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Pregnant and fallen for someone else - please help & don't judge

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Scarlettlou14 · 05/12/2014 14:28

Really need help with this one, I'm almost 7 months pregnant with my first child and I have a loving husband who works away from home for long periods of time, I love my husband very much but as I don't have much family around I'm on my own often.

recently I allowed the attentions of another man to get under my skin, he promised me the world and I genuinely genuinely believed he cared, against my better judgement we began sleeping together, it ended after a fews weeks and now I'm left feeling empty, I feel tremendous guilt for what I've done to my husband, I am disgusted with myself, Yet I feel like I've fallen for this other man who has made it clear though his actions that he goes not feel the same.

I feel the same hurt I would do in a breakup situation, I can't stop crying, it's been a difficult pregnancy with lots of problems. I am really hoping with all my heart this is just pregnancy hormones.

Any advice would be gratefully received.

please don't judge me, no body can make feel any worse than I do already xxxx

OP posts:
ThisFenceIsComfy · 08/12/2014 20:47

So if the new man had been less of a dick, would you have just continued the affair?

ThisFenceIsComfy · 08/12/2014 20:47

Were you planning on leaving your husband for him?

Scarlettlou14 · 08/12/2014 23:18

I'm going to leave this thread now.

I have a clear understanding of what went wrong in my marriage, what I need to change and how I'm going to achieve this, therefore continuing to read some of these comments will not help and will only upset me further.

You may not all agree with me but I am choosing to keep my family together for many different reasons, I am choosing to live with this guilt.

Thank you to everyone who truly offered help and advice :)

Much Love Scarlett xxx

OP posts:
simontowers2 · 08/12/2014 23:24

Question answered: yes.

DaisyFlowerChain · 09/12/2014 07:25

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BigCatFace · 09/12/2014 11:39

Fundamentally misunderstanding what affairs are. It's not a problem in the marriage. It's a problem in you. You'll do it again. Good luck.

rockup · 09/12/2014 13:31

How lovely that sone people had to get the boot in even after the OP had left the thread. Very sour indeed!

Coyoacan · 09/12/2014 15:41

How lovely that sone people had to get the boot in even after the OP had left the thread. Very sour indeed

Methinks they do protest too much. The only ex who ever hit me was also the one who was the most indignant about domestic violence.

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