Wow I've just ploughed through all 18 pages of this thread and what a journey you've been on confused.
You've had some great support on here and you are doing just great.
It's really hard to wean yourself off someone but it can be done.
He's the star of his own show isn't he? Charmed the pants off you in the beginning but now he gives you his dregs because in his mind you are worth only a minimum bit off effort. A bit like the plate spinner. He sees one drooping at the other side of the room , dashes over gives it a quick spin....and then he's off again.
You know you are worth more than that. Don't you? He hasn't had to put a lot of effort in with you because you've been tied with your daughter.
How convenient for him. Otherwise he might have had to put more effort in. Take you out on proper dates. Weekends away etc . All the nice things that happen at the beginning of a relationship.
He doesn't like it when you go cold on him. He's selfish and insecure and he's sucking you dry.
You won't get any answers from. He's not interested in how you feel.
Just go NC with him. Don't even tell him it's over. Ignore everything. Change your number. You'll never get anything back from this excuse for a man.
You know if you pick a scab it takes a long time to heal. Every time you answer a txt or a call you are putting your healing back to the beginning again.
Cry your tears. You aren't in a good place right now but you know what tomorrow your life could change in a heartbeat.
I was in the bad place you are in but I slowly began to crawl out that hole and realised that even if he came crawling back naked pushing a peanut with the end of his nose I still wouldn't have him back. You too will get to that place.
Remember this
No man is worth your tears.
And a good man won't make you cry .
You're going to be just fine. Do keep posting ;-)