When I got home it was bedlam in the house. Both kids were hysterical. My eldest wet the bed and apparently according to her the youngest got woken up by H shouting... this is not true according to H, however he seems to have no empathy or tolerance to the eldest, as in his words 'he doesn't know how to deal with her or connect with her' . It really isn't fair on anyone me leaving them to go out.
Plus he's just shouted at DD for dropping her beaker near him accidentally.
This meant that H had to put DD1 to bed, give her a bottle etc. I would get texts while at work telling me how difficult she was being, how she was crying and not taking the milk, won't settle, is distressed and so on. This led to me feeling so upset and worried while I was at work. I enjoyed the job but hated putting my DD through that ordeal each time.
I'm definitely going to try and ring women's aid tomorrow. Fingers crossed I can do it. ..If not for me then for my babies. I would die if they were ever in an abusive relationship.
Ugh GTBExH has just got up. He is so rude to DD1 all the time. Tells her to 'get off' or 'leave me alone' if she wants a cuddle. Tells her to 'shift', 'move' etc. Never please, or thank you. Never worded nicely. Everything is a barked order with zero patients. I've also noticed this morning that he doesn't let me set my own boundaries with her - he tells her and me how she should behave/interact with me, and gets annoyed if actually I am happy to have her do x, y or z.
Also he's just picking on everything DD1 does - finding fucking fault with everything.
I can't let my daughter go through this. It's not fair on her at all.
Oh I forgot! when I said I would not engage in a discussion while the kids are awake his response was 'so I'm meant to stress and worry all day and walk on eggshells'.
His needs come before the kids obviously
Just putting this here so I can re-read it when I ask him to go. Tonight we were having dinner. I was feeding DD2, and DD1 asked to go to the toilet. I asked GTBExH is he could take her. He said no not really as he was eating. I pointed out I was feeding DD2. So he huffs up and says to DD1 'for god sake, this is ridiculous', before taking her to the loo
Oh he also jokingly called both DD's retarded earlier as well... (he wasn't meaning it nastily - to him and his family it is an acceptable joke )
He has told DD1 that she is in a foul mood before bed, which is a lovely thing to tell your 3 year old...