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Dear VNXH

502 replies

WellWhoKnew · 11/02/2015 15:55

Dear VNXH,

I am pondering about pondersome things. What are you doing, I ponder?

The SHL is contemplating the latest bit of fuckwittery from a legaltastic viewpoint.

I merely remain navel gaze in a reflective sort of manner. My mind continually mulls over and over, in a ruminatory sort of manner.

I am pleased to report that fuck all has happened to day except I got on with some shit.

Woman, thoughtful.

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stabbypokey · 17/03/2015 14:00

I have followed your story from the beginning, I can't imagine how relieved you must be feeling. Once you clamber out of your bucket of Gin, it would be interesting to know if he got away with anything. Did his behaviour have any positive effect for him. Or did he just waste money and time and you got what you wanted anyway?

Anniegetyourgun · 17/03/2015 14:00

... or more appropriately in this situation, get out!

CunningCat · 17/03/2015 14:01

WineWine cheers!!!

shadowfax07 · 17/03/2015 14:03

Congratulations, WWK!FlowersWine

piggychops · 17/03/2015 14:04

Finally delurking to say congratulations. What a journey! What a battle!

Holdthepage · 17/03/2015 14:05
Wine
TheFormidableMrsC · 17/03/2015 14:07

I don't think WWK will mind me posting to say we have just got off the phone...and she will be here soonish...she is utterly blinding, that is all I will say Grin.

smoothieooo · 17/03/2015 14:09

Huge congratulations. I imagine you're feeling all manner of things at the moment, relief only being part of it. Fingers crossed you came away with everything you wanted and more Flowers

Didactylos · 17/03/2015 14:10

congratulations WWK, cant wait for your update
I am sure you walked away with all the available kudos and dignity too

Fooshufflewickbannanapants · 17/03/2015 14:11

Woooo hoooo go WWK!! congratulations!!! You are an inspiration.

MsIngaFewmarbles · 17/03/2015 14:12

Amazing, congratulations Flowers

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 17/03/2015 14:13

Oo yes, love the Shamrock - the luck of the Irish was with you today, I hope, WWK!

Thanks to MrsC for interim updates too ThanksDaffodilShamrockDragon

EatSleepSwimRepeat · 17/03/2015 14:15

Delurking to say massive congratulations WWK!

WellWhoKnew · 17/03/2015 14:16

The following is pre-written prior to knowing the outcome of today. But I thought it worth setting the scene...

And so, if the following makes absolutely no sense to you whatsoever – put it down to the gin. Alternatively, scroll up the Dear NSTBXH thread to Jan 12th, to NEWS BLACKOUT, and the posts I have started posting below carry on the story of that day, to entertain you, whilst I find the corkscrew, wine glass, get changed and do all the other things one must do when arriving home from a busy day...in which everyone else does the work!

And so whilst I type out the final, final hearing, I thought you’d all like to know a little more of the shenanigans of the afternoon of January 12th. The following posts are pre-written, as I've said, lost when I accidentally detonated my shiny new laptop a few weeks ago, and since re-written to keep you amused whilst I calm down and think about what I can say about today.

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Charlesroi · 17/03/2015 14:19

Oh this sounds promising. Thanks TheFormidableMrsC

And thank feck that's over. I'd imagine the village will be advertising for a new idiot and throwing a party.

Mmmbacon · 17/03/2015 14:19

Dear wwk, massive congratulations, may you always remember your divorce came on st Patrick's Day, so he didn't just drive the snakes out of Ireland, he helped drive that snake of a husband out of your life too

zimbomaman · 17/03/2015 14:21

An XH! How wonderful for you Grin. Looking forward to the News Black Out updates and sending more gin.

IthoughtATMwasacashpoint · 17/03/2015 14:22

A selection of gins for you.

Dear VNXH
WellWhoKnew · 17/03/2015 14:25

And so, here were are, in which I finally get to submit the NEWS BLACKIN: the remaining narrative which had to be prematurely terminated in a most unbecoming of manner on the day of January 12th.

The matter of Evil Queen WWK v Mr Snowy Whitey resumed post lunch on a cold but dry January’s day. Of particular interest in the case were a
number of matters.

Firstly, why the fuck Mr Snowy Whitey could not spell his own name on Form E v.4?

Secondly, why the hell, Mr Snowy Whitey, could not put his signature on any of the legal documents, on the line below the ‘I declare this to be my statement of truth’?

Upon his arrival in the witness box: GG ordered MrSW to choose between ‘swearing or affirming’. I was quite surprised he has found God in the months he’s been away. Quite surprised.

But, despite his sudden divine inspiration, his current counsel, Ms CC, had him undertake this pledge verbally for every single fucking document he was submitting to court. This took around 20 minutes because MsCC did not have the court bundles in front of her due to an ‘administrative error’ by ‘shs’ and thereby forcing CC to rely on her ‘learned friend’, SHB, to find the different places in the court files for her, and to direct the GG accordingly.

Let’s just put that down to an act of God.

And then, finally, with the administration taken care of she began to lead him through his ‘evidence in chief’, which I now know, is the legaltastism for ‘friendly questioning’ to ensure one’s case is fairly and very fairly presented to the judge in order to present their client in the best possible light.

She began with the opening words...

“I’d like you to help us with the position here...”

I felt an immediate urge to put my hand up and fidget in an ‘I need a pee urgently manner’ declaring loudly: “me, I know, Miss, me, me, ask me, I know, really, I know the answer to this question, Miss, me, me, me...

But alas it is silence in the court!

Stupid court.

And what was doubly frustrating: MrSW never fucking shut up through most of my testimony

That’s not fair, I think, in a manner most petulant.

So I doodled shit instead on my legal pad.

I can’t draw as well as I write. Fact.

...”What exactly is happening with financial investment A?” enquired MsCC

Whereupon, MrSW decided to tell the fucking truth, which was “I’ve got rid of it”.

Now, you being nothing like me, might wonder whereupon it has gone.

But I was busy doodling so wasn’t really pondering uponwhere gone it. I was concentrating on my drawing like a good little WWK.

Transpires, CC didn’t give a shit either.

Next question. “Do you have a job?”

Yes. Then he bored the court to near death.

Sadly, he didn’t succeed. Fortunately he didn’t succeed. Depends on your perspective. My perspective means I’d make a shit court artist.

Thereupon, she asked him “Why did your marriage fail?”

By the time he’d finished, I was nigh on ready to apologise to all of the people for all of the ills of the world.

[World: I’m really, nearly very sorry – it’s all my fault that one day, you had a shit day. I am most definitely the person to blame – but I’m still too busy doing fancy artwork to apologise properly, although I did register the thought: guess his legal team haven’t told him not to sound vengeful and blamey]

But he finished his speech by justifying reckless and wanton expenditure during the marriage, which yours truly had had to calculate moons ago, by saying I drove him to it.

If I recall, I was a shit driver in those days. So shit, he decreed, I must never drive a car. But hey ho.

It was, he said, most emphatically, all my fault that he broke the marital vow to forsake all others time and time and time again.

With women who cost a lot more than my SM! And probably still do.

Thereupon, CC decided she too needed the loo – and sat down and said ‘nothing further sir’.

I MEAN WHAT THE FUCK????

That spoiled my court masterpiece. I was just contemplating colours too.

But what was pissing me off most at that moment in time was that CC had spent a grand total of 35 minutes with him sitting backside breaking in that fucking hideous “witness” box.

Whereas I had sat for over an hour and half giving my evidence in chief!
Seriously, you’d think it was me who’d done something so terrible in this marriage!

Oh, yeah. Let’s gloss over that thought and get back to doodling.

But, hang on, that 35 minutes, and that alone, struck me as the most unfair thing at that moment of time.

I needed, and still do, need justice to be fair. And seen to be fair. I needed to see that man in the witness box for a helluva lot longer than I was confined to it.

If only CC had enquired about his health...

...but I think it’s fair to say we’ve all had full and frank disclosure of that.

And with that, SHB, took it upon herself to ask a question or two.

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sadwidow28 · 17/03/2015 14:26

Oh Wowzer! I don't know why I thought that MrSW would pull another cat out of the bag today, but I have had the dog in 'Rotweiller-mode' today in case said cat-out-of-the-bag needed chasing and killing

Congratulations you formidable, inspirational woman! May you have peace in your life from hereonin!

sadwidow28 · 17/03/2015 14:33

I hope Part 2 hasn't drifted down the gin bottle! We are waiting WWK......

mineallmine · 17/03/2015 14:33

O keep going....

Fooshufflewickbannanapants · 17/03/2015 14:34

My refresh button will be worn out!! Off to do school run now, gaaaah!!

Pom poms still a waving x

WellWhoKnew · 17/03/2015 14:36

So, SHB, an accomplished and dedicated barrister decided that it’s always best to start at the beginning.

So, directed him to open up his Form E. At page one.

You know, or perhaps not, that the first page is where you put down your personal information. Like your name. She asked him if it was correctly spelt.

Transpires it wasn’t.

“So”, she said, coming to page two – “let’s have a little look at that page”.

It was fine, he agreed.

Missing a child or two. But otherwise fine.

And so this laborious exercise continued, with MrSW looking increasingly proud of himself for getting so much correct in his form. Honestly, you’d think he was the class swot. So good was he, rapid progress was made through section one of Form E.

Next up. Section 2. Topic: Financial disclosure.

“Would you mind, awfully, declaring whether these are all your bank accounts?” SHB asked at her most sweetest.

Yup.

And then fury was unleashed.

There was no blood but it was dramatic.

[Told you she’s fucking scary once she gets going...]

But he’s shit at maths it transpires. She didn’t point it out.

GG did though.

“Next”, back SHB returned to that lovely, calm, polite and sweet manner: “would you mind commenting on this amount you have listed here as the value of investment B?”

“Um, that’s NOT RIGHT” he declared with such righteous indignation! “That figure is totally incorrect!” He added for emphasis.

Even I stopped doodling. No stomach for drawing bloodbaths...

“Explain” she ordered.

“It’s my financial advisor’s fault”. He declared.

Back to doodling. Same old shit, different day.

“Yes, let’s look at this evidence... who the fuck is Alice?” SHB didn’t quite ask.

Transpires he didn’t know who Alice was neither. Nor why, seemingly, we have her investment details (bless: she’s not doing as well as she thinks she is).

But at least we know who is to blame on this occasion. And it’s not me!

“I’m just wondering whether this document [exhibiting a beautiful work of art to further wind up the crap doodler known as WWK] has been manipulated?” SHB pondered, drawing his attention to the fact that it was the same document, but submitted in a different way, and from which Alice will be quite upset to know she’s been omitted from over time...

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AcrossthePond55 · 17/03/2015 14:37

FREE AT LAST, FREE AT LAST. THANK GOD ALMIGHTY, WWK IS FREE AT LAST!!!!!