on ......(part 3)

[greenberet]

here we go ladies & drifting dogs welcome too of the harvey kind!

grab your drinks - , and izzietinis dependant on time of day & how we are feeling

Original thread

Part two

anyone welcome, new, old, lurkers we share with you all.
no requirements re posting as & when, one offs, rants, extreme rants, blubbing we dont mind, we've done it all .

we like songs, we like pics, we like humour, we like the words "twunts" and "fuckwittery" & we send each other often!

Our motto KOKO and our theme tune

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By the way, I am totally happy for someone to carry on the new thread, what would we do without each other for support? Whether financial, legal, or just a hand to hold or a shoulder to cry on. We need to carry on and follow through to the end for all of us, good or bad, happy or sad, rich or poor. We have a common bond between us all, we did not deserve this treatment, this callous rejection, how dare they think they can walk all over us and abandon our children?

We will overcome their fuckwittery, we will get angry, we will be clever, we will be clued up legal wise, we can do it, xx KOKO all.

Go me YEY !

iwas the deal with Sid re card is the same as with Fatty Bucker. ie no sex, no contact, he pays the bill .....

No he doesn't look like Onslow. But his stomach now starts under his tits. When I find a picture that resembles him, I will post. I can't think of anyone who resembles him. Actually, what's the name of that Grim Reaper man? I don't know why I want to know, as I now feel queasy thinking about that pic.....

Hello Hobbit. He's that alright, as you say they all are! How can he not want to contact his sons, I am sorry that must be hard for all of you. x

Izzie yes the same goes for you. They really are selfish, insensitive bastards. x

Absolutely, Hobbit, we must keep this thread going. So if you're happy to pass it to Green again, that suits me. If you're sure you don't want to do it yourself? Both of you have my vote in equal measure xx

Izzie if it doesn't involve sex Sid won't be interested. You might get away with smutty innuendo if he thinks he'll get somewhere at some point. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news!

That's a lovely mental image of Fatty, thank you. Do you want to think of anyone that resembles him! one sounds bad enough Sid is skinny and hasn't got an ounce of fat on him bastard Henry Jones in Vertigo is what you are desperate to look at again!

iwas mine is a coward. Can't face being told off my his son, so goes and hides until he thinks it's all forgotten. Pathetic. And naive.

Yes definitely need to keep the thread going. Hobbit and Green have both done great threads so you would both get my vote too. x

My my there are a few wits on here tonight and some quite positive thinking

Izzie yes my stbx has a pension, but it is not a final salary one. i'm not sure if I could start paying into a pension at this point, then say i need more to live on - a question for the experts I think.

There are accounts packages you can tap receipts/bank statements into, which will then create reports. As i said sometime before I have been doing this for a while now and it has come in very handy. I use Quicken (now Quickbooks I think) before, then had to convert to iBank when I got a Mac. There also used to be Microsoft Money which came free.

Fuckit good luck at work tomorrow - just remember, it's money! I remember when I started back, at the end of the first day i thought "that's a tank of petrol", then the 2nd day, that's DDs deposit for her school trip and so on...

Re loading on the phone, I have MN saved in favourites, then go straight to threads I'm on, press through to this thread, which then only downloads the last messages, not all of them. My phone wouldn't cope - it's only payg and nothing special

I second Izzie as starting the next thread (if Hobbit/green don't mind).

Perhaps at the beginning (if we're happy to) we each put on a brief synopsis of "us" - makes it easier to keep up with where we're all at (mediation/court etc).

Then we could fill up the rest of this thread with...I don't know....pics of our twunts? what we call them? Bit of a free for all?

Fatty, very sensitive about his weight gain. Now I don't mind a man with a a paunch, but this was a bit too much. And being the observant bitch person that I am, I just felt I had to comment on it to him. Well, not exactly, I just asked if he had been to the gym! He didn't take it too well. However, I did notice later that when he was standing up, he rested his hands on his bump, like pregnant women do. Haha

Sid and smutty innuendo. Well, as long as I have an easy exit, I could actually get to meet this charmer I've heard so much about. I could ask him if he's ever fancied living in a commune and eating beans. And if he thinks sideburns will ever become fashionable again.....and of course what it's like being the "fucking boss"......yes, as long as I'm safe....I'm booking my ticket now. See you soon!

It's months for number one son, 3 I think, tbh he isn't bothered if he has no contact at all, number two son about three weeks, just a text, hasn't asked about his counselling or anything pertaining to his eating disorder, he's such a twat.

I remember you posting the other day about how you were enjoying the 'single' life, can I just agree totally with you on that, I don't miss him and I don't want him back, if I could live our lives ( me and the boys) exactly as they are now I would be perfectly happy.

But unfortunately in divorce it dosent happen like that, the joint account will go, and the house will,have to be sold, and our lives will not be as comfortable as they have been, BUT, and it is a big but, we will not be walking on eggshells around him, trying to keep him happy, listening to him droning on about fucking cycling like a broken record and feigning interest, putting up with the snoring and the farting and the being a PITA, so, swings and roundabouts and all that jazz, money isn't everything, but it is useful to have enough to live on.

Sorry, couldn't resist Hobbit

Perhaps at the beginning (if we're happy to) we each put on a brief synopsis of "us" - makes it easier to keep up with where we're all at (mediation/court etc)

Yes, I like that idea. Background and current position

And pics. Yes!

But I don't want to start the thread. I'm very pleased that I named it Hobbit's Bar. That is my enduring contribution. But I really don't want to.

Totally agree, Hobbit. I'm definitely hoping that the stress and weight Fat Twat is under may trigger something fatal before financial agreement!

Bobs

Bobs that's a good idea about the new thread.

Izzie resting his hands on his bump - yuk!

It was seeds in the commune rather than beans pedant Sid doesn't do fashion it's fairly obvious too I do hope you are not taking the mick out of the charmer! I should set you, Font and AF on him!!

Hobbit that is horrible. You would think that even if they leave they should still want to be decent parents. Hopefully the twunt might end up in a picture like Bob's soon.

I hope you manage to get the settlement that you deserve. x

Just seen the time, so much for an early night! Off to cough my head off in bed now. Hope everyone has a decent day tomorrow.

Izzie resting his hands on his bump - yuk

More gross than that was a man I had to talk to years ago at work. He was really fat, not an issue. But he sweated profusely, and kept wiping is sweaty forehead with his handkerchief. I'm retching, just thinking about it. Urgh,

Way late for me too. Night all xxx

I don't mind being landlady for a while as I am less consumed by fuckwittery these days. I still think I belong here in some ways as the legal side is over but I can now mourn the loss and try to move on.

That way I can nag you all on things...you know being 'mother' and all..

YEY! Mothers back! Wotcha cock? Been getting on with shit?

Oh if only Bobsmy love, I dream about that scenario

Flattening the fuckers! Not all cyclists obvs, just Fuckface and Bitchface.

Yey, like a bad smell me...always lingering!

Been up and down emotionally, which I hadn't braced myself for (daft, I know) but keeping busy trying to figure out my future. Bought a new car, which I picked up today. Got the house cleaned and all the paperwork filed away at long last. Bought a new laptop too! Had a friend visit this weekend so been gallivanting as well. Tomorrow I am going to continue packing up and selling to keep busy and get it done. Then I am off a Mckenzie friendly again. So at least I will be busy this week. It is baby steps, but I get there...

Hi all, clearly nearly at thread 4...sorry to diverge from Gambon, but eye contact? Why can none of them do that? Even sneery, superior OW in court the other day could stand there and insult me but couldn't look me in the eye. Husband will go to huge lengths to not actually look at me. Says a lot doesn't it?

Welcome back WWK or should you change to Mother now?
I think you'll always belong on these threads so you can be on our legal side!!! Having said that i would have thought you'd want to run a mile from all this shit now that yours is over.

Suggest we leave the last couple of posts for WWK to start another then.

Off to bed - will probably dream of fat sweaty men now just having read the last few posts - thanks guys

McKenzie friendly-ing me, amazing WWK...am almost excited :-)