Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

bant otoh I don't like to wait too long to dtd in case I get to quite like someone only to discover the sex is rubbish.

And more seriously, I am pretty easy going and I like sex. It's fun. And I am bloody worth it.

So if I have to make getting sex difficult and behave like a PITA to keep a bloke, not interested. And that to me portrays men as stupid and shallow and easily manipulated. Most men IME are better than that. They like the people they like. And they are not only in it for the chase, the win and the trophy.

Evenin' all
I have said yes to third date with 20/20. He has gone quiet. This has happened twice. I've also done the same to him. Maybe we're too alike, enjoying a wierd cat & mouse game... We go through days of kinky sexting loads & then nothing for days
There is a big physical attraction btwn us, haven't dtd

Bonkers phone

We've actually 'known' each other for over a yr. But at the time I wasn't ready for a relationship.

Not sure, maybe he is just playing with me?

Mr v called me again , he did before but I thought it was a mistake.

He sounds lovely he remembered stuff we spoke about via text and said he'll with call me later or tomorrow x

I had a man send me pictures of him dressed in women's clothes with wig and make-up, odd. Thankfully I don't attract willy flashers. Was called a whore because i was not interested in meeting up for sex.
I have been lucky and met up with some interesting men and even with no chemistry was able to have a good chat.

Alot of men complain about old women playing games, not sure if its just the men imagine woman are messing them around, some tell stories of women stalking them, in their dreams maybe:).

"She told me that one of the two men she's spoken to (not met) has sent her a video of him masturbating. I simply have no idea why a man would do this."

In the old days a flasher would have to go round the park and spend all day avoiding the park keeper and waiting in a hedge to show his junk to a woman; now the flashers can flash at women from the comfort and security of their front living-rooms in online dating websites/Tinder.

"Alot of men complain about old women playing games..."

Apparently old women like to play Bridge, or Scrabble.

I like playing scrabble and I'm 49. Am I an old woman on OLD? God I still feel like 21. I must admit most 49+ men on OLD are so old!! I think single woman age better than single men. I can see why some women lie about their age because a lot of men are very ageist. I don't lie as I can't see the point - and I'm gorgeous anyway!!

Mademan bridge.

I meant complain about on line dating women, not older woman. I imagine it would be younger women that are playing games.
Men my age look years older, and its annoying that men In their forties want woman ten years younger. Then you have young men going after older women, I can't find a man in my age group.
I agree that single women do age better but maybe the secret to youth I being single. I feel more stress when trying to form a relationship.

I feel awful I delayed a date from Thursday for today but have cancelled , it was my last chance with him his words .I'd had doubts anyway his age, distance away.
Plus he'd not texted not even a good morning since Wednesday, just seems as if no effort on his behalf.
But I have been offered a babysitting job for this afternoon and I need the money.
I'm hoping he will understand but I doubt it, not so fussed about the date ( I'd have had to travel on train, then walk in the dark to were we meant to meet as he couldn't meet at train station ) but didn't want to hurt him.

Well went to check to see if he'd read message and he blocked me so that's over, I've either made a mistake and hurt him or the right choice it 100 per cent sure, just know I hurt him .

I'd hoped he'd understand that I need money , might not be a lot to most people but not benifit this week n not been paid from agency so out of pocket .
May have work next week but need petrol money to get there so that what today will help with.

Just sorry I hurt him but one thing in last few years have taught me need to loom after me .

Jesy - you were meant to get a train to near him, walk in the dark to meet him, he couldn't be arsed to even meet you off the train, and now he's thrown a hissy fit because you had to cancel due to work? Why couldn't he even get to the station?

You did the right thing cancelling. You didn't hurt him, he wasn't even showing a tiny bit of politeness. You may have bruised his overinflated ego but it sounds like he could use an object lesson anyway.

Someone who wants to actually go on a date should be willing to work a little for it. Meet halfway, at least. Where were you meant to be going?

Hi bant

I've looked at it in total it be about five mile walk, partly through town I don't know and I don't live in nicest part of town buses don't run often so bit stuck.

He said it was too far to meet me at station which is silly as nice little coffee shop that open late so we were going to meet at Sainsbury cafe.

It started to play on my mind last night after Mr V rang me twice . Even if nothing comes of it least he made an effort .
Plus there was the comment about as I'm broke I'll be charging him for sex that hurt me ,

Jesy you did the right thing. It is basic manners to meet half way or somewhere that is convenient for both. And I know I'm old fashioned (and old) but you shouldn't be walking in the dark for miles to meet a date. He sounds like a dick so well rid of I think.

jesy a 5 mile walk in the dark! I wouldn'be pleased about that either...

I agree with the others he should've met you half way.

Also if you have to babysit or work for money then a date should understand that.

It would have been from mine over the playing feilds then thru town after train to his then back again.

Like people have said at least half way or at train station I'd have been happy with a can of pop or bag of chips in that area but walking around in dark alone no.

I said I'd prefer a day time or we'll some where I wasn't walking alone. But he said I had plenty of chances for day dates In the summer.

Maybe I did but I was having a nice time with Mr IT and still had my doubts about the other bloke .

Maybe doubts are good x

He said it was too far to meet me at station

I can't believe you seriously think you HURT this man. He obviously didn't give a sh.it. He's not hurt. I'm concerned that you think you did because it suggests that you have the wrong attitude here and could be vulnerable in doing OLD.

If someone is talking to you and saying things like "this is your last chance with me" in the early stages of getting to know them, that is a massive red flag and you should dump them there and then. It's all about them, they see themselves as the prize and you are on the backfoot having to please them.

The fact he expects a women to come to him, walking in the dark, is also indicative of a high degree of selfishness and entitlement.

You need to raise your standards jesy. Seriously, "hurt him"?!?!?

or we'll some where I wasn't walking alone. But he said I had plenty of chances for day dates In the summer.

Utter utter co.ck.

That is all.

We met old a year ago so not just met.
But I wasn't happy with idea of dates just at his,I want a life not just a cups of tea in front of telly every night .

I'm tougher than ppl think on here x

Younger men IME seem to think older women expect less and impart more. They were generally quite surprised when I was not overly grateful for their advances- citing no common frame of reference and no desire to teach.

But also last time I was OLD (9 months to 18 months ago) all the men were within 3 years of my age and seemed happy with that. although differing ages of dcs may have been more of an issue

I've copied this over from my own thread. Feeling crap. Really really crap.

I've had two three month short relationships this year. Both with men who declared love very early on, were very very intense and passionate etc etc. Both dumped me after three months exactly. They both suddenly turned their feelings off like a light switch.

Guy two really hurt me. He'd introduced me to his family and friends, told me he'd never hurt me, bought me gifts, planned days out, cooked for me, talked about the future etc. He knew about guy one and told me to trust him, I was too important to him. He thought about me all the time. Thought about what our future would look like all the time. Then suddenly it's over and he disappears from my life. Just like that. No emotion. No explanation. He seemed to go off me a week before it happened, didn't seem as affectionate/complimentary.

I just don't understand it. I'm questioning what is wrong with me. My self esteem is at rock bottom right now.