It's my wedding night. I'm all alone.

[IsThisReallyHappening]

Today I got married.

This afternoon we arrived at our hotel to stay the night.

On arrival I checked my facebook to see some congratulation messages.

One message was not quite what I was expecting.

My 'husband' cheated on me 8 weeks ago.

I'm now sat here alone. On my wedding night. My 'husband' is gone.

I'm pregnant too.

I already have a child with him.

What the actual fuck has just happened to my life?

I feel trapped.

It would be unhappy if you were to put up with that cheating scum bag.

You are showing your kids how to have dignity and strength. You are showing them that YOU are the one that had loyalty. YOU are the one that stayed.

The unhappiness you are facing will pass and you will re-build your life and find true, honest happiness once more.

Annul this marriage.

Oh, you poor love. What an arsewipe and what a horrible way to find out :(

They will be fine, you will be to, you will. Even though it is as shit as it is tonight. You're strong, work hard, don't take shit, you'll get through this!

God how fucking awful :(

I just wanted to tell you not to worry about the hotel staff. Believe me, anyone whose works in the hotel business has seen much worse than a newly married couple splitting up.

Smiles' advice is fabulous I think

You poor , poor woman, what a shocker for you. Write off tonight and today as an absolutely sick joke then tomorrow you can start to sort this shit out whilst remembering all the time that none of it is your fault or choice.

Don't keep his secrets or that will eat you up, be strong and open and honest and in 14 days time this will be behind you. You can absolutely do this, you have no choice.

Annul/divorce - I cannot advise you. Others will know more, but essentially, to get best outcome for your children, see a solicitor ASAP.

Some excellent advice on this thread OP - so sorry you're going through this. Just remember you can always come here for support, whenever you need it. You sound very strong and your DCs are lucky to have you.

Can you say which city centre you're in? If you don't have friends nearby, I'm sure there would be some "vipers" nearby.

Even those days where you fling meals at them and spend time in your jamas becauses some of the best days

What started off as a coping method for me has become one of our favorite things to do. Jamas, takeaway and Christmas films with all the chocolate and popcorn we can stuff into ourselves.

These sad, overwhelming days change. They change toy our angry days, your driven daysm then they change again into your determination days, the days where you take steps you'd never thought you'd take, then, one day, you wake up and at some point, you realise just how much stronger you are, how much you have gone through and how much you have held it all together. You have a strength you never knew you had....and this get's you thinking, what else can I do?..you will start to make changes in all areas of your life..one day at a time.

You WILL get through this, because, I'm sorry to say, you haven't got a bloody choice about it. It's what you get out of it that matters. You can do this, you can get through this and get through this well. Just take one small sad day at a time.

I could cry for you just reading your thread- what a shit he is!!
You have done nothing wrong, hold your head high, there is no stigma on you.

You sound strong, even given the terrible shock you have had- it sounds like you have dodged a bullet but I appricate it won't feel like that now.

Take care OP, and be kind to yourself.xx

Oh op. I feel for you. You must feel shattered. I'm not the best with good advice but I'm thinking of you.

agree with everything that is been said. Get legal advise re. annulment sounds like it might be best for you.

My heart really goes out to you. They sound welcome to each other. What kind of a woman sends a message to another women on her wedding day.

If you want pizza have pizza.

You sound exhausted though. why not try and get a good nights sleep

So sorry to hear this
What a total and utter shit heap of a human he's been. You will get through this and you will be a better person and mother because of it.

Annul the fucker

This just feels like the biggest betrayal.

It's my birthday today. A big one.

Every year I will have this to remember on the day.

What a fucking horrific nightmare.

It's not just me who think's this is unforgivable is it?

Smiles you're my hero. Perfect advice though sadly it's obviously coming from a place of heartbreak like the OP. I hope you're happier now?

OP, stay strong, stay focussed on your next steps and protect yourself, your children and your emotions. Don't protect him for a moment, let those close to you know what's happened and let them support you.

You've gone quiet - I really hope you're OK.

Jesus Christ. This is horrendous.

I really feel for you. Stay where you are now and then, tomorrow, just walk out if the hotel. Presumably you gave card details when you booked in? If so, they'll just charge that if you didn't pay in advance

You will still have a happy home. In fact, it will be a lot happier without this wanker in it

Don't worry about divorce/annulments etc for the time being. You can get advice next week as to what you need to do.

Tell people the truth and let them support you. I would be horrified if one of my friends told me this and would never judge you he's a different matter

Sweetheart, it's beyond unforgivable. And you're not on your own in thinking so.

I am so sorry.

Hope your DD is okay.

No, I think it's unforgivable too. I can't imagine what you're going through right now.

Oh my God. I've just seen it's your birthday. Fucks sake

Are you sure you can't tell your mum. Honestly, I could cry at the thought if my little DD being in that situation. She might surprise you....

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get it annulled. your dignity is intact.

I'm SURE any one of your friends would come and get you. I'd drive a hundred miles to pick up a friend in a similar situation. Reach out and tell one of them please. Your 'husband' is a massive asshole.

I hope you're alright and calming down a little. You've been on your own before and you can do it again. Keep talking here and do whatever you need to. Hugs.

Yes. Absolutely agree with pippin. I would definitely go and help anyone in that situation or send DH to pick up.

Ps - are you sure that your "husband" hasn't taken the car? Get a taxi tomorrow to wherever it is with the bags and then the taxi can take you to the train station etc if needs be after.

Not sure where things are up to but de-activiate Facebook.

Leave all communications to real communication now.

Leave FB, it's liberating. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone.