It's my wedding night. I'm all alone.

[IsThisReallyHappening]

Today I got married.

This afternoon we arrived at our hotel to stay the night.

On arrival I checked my facebook to see some congratulation messages.

One message was not quite what I was expecting.

My 'husband' cheated on me 8 weeks ago.

I'm now sat here alone. On my wedding night. My 'husband' is gone.

I'm pregnant too.

I already have a child with him.

What the actual fuck has just happened to my life?

I feel trapped.

Massive hugs, OP.

What an utter utter bastard.

I'm gobsmacked. I'm sorry this has happened to you.

Thinking of you too xxx we are all here for you, keep talking if it helps

Oooh, I've got a really, really important question for you..

What flavour pizza are you having?

We are all thinking of you and sending lots of hugs. This kind of thing should not happen to anyone. You will get through this xx

Thank you so much for the messages. I'm crying over the messages now rather than that bastard.

It's a veggie pizza. My favourite - not everyone's cup of tea however!

I've got a beautiful cake here, made by MIL. I can't bring myself to eat it.

heyMcWay "Getting your marriage annulled might not be the best thing for you and your children. Legally you'll probably have more protection if you are married and go through the process of divorce."

Protection for what? She earns more, she bought the house. Your theory only works if the woman has less material goods and prospects than the man.

Luckily, OP, you have the means to make a life for yourself, unfettered by bastards like this.

As it happens I know a woman who was jilted on her wedding day...and a few years later what she has is a massive sense of relief, a great story to tell, and an ongoing sense of outrage and self sufficiency that has seen her life transformed.

A horrible, unimaginable shock - but you are bigger than your slithering coward of a man and the vicious desperate woman who did such a thing as to send such a message n such a day.

But in the end - you will be the winner.

All strength to you.

Sorry to read this. Bloody awful situation, can only offer sympathy. Other posters have probably already said this, but you have to be married for a whole year before you can divorce. So I'd go for the annulment ASAP in your situation.

Eat the cake if you want, nobody deserves beautiful cake right now more than you

PUNCH IT!

PUNCH THE CAKE IN TRUE MN STYLE!

Anyway, veggie pizza is nice. My two won't eat it so I don't get to have it often.

Which messages are making you cry? These ones or the FB ones?

Wonder if 3.5 hours is a record for the shortest marriage.

My life is a fucking joke!

Well, it feels like it right now!

Bloody hell OP, I'm so sorry to hear this

Mmmmm. I love veggie pizza. Hope it has mushrooms on it

All I can think is thank God you found out now. Yes - it is horrific and shit but imagine spending the rest of your life with that weasel.

OP, you definitely deserve the cake. Your MiL sounds reliable - she'll be reeling too.

You probably won't feel like seeing a solicitor tomorrow but you should write all this down and email it to your solicitor, if you have one.

Actually OP

Better knowing this 3 and half hours in then three and a half decades. Not that it helps you now.

You're bound to feel like you're a joke. Everything you thought you knew was a bloody lie. It's shit.

I bet you're thinking about what everyone else must be thinking and know knows what by now etc...aren't you? It's a public humiliation, but worse, because it's everyone you know...who's saying what and who to...etc...how long before everyone else knows etc...

It's bloody horrible. Knowing that everyone knows about your private life, at a time, when you don't want anyone to know anything. It's like you have no control over anything at all...

I think you've topped Britney - which is nice. Mind you, then she married a complete shitbag and was also probably left wondering why she hadn't trusted her instincts.

I'd be tempted to change your FB status to Single accompanied by a pic of the cake with the largest knife you can find sticking out of it. But this would be somewhat psychotic and rather hurtful to the poor old MIL. I would ask her to come and take it away tomorrow - you don't have to solve all of these problems yourself.

I think you will probably need to choose a different day to celebrate your birthday on. My mum does this, she has an 'official birthday' like the Queen.

I love veggie pizza with extra ham

What a bell-end.

I'd totally punch the shit out of the cake. Or eat it. Maybe both.

Then the pizza, then the mini bar. Tomorrow is another day, yes?

I can't offer any advice either, OP, but I don't think that your life is a joke, although I appreciate that you must feel that way right now.

Cut a slice of the cake, and then punch it! BTW, who paid for the room, you or him? If it's him, I'd be sorely tempted to order everything on room service,and then some.

Love the idea of having an official birthday, like the queen!

Or dont, it was your day and continues to be, every year you can celebrate the gift of finding out he was NOT the man you wanted to be married to.

blu I x posted with the op. She'd def be better off with an annulment given her current assets. Don't want him having a chance of getting his hands on her property.

And yes punch the bloody cake.

My poor babies, they deserve so much better. So so much

They'll have so much better. A life without a cheat in the household is better than a life with one. You'll make a happy home for your babies.

Better off with an annulment or she has to spend a year married to the bell-end.