It's my wedding night. I'm all alone.

[IsThisReallyHappening]

Today I got married.

This afternoon we arrived at our hotel to stay the night.

On arrival I checked my facebook to see some congratulation messages.

One message was not quite what I was expecting.

My 'husband' cheated on me 8 weeks ago.

I'm now sat here alone. On my wedding night. My 'husband' is gone.

I'm pregnant too.

I already have a child with him.

What the actual fuck has just happened to my life?

I feel trapped.

Thank you Frazzled. I don't know what the fuck to do. I feel stuck here, not wanting to go home, but not wanting to be here, or anywhere actually!

I would really appreciate some company tomorrow, we have the snot too.

OP you poor thing. Big hugs. Lots of support here for you.

Yep, get it annulled. You have done nothing wrong. The shame is on his shoulders and the outrage at his behaviour on yours. He has really wronged you and your children. How dare he do that!

Big hugs to you and wishing you much better in life because he simply doesn't deserve you. Turn it around, hold your head up high, know that he has scrapped the bottom of the barrel of lowly behaviour. With regard to dignity, any reasonable person is going to look upon your situation with empathy and look at his behaviour with disgust.

Do what you need to do to, go where you think you need to be- can you delete Facebook so you don't have to look at the messages? Do you have anyone in RL who can come over? You have done nothing wrong, you don't deserve this shit, what a horrible thing to happen I really feel for you. Agree with others ref legal advice- make sure you have all the options and do what is best for you and your children

Annulment will be much better for me. I earn more. The house is in my name.

What a mess. A giant fucking mess.

Why do I never trust my own instincts?

Getting your marriage annulled might not be the best thing for you and your children. Legally you'll probably have more protection if you are married and go through the process of divorce.

What an utter shit. Please call a friend to come over and give you some real life support.

I'll text you tomorrow.

I'll warm up by saying what a fucking shitbag.

Is there noone you can tell to come n get you? There's just me n DS or I'd come xx

And if you DO leave to tonight, take only what's yours. The dick head can get his stuff in his own time.

This is what you are going to do.

Drink, throw up, sleep and in the morning, you will get up, wash and eat something. Call the kids to say hello and get dressed. You will do your hair and put on your make up.

You will pack your bags and go home. Collect your child and go home. Shut the door, lock it, turn off your phone and unplug the house phone.

Update facebook to "single" staus and then you will turn it off. Stay on MN and talk to us for as long as you want to. FB will have too many questions. Have a dvd and a pizza night. Take advantage of this.

Ignore any knocking on the door (except pizza man). Go into hiding to lick your wounds for another day.

Then you will get angry and this is the best bit. Take full advantage of this because this will be your drive and this is what will get you through this crap bit. Tell as many or as few people as you need to. Dump the wedding stuff at his mums, dress and all. Sod the fall out, that's his problem. He doesn't have anywhere to go? Not your problem. He's sorry? not good enough.

From now on, it's all about you and your kids. These are the three people that are your priority, you, your child and your unborn child. For the next few days, think about these three people only. Bollocks to anyone else. Build that bubble and hibernate for a few days. Nothing else matters, only those three people. Two of these people need you to look after yourself so you can look after them.

DO NOT be pressured into talking to anyone, espcially him, if you don't want to. He'll see your child when you are good and ready and not before. You need time, and a lot of it to think and plan your next move, either with or without him.

Remember, you are not the only person this has happened to. It may feel like it, but you're not. You are not the first or the last. If these other people can get through this, so can you. Remember that. You still have a family unit and your kids will be fine by the end of this because you will make sure they are.

You and the kids are your priority, you do what you think is best for them and you. No-one else matters one iota at this moment. No-one. Just you and the kids, and you'll be just fine.

So sorry OP. But there is no stigma for you here. I'd have nothing but respect for a friend who dealt with a situation like this with as much dignity as you're showing in a terrible, terrible position.

I daren't call my mum. She would be the last person I'd tell.

Really, there isn't anyone who I would tell who would actually be able to come and get me. MIL doesn't drive. And it still leaves my car here miles away.

He left over an hour ago, when I told him that there was no going back from this, the unforgivable.

I assume he got the train home (?) wherever that is.

What a complete wanker....

So sorry Op....I'm sorry if I sound insensitive but thank goodness you didn't marry him.

Take time and be kind to yourself

She did marry him I think

My poor babies, they deserve so much better. So so much.

All I wanted for them was a happy and loving home. I work so hard to give them that.

Now it's going to be a very unhappy home for some time to come.

Smiles has it correct. Good advice there.

What a complete fuckhead! Wish I had magic words or comfort for you Fuckhead!

Do you feel ok to drive? If so, I'd go if I were you. If not, I wonder whether you eat, sleep, make your plan tonight. Get as much rest as possible, prepare yourself for what is to come. Then get your DC, get home, and implement the plan.

Have you got a cc with you? If so, leave that hotel and go to another one where they won't know you. No explanations - just pack your stuff, walk to the car and drive away. It's still early enough that it will be very easy to get into another place for a good bath and a night's sleep.

Sorry if this comes over as cold-blooded, but did you screenshot the FB message from OW? Twatface may retract his confession later; that message is proof of his cheating.

The PP who recommended legal advice is right on, it may benefit you and DC more to divorce him rather than annul, in terms of all property being an asset of the marriage now.

In the here and now, is there a friend, relative, anyone you can call to be with you, either where you are or to help you get home? You can also delegate them to act as social media correspondent and deal with the flood of messages.

Oh sweetheart, you must be reeling from all of this.

Absolutely excellent advice from Smiles - don't be ashamed to tell anyone, this is NOT your fault. Your only error was to love someone who couldn't be trusted, and so many of us have been there at one time or another. Stay strong, use your anger to drive you forward and prioritise you, your little one and your pregnancy above and beyond everything else.

Use MN, talk to us as much as you need. We're all here for you. Now order that pizza and some wine, and remember all those rotten things about him that used to drive you mad...

Sending you strength and courage my love, we're all here.

All I wanted for them was a happy and loving home. I work so hard to give them that.

Then carry on doing that. You'll do all of that without him anyway. The unhappy home bit does vanish, day by day, you'll get used to the new routine and new life and you won't be missing out on anything because you will make sure of it.

You do give them that. And you still have that, it's your house, you buy them what they need.

You play with them and take them out and sort them out. And you will do again.

It's okay to have a few shit days though. A few where you fling meals at them and spend your time in your jamas.

So sorry, OP. I second what others have said about getting an annulment. Is there any friends you could call to be with you tonight? You shouldn't be alone

Oh you poor thing what a total shitbag he is!

I just wanted to reiterate what everyone else has said in that this is completely not your fault.

If the house is in your name go for the annulment, make sure that scumbag doesn't get a penny off you. Could you go and stay with your MIL and son (if I'm right in thinking you get on), just for tonight so you have someone there?

Your children will still have happy loving lives - it's normal to mourn what you thought your future was going to be.
You sound a strong woman. You own your own house and have two brilliant children who will love you unconditionally.
You will get through this.

Oh op, my heart goes out to you.

Sounds like Frazzled is on the case for you tomorrow so do what you can to take it easy tonight .