MoM - remember that you have been through a whole series of things that you were terrified of broaching with H. And although not pleasant, you have survived them all, and you will survive this one.
I completely understand the advice Zookeeper has given, and the legal function it fulfills - but in some ways, if you can do it, might it not be good to have some of the more extreme examplas put down in black and white? You know full well that this is going to be brandished to yours and his relatives, and if it gives a bit of a glimpse of what has gone on, it might be better than enabling him to divert all the blame, from all the family, on to you. 'see how ridiculous she is, divorcing me because ...x.y,z trival reasons!'. Tougher to do in some ways, but it might make you feel stronger in the long run. Not holding out any mad hope that your family would actually support you - but I would hate to see you go through this, looking at the divorce letter and, knowing you, perhaps coming to believe that you are in fact trivial. Because of course, you are not.
And if / when he kicks off, you can remind him that he admitted he had been a really nasty H to you.
You have nothing to be ashamed of, nothing to hide, I know a divorce proceeding isn't the judge and jury of you as a character, but I hate to think of you being bullied out of even telling the truth to a court as to why your marriage has failed.
Zookeepers info sounds really useful.
Stop fretting! There are 6 whole days between now and yu appointment on which you will NOT be in the appointment! Don't make me send you a nice relaxing scented candle, now! ()