Would you ever be able to forgive

[TheNewClassic]

a One night stand?

I am good thank you for asking. I spoke to my friend last night who basically echoed what you guys have been saying here (she actually said leave him she never thought he had the capacity to be what I need) but I shouldn't make any rash decisions and should plan my way out (looking for somewhere to live etc) which is what I am going to do.

Good luck and keep posting whenever you need a listening ear.

I think your friend is very wise. Quietly make your plans and then execute them. Best of luck in your future, happy life!

I thought I was feeling ok but ive just got a letter through for the ivf appointment

You will get through this. He is not good enough for you and you would struggle to ever trust him again. Stay strong. This is the worst part.

You'll be okay, OP. Keep making your new plans.

I couldn't have not responded to his strop. You should have asked him before looking through his phone? He should have asked you before fucking someone else! Idiot.

Thank you

Talk us through your plans. Are you looking at properties at the moment? Found anything good?

New starts are exciting. Something great will be brewing :)

I have just started a new job so looking for somewhere in walking distance. I have always wanted to work abroad so maybe in about six months thats something I could do. Going to stay at a friends this weekend so hopefully that will be fun!

I would forgive, but I'm not you. Some may think that's weak but I wouldn't want to hurt myself and lose the man I love for something stupid if I thought there was a chance things could be worked out and everything was otherwise ok.

Everything isn't "otherwise ok" in this situation.

OP, you knew the letter about the IVF appt would be landing some time soon. Nothing has changed.

No way, unforgivable. He could have stopped at any time, but he choose not too. Did he have condoms on him on a night out, or stop to buy some? Either way it doesn't look good. He doesn't even seem that sorry, and just wants you to forget about it and carry on like normal. You will never be able to trust him again, and I couldn't live like that.

I wouldn't call a ONS 'something stupid' selina. 'Something stupid' is your spouse forgetting your birthday, saying your bum looks fat, or pouting because you did something they didn't like. That's stupid. But a ONS is breaking a sacred promise, whether you are actually married or are in a committed partnership.

You can forgive if you want to, of course. But don't belittle the seriousness of what happened.