Change yr name, make a confession!

[iamsomeoneelse]

A thread to get something deep and dark off your chest -- anonymously!

If you don't know how to change your name, go to the 'My Mumsnet' tab and go into the 'My Account' section, there you can enter any name you like. Then, just enter your usual password and click 'Save Changes' et voila! Instant new identity!

I'll get the ball rolling:

I really feel that there are some deep cracks forming in my marriage, and I have a horrible feeling that divorce may be on the horizon after 10+ years of marriage. Part of me is terrified by the effect this might have on my two DDs, but another part of me is quietly excited at the prospect of a new and different kind of relationship.

[Namechangerista]

My soon exH left me for another woman. We were ttc before I found out about her. In the turmoil of him leaving I didn’t realise I was pregnant. I didn’t look after myself, didn’t eat, drank wine, and I had a miscarriage. That’s how I found out I was pregnant because of the heavy bleeding. I am blaming myself everyday for having killed my baby. I am 36, maybe this was my only chance.

I haven’t told anyone about the miscarriage.

[Cricrichan]

Namechangerista - I don't realise I was pregnant and drank too much, didn't look after myself etc and the baby was fine. Lots of pregnancies end in miscarriage regardless of how careful you are.

[ChopsticksandChilliCrab]

Namechangerista

Be kind to yourself, wishing you strength

[Notrustanymore]

Mine isn't a massive problem in comparison but I hate myself for it.

With a guy for almost a year now. We got together very quickly after he split from his ex, and while it was great for the first few months it went down hill from there.

We argue a lot, name call a lot during arguments. I don't trust him anymore because of his ex because I found out after seeing the messages that he's still been talking to her since the beginning of our relationship, being basically a shoulder to cry on for her own relationship problems (with the guy she cheated on my boyfriend with). Now she's single and it's obvious she wants him back, she keeps asking to meet up to go over stuff or arrange a phone bill (they share a phone bill, dunno why that wasn't split before now). He hasn't agreed yet but I know he will eventually, can't stop him either. He used to talk about her a lot to friends until I asked him to stop it.

I've tried to break up with him a lot but he always manages to talk me out of it, but this just isn't a healthy relationship. I do love him and everything was fine until I saw those messages and now it's just not the same. I need to break up with him which sucks as he is perfect for me, but after previous shit relationships I have trust issues and this kind of thing is a big problem.

[Secretlives]

My DP is bi and cheated on me with a man. I have suspicions, but inconclusive proof, that there were more, possibly many more. I didn't want to be alone so I married him anyway and am getting long, drawn out revenge.

He only cares about money so I've spent all of his. He had tens of thousands in the bank earlier this year but I've spent pretty much all of it, or more accurately, got him to spend it.

I tell myself it's revenge but we're happy enough. I've even told him what I'm doing but he's too arrogant to believe me.

Probably as a reaction to the cheating, we had a phase of visiting a sex club. I've fucked several men in threesomes now.