Anyone here who's found out their OH uses prostitutes?

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I would really appreciate speaking to anyone who has found themselves in the same situation as I have very recently.

I agree. But secret porn rather than shared can be a dangerous habit for the weak or immature?

Why do you support the sex industry written ? Is it because there are worse things in the world ? Grasping at straws of justification .

To any men caught up in a sexless marriage ...have you asked yourself why your wife doesn't want sex with you ? Do you satisfy her needs whatever they may be. Emotional support or chid care or appreciation or friendship or fun ? If not you may have the answer . Or you can carry on wasting family money. Fiddling while Rome burns ?

Why do you support the sex industry written ? Is it because there are worse things in the world ? Grasping at straws of justification .

My guess is that a lot of people here are posting how awful porn is from their iPads. I think you could make a good case that a lot of households contain items from industries with practices far worse than the porn industry. For example, chocolate, unless obtained from a fairtrade or reliable source can literally use child slavery. I am just asking for perspective here.

as for prostitution, i haven't supported that above. However, while I don't support the industry, I think much of the harm of prostitution is caused by the facts that it is illegal and stigmatized.

To any men caught up in a sexless marriage ...have you asked yourself why your wife doesn't want sex with you ? Do you satisfy her needs whatever they may be. Emotional support or chid care or appreciation or friendship or fun ? If not you may have the answer . Or you can carry on wasting family money. Fiddling while Rome burns ?

no doubt that often happens, but incompatible and changing sexual desires, either quantity or kind, doesn't at all sound unlikely to me. Two people meet and marry for various reasons. it's well known that after 20 years of marriage people change (or may have a medical issue like above).

Prostitution is not, per se, illegal in the UK. Certain aspects of the trade are, but working as a prostitute, and employing the services of a prostitute, are legal.

The stigma, however, is very real, and very damaging to sex workers.

I asked twice AF because I didn't feel anyone really gave an answer when I asked the first time.

Since then though the thread has moved on and there does seem to be a consensus that if you are the partner not getting sex, then that is more or less tough luck - accept it or leave your partner.

I just thought that was a rather limiting look at how you might be able to make a couple work - there might be alternatives which don't involve prostitutes or lying about an affair.

Personally no, my DH isn't pressuring me into anything. But I do know he would like sex more often (and kinkier than I am up for now - my tastes have changed since we got together which again probably feels like I have moved the goalposts) and I do wonder if perhaps having a more flexible version of marriage which was open and consenting (on both sides) to see more than one person (for sex) might be interesting for both of us (I am bisexual too - which is not something I can really act upon since we got married!)

Just musing really - I think we are probably far too conventional to do anything about this - we went to orgies in our past but I think I'm a bit too knackered for any of that now!

Thanks for replying, boobz, just seen it.