Right you lot, I'm hoping you can help... I was going to start a thread but scared I'll get flamed for introducing a bloke to DC too soon...
So...I met this bloke on POF 5 months ago. It was my first online date and only 3 months after exH left me for OW so in hindsight maybe it was a bit too soon but I wasn't looking for anything serious. But he turned out to be lovely, we hit it off straight away. He said he loved me after 2 months, I felt the same. Brilliant with the kids, a real natural. We only see each other about twice a week and he had just started staying over when the kids are here, about a month ago.
It has all been a bit intense a bit quickly... For example we had started having hypothetical conversations about what would happen if we moved in together..
But all started by him. He has always been very loving and attentive. Sometimes a bit too intense with his texting. But he makes me very happy and although the talk had become a bit intense, in practice we still only saw each other once or twice a week.
All of a sudden he became a bit withdrawn and cancelled a couple of dates. I asked what was wrong, eventually he said he had been feeling anxious but wasn't sure why. And he has put it down to that he doesn't love me. He thought he did, he wanted to, but he thinks he was lying to himself.
We've had a talk and I'm no further... the end result was we've agreed to 'slow things down'. But I'm pretty gutted. He is 46, divorced twice, one teenage son, lived alone for 6 years. Maybe he thought he wanted a family but now can't deal with it.. maybe he's just a commitment phobe.. I am torn between giving it a go and just breaking it off. I went through all this with my ex, I don't need anpther man saying he doesn't love me anymore.
We've said we'll meet on Saturday...