Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

"He'd introduced me to his family and friends, told me he'd never hurt me, bought me gifts, planned days out, cooked for me, talked about the future etc."

This is all too much in my opinion to be happening within 3 months. Enthusiam is one thing, but this just seems like borderline needy obsession.

Stay away from lovesick puppy men.

I guess I have a type mademan. they burn out as quickly as they fall.

Enthusiasm it should have read.

Well there is that old saying about the light that shines twice as bright, lasts half as long.

You're right. I'm staying away from online dating until I know why I'm attracted to these types.

You can't really blame yourself for getting swept up in it though Don't; most other people probably would as well. It's more a reflection of how these men are too eager really; it's like you're sitting in the stocks and they're pelting you with whole baskets of rotten tomatoes when they should just be throwing the occasional one tomato at you.

I seem to attract these types for some reason.

dont it's really not you . my exh was very like your last two exs . He would buy gifts for my family and me , expensive hotels , holidays etc... I moved in with him after 2 months , I got swept up with it! I have lots of contact with his ex , we are really good friends (since my splitting with him ) she told me he was the same. The one he had the affair with , identical treatment. These guys feel they have to buy you, and kind of smother you and brain wash you. Don't blame yourself at all.

Dont
You have always been there for me it's not you it's them . I feel like giving up no word from Mr V Today bit upset over that but we'll if he don't get in touch I'm not chasing .
I have no idea what it is with men and certain deadlines Mr IT was the same but a month deadline .

Take a break if you need but still chat to us xx

Thanks dippin and jesy. It's good to know I have this thread to support me. I'll start online dating in a few months when I'm feeling stronger, I think.

Hope you hear something soon, jesy

Don't

So do I but I rang n it went to voice mail x shame he was nice on fone

Give yourself time dont , you've been hurt badly by both guys.. heal. My exh has gone from one woman to another with no break , he can't be by himself! its not healthy , enjoy your kids and yourself. ..

Yes I will dippin. I don't want another relationship like the last two.

I want a man who'd hold my hair back when I was sick, not one who is good at over the top romantic gestures, but judges me for drinking and embarrassing him.

Don't you sound like me , think that why I fell for Mr IT , he held my hair back as I was sick in the am ,ran the shower for me n put me back to bed x

Well, I've been the bloke holding the hair back while my girlfriend/wife is sick. I think that's part and parcel of a relationship. But, I've also been the bloke doing it and thinking 'Christ, not again, why does she have to get plastered at a family do for my aunt's birthday and fall over?'

That one didn't last very long.

Dont - you seem to have a history of very intense, passionate and eventually angry or cold relationships. Why do you think that is?

I don't know Bant - maybe I get swept up in the fantasy of it all. I think they are in love with the idea of me and not the reality and then when reality creeps in, they disappear. I can't face dating now. I need to work out why I'm attracted to these types, too.

Odd chatt last night, local lad similar interests but he then likes hairy lady garden , I was a bit taken a back to say the least and had to look up the fancy word.

Not sure how I feel about it , any one had anything like that?
I mean I'm glad he was up front about it tho .

Miserable this morning, kids at exH and I'm alone as usual, everyone else home with partners. The man I was dating I not that into me. He took me to his mates bonfire night party. Was texting, didn't bother to sit or hold my hand all night. Drove me back and said he'd come in for a bit. We watched TV , he didn't make a move. Last time I had to initiate sex, he was keen in the beginning.
I think he likes the idea of dating me so he can publicly show me off, but he's obviously not into me and now I feel like crap. My ex withheld sex and I want a man to make me feel wanted.
Think us dtd on third date was too soon and now its fizzled out.
I split up from my ex because he didn't treat me right, maybe I expect too much.
Going back on pof but I feel pathetic and alone today :(.

Gotta

It is his loss, sorry your feeling down.

jesy I have never heard of that, will have to look it up myself.

He fB me this am not mentioned it x

Just wish I could get a feedback form to see what I'm doing wrong.
Definitely something wrong with me, I know its not my looks but something else regarding my personality. Family say positive stuff about me but there mot going to be truthful about my bad points.
My only comfort today is chocolate, I know I need to get myself back out there. Just don't want to keep repeating same mistakes, its possible I'm am going for a type that's not good for me, like my ex.

Gotta
I wonder the same ,.my reasons Mr IT I wasn't out going enough for him and I'm glad his gf is ,I really enjoyed are nights out but I think I was to reserved.

Mr drugs he dumped me as I had feelings for him wtf if you don't care about person after three months something wrong.

And my first bf I think I was to domesticated I'd cook , clean, iron ect. He was the one who said he loved me and I guess he did for a bit , but I also know towards the end I was just there for sex

I know I'm not pretty and I'm over weight I have given up on ever having a baby .

I just want some of the life I've missed out on

jesy My ex lost interest in me and just wanted to keep me around for friendship and kids.
I wonder if men sense when a woman is insecure and use that to their advantage, I know its mot their fault.
Its easy to delude ourselves and only see what we want to see, whenever I go with my gut feelings and bring up things in not happy with. My ex use to make out it was just me and never take responsibility.

New guy I'm dating says he was just tired and does find me sexually attractive, which makes me think its all in my head.

jesy Its best to wait until you meet a good man if you want a baby but even then time can change a situation.
I don't know how you look but being overweight is not going to get in the way of the right man finding you attractive. I am a size 8 and single but see curvy women much bigger holding hands with men who are good looking. I think men prefer curvy women. I have been told by a bloke, while I was backed. That I could easily be a stone heavier and look good still.

Men don't want a woman to look after them, don't want a woman to be sexually aggressive, what do they want. Maybe they want the opposite of what they thought they wanted.

I'm confused.