support thread! Marriages in recovery!

[humanmagicmarker]

Hello all, I find myself trawling through the posts in this section looking for people in the same boat as me, but I can't find any!

So I've decided to build my own boat and see if anyone wants to join me

My marriage is in recovery after my husband had an affair six months ago, we are both trying very hard to make it work, as the affair was a symptom of the fact that we had drifted from one another (what's with all the boat-y metaphors today?) rather than a need to 'get out' on his part.

It is very hard to learn to trust again and rebuild this from the ground up, and it would be lovely to know if others are facing the same things.

so come join me and lets have a brew xxx

Hi I am new to this site and a few weeks ago would of counted my DH as one that doesn't cheat. And I would be interested to hear if you think he has cheated. I caught him using KIK and chatting to women and exchanging photos. I am not sure what has been said or the photos that have been sent as it all get deleted like snapchat. What I'm struggling with is, 2 months ago I accused him of having an affair as his behavior at work ( we run a business together) was weird, he denied it , a few weeks later I also suspected him again as he had every security device on is phone, photos , msgs, email all pass worded. Once again he denied anything was going on . Any way 2 weeks ago we had been out and had a great evening, when we got home he was being very shifty with his phone and my instincts where up again...he was amendment nothing was going on...blah blah blah . Anyway blow me 1am a message from some women comes through on his phone, I couldn't read it as it had a password on it...and I stupidity threw the phone at him and he processed to erase all of them. He has denied that he has ever met any of these women and I believe him ( we spend 24/7 together) but can we move on, will I ever be able to trust him again. Since this has happened I have found old emails that indicate he was talking to women way back in 2013.
When we met he was 20 and i was 31. He has had only ever had 1 other relationship. He is now 37 and I think part of him thinks 'what have i missed' We have been for counselling and he is devastated that I may leave him. Before this happened we had the most amazing relationship....we are best friends and still had sex around 4 times a week....so why did he need to do this ? That is my big question. We also have 2 beautiful Children who he loves with all his heart.
Sorry for the waffle !

Hello. Ive never really done this before i dont like to talk abouy my feelings. Anyway i just found out a few days ago that my wife of 6 years has been cheating on me with a guy she met on facebook. We have 2 daughters and i would desperatly like to work it out. Im just having a very hard time getting passed her leaving me with our babies while she woukd go to a hotel with this guy. She told me she was sorry and that she wishes she could take it all back but i dont know if im strong enough of a person to be able to forgive her.