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Arguing again

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Freeflying · 12/02/2015 19:40

I posted a couple of nights ago because I was feeling anxious after my partner had been angry with me. It has escalated from there and I don't even know what to do now, I am feeling scared and tired and it was just too much this time. It's like history repeating itself I was in an abusive relationship for 6 years before this one and i don't think I can do this.
I don't know what to do. I don't even know why I'm posting this, but I feel so scared and alone

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 14/02/2015 16:38

Keep the card because it is potentially evidence. Call the police and tell them he has been to the house to hand deliver it. He should not be within 10 miles of you at the moment. They need to know this.

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Freeflying · 14/02/2015 20:55

I just want to die now

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Freeflying · 14/02/2015 20:56

I mean, I know I can't and wont do anything because of Dd but I've had enough now

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Teaching123 · 14/02/2015 21:03

Freeflying you will get through this. I've been there with an awful man and situation in the past, I know how you feel.

Your daughter needs you to stay as strong as you can. Is there anyone IRL you can talk to?

I didn't want to leave you unanswered x

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Freeflying · 14/02/2015 21:05

Thank yiu, I don't really have friends anymore, none that I am close to. I feel sick and tired. Dd is sleeping now, but I just don't even know what to do

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Teaching123 · 14/02/2015 21:06

Can you go and lie with her? Whenever I feel alone and down I treat my DD to a night in my bed, sounds ridiculous but I just like being close to her sometimes.

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Freeflying · 14/02/2015 21:36

I would love to but she is ill and she's sleeping in my room in her cot I don't want to disturb her.

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Freeflying · 15/02/2015 00:16

He came to my flat, I am shaking I have been sick is anyone there I want to calm down

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onanotherday · 15/02/2015 00:31

I'm here, you must be very frightens. How long since he came over? Is there anyone in RL you can call? I know you find it hard, but please phone the police and report it. You are stronger than you know. Do it for you and dd. Xxxx keep talkng????

OnceisEnough · 15/02/2015 00:32

Yes. Sorry you're going through this. Were you able to keep him out, or did he actually come in? Do you want to talk about it, op?

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Freeflying · 15/02/2015 01:29

He came over he came in and I keep being sick I can't stop shaking

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ScotsWhaHae · 15/02/2015 01:35

Are you okay?

ilovelamp82 · 15/02/2015 02:17

Are you ok OP?

HelenaHB · 15/02/2015 03:15

I'm awake if you need to talk. Are you alright?

IDismyname · 15/02/2015 03:20

Free flying - bolt your door and ring the Police again. Be strong for your DDs sake.

How did he get in?

Smooshface · 15/02/2015 03:20

Hope you are ok xx I would tell police he came over again and try to make it so he can't come in? Is there a relative you can go to that isn't near?

MistressMerryWeather · 15/02/2015 03:23

I'm here too.

If he doesn't fuck off ring the police. You don't have to put up with this.

Is there anywhere you can go? Your family/friends?

onanotherday · 15/02/2015 11:05

Are you OK? Flowers

CogitoErgoSometimes · 15/02/2015 12:28

That's a worrying final post. I hope he left again OP and I hope you notified the police.

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Freeflying · 15/02/2015 14:06

I'm at home now. I went to the police and the hospital last night

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tipsytrifle · 15/02/2015 14:31

Just reading your thread Free and wondering how you are today. Sounds like he attacked you again? Does this abusing rapist have a key to your home? Is there anyway you could get the locks changed? Perhaps the police could advise on this. Perhaps he will be arrested today which would also give you a break. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Good on you for going to the police and hospital though!

CogitoErgoSometimes · 15/02/2015 14:56

Glad you're getting support and medical treatment.

ilovelamp82 · 15/02/2015 15:10

I'm glad you went to the police. Do you have anybody with you or that could be with you?

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Freeflying · 15/02/2015 22:49

I just feel sick and I want him back I am scared

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Scarletbanner · 15/02/2015 22:56

Don't give up, Free. You're stronger than you think.