Don't know how much longer I can carry on like this.

[messyoldmess]

I made the tough decision to end my marriage around 5 months ago.
My H had temper & control issues & I tried everything I could to make things better, but nothing worked & I finally accepted that we needed to go our seperate ways.
H seemed to go along with it all at the time & told me he was moving in with a friend in a couple of weeks. It never happened, as H came up with lots of silly excuses as to why it was not sensible. He said he would not leave until our house sold.
We are now nearly 5 months down the line & I feel we are in limbo land. Nothing seems to have moved on & he is still getting to me.
Our house has not sold & I am starting to go out of my mind.
I have had a few people suggest I look into renting somewhere, but I don't know if that would affect my position re the house & divorce etc.
I can't carry on like this for much longer.

I think MoM will be in touch with people she 'knows' by e mail - she doesn't want to lose touch, I don't think...

Oh I'm glad that messy will still be in touch with people. It can be exceptionally lonley trying to deal with all the practical side of a divorce and then coping with the whirling burling emotions that are going on inside! But I do feel more relieved at your post BLU so hopefully she'll stay in touch with those she feels close to.

Well will I have to suffer the ex-in-laws wanting to visit this year! His sister informed me the other day she feels sorry for ex DH! I informed her that as he was found guilty of assult and battery, and criminal damage! That strangly enough my sympathy has kind of died with the love I once had for DH!! Doesn't stop her wanting to fix up for ex-DH to see DD as she feels he should!! He doesn't want to see DD, I think leave well alone?! Haven't WE me and DD been through enough this year without the ex-sister-in-law deciding she wants me and EX DH to play happy families!!! Am I being selfish but I'm perfectly happy he doesn't want to see her he threatened her and seriously assulted me! I love her and have worked bloody hard to protect her! What is it with bloody Christmas does he suddenly become a pissing saint or something!

hi mom hope things getting better for you x

Hi fransmom, how sweet of you to think of me & find my old thread!
I am plodding along ok thanks. I actually started another thread just after Christmas, which I have now abandoned due to becoming rather embarrassed of the thread title!
House has sold & things are really starting to move on at long last, which has caused a few panics in itself, but I think that is fear of the unknown!
I started my counselling sessions on Thursday (apologising to my poor counsellor for getting me back for a third time!), which went well.
I told my counsellor about how much support I have received here on MN & she asked me for the web details, so she could pass it onto others who may benefit from a bit of online support!
I was thinking of coming back under a different guise, but I have already name changed quite enough for now & don't want people to think I'm suspect!
Anyway, lovely to hear from you & thank you for thinking of me.x

Great news that the house has sold, MoM. When do you move?

Hi scummy.
Don't know exactually when I'll move yet (am trying to chase up agents & find out what's going on with buyers), but know buyers are in a strong position (no chain) & I have viewed 3 houses so far, one of which is ideal but a tiny bit over my limit!
H has agreed to give me over 60% of the equity, which is good!

Oh bugger, I changed my name back to my regular one & didn't check before posting!! Oh well!

Anyway, yes, within the next couple of months I would say!

Hey Messy or P.C or whoever!?!
Thats great news re the house so glad really chuffed thats made my evening!!

I'm messy on these threads, as PC is my not too any issues name!!
Hope you're ok, BTC.

Sounds bonkers, I know, but I like to keep all this very separate IYKWIM?

Ooo, I didn't realise the house was sold. That's great... isn't it?

thats brill news mom congratulations!
hows you btc? sorry i've not asked efore i've not been too well myself tho getting better, up and down a bit i think. hope you're ok x

Hi guys sorry to hear your not too good fransmom.
I'm doing ok....having to work quite hard at it but feel as though I swimming rather than sinking which is an ok feeling.
Looking to return to work, so that should be good and dating as well which is good but a little strange so lets see what 2007 holds for us ehh Lists and packing tape in Messys case and don't lose the phone number you might need it later in the year!!
Fransmom I hope things are picking up for you also and you find life a little easier soon xx

hi btc glad you feel like you're swimming and not the other x

hope everyone else is ok too x