New name, new game, less stress, more progress! (Thanks to Rottie!)

[thenamehaschanged]

Here goes - thread 4 and definitely the last one now, sheesh!!

Who knew instigating divorce could be so bloody long winded!!

My last thread was 'It isn't Work Stress, it's emotional abuse and you're going to get divorced because of it H!'

Rottweiler solicitor (Rottie) and a non molestation order on Tuesday yippee!!

[AcrossthePond55]

Found you! Actually, it wasn't hard….just had to listen for the cloppy horseshoes and here everyone was!

Wow, just wow at his last rant! He is so deep in denial that he'll need a map of Egypt to find his way home. Quick!! Hide all maps of Egypt!

[Zazzles007]

Checking in, back to read and post later . Love the new thread name.

KOKO Name, I see TwatChops keeps on living up to his moniker! Copping a feel, good god! to you.

[HenriettaTurkey]

KOKO, Name. You're doing great. And you're nearly there.

[annettec01]

Nearly there and keep going! You are being so strong!

[tribpot]

Yes, shiver down spine about his comments, seriously creepy. KOKO.

[thenamehaschanged]

Ahh thanks guys! Pond

I'm safely tucked up in bed now, and I know I should just brush it off and not even bother mentioning it now, but...he threw a bit of a strop when I said I was off to bed haha!

Was looking at some more flats this afternoon on Rightmove - I just cannot wait now! I know I'm there in my head because the occasional pangs I was having of guilt/worry are long gone now - I don't care what the fuck he thinks of me - as soon as he's gone and I know he can't contact me it'll be out of sight, out of mind. Got a problem with that twatchops? Well speak to Rottie about it then, you fucking loon!

Well that's how I'm feeling tonight anyway!!

Thanks so much everyone

[arowhena]

I used to make secret jokes like this about EA XP even at the darkest times...

[AcrossthePond55]

The period of time between my decision and my abusive 1st husband leaving was blessedly short (I still thank my dear landlady who gave him the (steel-toed) boot when he refused to leave). But I can remember the feeling of euphoria during that in-between period when I thought about him being gone. When he wasn't in the house I used to sing my own version of song from the musical South Pacific which I re-titled "I'm gonna kick that prick right outta my house and send him on his way". Used to get a secret larf at the fact that I could walk around him humming it because he didn't know the song.

[GenevievePettigrew]

Just de-lurking from Australia to say that if you listen to triplej.net.au online at 10am Monday UK time, there will be a live set (recorded live anyway) from First Aid Kit - with the MN Relationships anthem, Silver Lining.

Thinking of you name. When you started your first thread, I thought our situations were fairly similar. But your H is in a whole other universe to mine (& mine looks like he's about to accept my offer re finances so all good with me). KOKO!

[MexicanSpringtime]

Nettletea
I can never understand why, given the shit that these fuckers give out about how useless and evil and twisted and ugly and everything everything, that they make such a hoo haa when you say 'right Im off'
Surely, if following their argument, they should be pleased to be rid of such a weight around their necks, and happy to be free to go and get a woman such as they deserve, and who are all positively throwing themselves at them all the time......

Yes, this an eternal source of wonderment

[cheminotte]

Love the positive new thread title Name .

[thenamehaschanged]

I know Nettle - I used to say 'well wtf do you want to be married to me for if I'm such a bad person?'
I'm not calling you a bad person, I'm just suggesting improvements''!!

Thanks Gen and Pond, I'll be back later

[RandomMess]

Thinking of you KOKO

[captainmummy]

Name - it's your thread, you can call it what you damn well like! And as for not posting all his stupidities and cruelties - well, what else is MN for? If it helps you to see through the manipulation and twisting and lies and downright evils, that is all to the good. Honestly, how rude!

It must be exhausting to be still in this situation- bet you can't wait for tomorrow. That horseshoe glove is really gonna hit him!

[AnyFucker]

Rude ?

Not really.

[thenamehaschanged]

Actually I need to keep it logged here as it's not safe to have it physically written down in the house, I'll need to update Rottie about my weekend tomorrow and I'll just forget otherwise. I've been forgetting episodes almost immediately afterwards for the last ten years!

Thank you for all your concerns though

I see Lynda Bellingham died yesterday which has saddened me a little because she escaped a long DV marriage and was a good old boozer and smoker!!! A reminder to clean myself right up after all this!

I was just getting up this morning but thought I'd keep my eyes shut for a few more mins - when I opened them H was so close to my face he was almost touching my nose with his, totally silent - I screamed! Fucking freak show!!

[YonicScrewdriver]

Urgh!

[Zazzles007]

when I opened them H was so close to my face he was almost touching my nose with his, totally silent

Good lord, that is creepy and freaky! Fucking hell, have we morphed into Nightmare in Elmstreet or something? What the fuck was he playing at???

[captainmummy]

AF - You suggested that the OP thought it was a 'game' and named her thread so. if you RTFT and the 3 before, you will see that she actually used another posters suggestion for the threadname, but also that in fact it is a game. This is a poster whose H has had divorce papers served - and ignored them. If she hadn't play 'the game', this game, she was at risk of DV or having to go to a refuge, compromising her 'rights' to the house. So yeah, she played the game, and well, with dignity and intelligence. She's had to.
stop sharing his ridiculous soundbites on here, and get busy getting rid - She is getting rid. She's had divorce papers served. She's got a non=mol ready for tomorrow - NOW is when she needs the most help and sipport, and if she ants to post the minutiae of her hellish life at the mo, we should be helping her, not complaining about the thread title or contents.

Sorry to derail name - only one more night of this!

[WhereIsMYJonathanSmith]

Wow I think that is intimidating and truly meant to scare you. I am seriously worried about you!

[thenamehaschanged]

I know Zazzles! And WhereIs - he was up and dressed by the way, just thought he'd stop by to do that, it gave me a right jump - another nod to no boundaries!

Bless you, thanks Captain!!! Bout a little tear to my eye haha!!

Off to print off all my bank statements and his for Rottie later - I've got a feeling though Solicitor 1 is going to be awkward about my file. I couldn't request it, Rottie had to do it personally apparently (which Rottie was like ok?)

When I dropped in my timeline to Rottie on Friday, her secretary had been off for 2 days with her dying cat so the fax request for my file hadn't been done, so Rottie was typing it herself!

I've just got a little feeling Solicitor 1 will try and prevent it getting there for tomorrow. In which case, I'll offer to go to their office myself, pick it up and deliver it to Rottie. We'll see anyway!

[PedantMarina]

That is not a good way to wake up, name. >cringe<

Courtesy of a bad sleep situation, DS and I ended up watching Frozen this morning. I thought about you, and not just during the Elsa song. You know the opening sequence with the ice cutters? Now those are horseshoes!

evil cackle< (well, 'tis the season)

[YonicScrewdriver]

Captain, I think AF meant not to lose sight of the goal in amongst the work of keeping name's spirits up. Sometimes posters in Relationships come up with plans to eg try and get their Hs to see things their way but once the abuse has kicked in, that's fruitless and energies are better spent on an exit plan.

AF is concerned for name, as we all are.

Right, name, now his creepiness has hopefully gone to work, have you got anything else to do for Rottie before tomorrow? Anything else to keep safe, documents or possessions?

[YonicScrewdriver]

Ooh, x post, glad you are getting all the bank statements!

A dying cat and a fax? Sounds like a farce! Can you check with Rottie later today if the file has made it?

[Zazzles007]

another nod to no boundaries!

Yep, these weird, creepy types try so, so hard to rein the weird creepiness in, but every so often it seeps out and lets itself be known/seen. Its a jarring reminder that they are not normal, and that getting them out of your life preserves your sanity, and mental and emotional health.