New name, new game, less stress, more progress! (Thanks to Rottie!)

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Here goes - thread 4 and definitely the last one now, sheesh!!

Who knew instigating divorce could be so bloody long winded!!

My last thread was 'It isn't Work Stress, it's emotional abuse and you're going to get divorced because of it H!'

Rottweiler solicitor (Rottie) and a non molestation order on Tuesday yippee!!

Concerned lurker here. name, I know you are confident that your EA is clueless about Mumsnet but I've just noticed that the sub heading for Relationships is: The good, bad and (sometimes) ugly. Please be careful.

The proper answer to the question "What's for lunch?" is "Whatever you fancy cooking, dear".

Oh name, what a childish and bizarre prank. Your STBX .... needs help (I'm being very, very polite here).

Bee, it's all part of their pathological need for control, I think. They need you to make their lives easy and pleasant. They think that is what you are there for, and that you have no needs of your own.

It is as if you were an unpaid servant,needing to be instructed, or ignored, as needed. So of course, if you don't carry out your instructions, you have to be reminded. He thinks he is your boss.

Omg, sorry to hijack, but what bee has said completely resonates with me. And trackrBird what you said - They need you to make their lives easy and pleasant. They think that is what you are there for, and that you have no needs of your own - my H is always saying all he wants is a nice easy/quiet life with his wife to come home too and his kids, whenever I complain about how he treats me.

Good luck tomorrow name

name Wishing you the very best of luck for tomorrow; hope it all goes smoothly.

BeeOrchid and CalmAndConfused sounds like you're both realising things about your own situations. It might be worth starting your own threads if you need support from the wonderful women of MN.

Bee and Calm absolutely! It makes H's life easy, but also sets me up if things go wrong or are forgotten - he needs his life to be easy, but he also needs to trace a 'problem' right back to it's source so that when things go wrong sufficient blame can be layed...at my door, each and every time!

Fucking knob! They're all the bloody same!

Thanks everyone.

Had a funny moment this evening. We had tenants in our house before we moved back in 6 months ago. The lead tenant has been popping round occasionally to pick up old post. When H got the divorce papers he assumed I was seeing someone and named this tenant as a possibility which i just thought was mental, and it is because I'm not shagging anyone at all - i've only met this tenant of ours once or twice, nice enough bloke but does nothing for me....or rather did nothing for me, because he popped round tonight for more post that's here and he was in a suit, just finished work and I just thought Phwooaarrr!! Lol!! He looked bloody gorgeous and all sorts of scenarios went through my head when he left

Thanks for the good luck messages - sorted the solicitor 1 file so that will be with Rottie in the morning, got my bank statements stashed safely and luckily H is going to be late tonight - feeling good

good luck for tomorrow Name, another one here that used to wear the tshirt. EH hates the loss of control he has now, and I am much stronger person and can see so much more of what I was stuck in as each year passes.

Aw that's brilliant booby thank you and good for you!

Good luck for tomorrow. What's the timetable? Will be thinking of you.

You know names now that you're looking around instead of walking with your head down all the time to avoid the full blast of Twatchops anger, you'll be surprised at just how pleasant the 'scenery' is!

I agree with Pond on that one - getting your head turned by your old tenant shows how much you have emotionally and mentally moved away from TwatChops.

KOKO, with pom poms and Name, hope it goes well.

Delurking to wish you all the luck in the world tomorrow.

I have followed all your threads and feel that I know you as a good friend. I wish I could be there with you tomorrow to hold your hand. I will be wishing you well all day. X

mitzimaybe, I do have my own thread and have had some great support too.

Didn't mean to hijack, but sometimes I read something and it's a light bulb moment - me too, me too!

Will be thinking of you tomorrow, name

Name the ex tenant in the suit. He's not a plumber is he?

Just nipping in to wish you all the best tomorrow, name. Hope everything goes smoothly. We will all be on tenterhooks until we know how things have gone. KOKO

Aw thanks LosBreakingbad! I know what you mean, funny how us anonymous posters can be like real friends to each other X

Lol Dinnae! No he works in something financial I think, but that's fine by me!!

Love it Pond and Zazzles - felt really excited and alive for a bit tonight...until H phoned and burst my little bubble

Thanks Bee and Mitzi

All I need to do is drop a stone and a half, get a tummy tuck and some lipo, some microdermabrasion facials, a liking for waxing, a fashion sense, possibly some teeth whitening and a good long course of psychotherapy and then I'll be ready for the dating scene again haha!!

Thank you Brian don't worry I'll be straight back here after I've seen Rottie with an update!

Good luck my dear name. I'll have everything crossed all day and will try and check in during between lessons!!

Aw! Thank you Lovely Auntpetunia for all your support

Good luck for tomorrow name. What time is it all happening?

Thanks fluffy well I'm in to see Rottie at 2pm, so I don't know what happens then with regards to the non mol, whether it's within 24hrs or not I'm not sure. She's got everything she needs though and the PO should have sent her through my statement with her and my old one from last year - I emailed the PO to remind her so hopefully

Ah, so does that mean she might not have got it when you see her at 2pm then? Really hope its all sorted tomorrow, and you don't have to wait another night, don't know how you've managed to keep it together this long to be honest!

Hope not Fluffy, when I saw Rottie last week she said she was going to request the statements and I reminded Rottie of that earlier today as well as the PO, a two pronged approach! - not that I'm in anyway anticipating the lovely PO hasn't sent them through!

I don't know either how I've kept it together this long haha - either I am far more resilient than I thought I was, or I've been abused for so long now I don't know any different

very very long time lurker-delurking briefly to wish you luck tomorrow Name. i will be popping online (illegally) between patients tomorrow.

You are one awesome lady