I'm here, it's just been a busy and rather horrible day and I haven't had time to post.
I called Ofsted, they have suspended my registration with immediate effect, pending further investigation. They have to do this until they have spoken to the police and social services.
Yesterday, I called the police, to ask if any follow up could happen when my 6 year old was at school, rather than when he was in the house. Was told this would be okay, but at 7pm (when children were just finishing tea) two police officers came round.
Apparently, the officers who attended the incident wrote that I was "completely intoxicated", and have raised concerns about my ability to look after my own children. I am beyond gutted about this 
and I also don't think it was true! (For example, I would have been able to recognise the signs of an allergic reaction and administer the epipen, no matter how squiffy I appeared.)
I called social services this afternoon, but they haven't heard anything from the police yet. They are getting back to me. I am utterly terrified about this - but also think it will probably blow over to some extent because there is no way I am incapable of looking after my children, adn they are bound to realise that. Social Services aren't stupid, and I just hope they come round quickly so that aspect of it gets cleared up at least.
The police who turned up at 7pm yesterday just went on and on about how the officers had found me intoxicated. To be honest, I felt really judged. They defended the original officers' judgement without listening to me at all, I thought.
They asked if DH was likely to hit the children and I said no. They asked did I want him to be arrested and charged, and I said not really, because it would be so dreadful for the children. So they advised me not to make a statement, and I signed a notebook entry to say I didn't want any further action. The thing is, I didn't feel in a strong position, certainly didn't feel I could count on their support, because they were so fixated on how drunk they thought I had been at the time.
I said I was going to call social services and Ofsted, because I thought I should. The police officer said "stop ringing people, you need to talk to your husband".
DH is out at a sports match tonight. He says he is going to talk to the police and give his side of the story. He says that I need to take a good look at myself and understand how I interact with other people, and the kind of provocation I continually put him under. Because Ofsted are investigating, he says he is going to grab a bag and sleep in the car (nowhere else to go, we can't afford a hotel) and I think that's silly, there is no immediate risk of harm tonight and he will make himself ill just to score points - which will help nobody.
The local domestic violence people are calling me tomorrow, and I hope that then I can start to get some perspective and make some sense of all this.
Sorry this is long and rambly. I won't be back for a while because I need to finish tucking the children in bed.