Blunt question: were you sexually active at 14?

[Mintyy]

As you know I'm not a pervy hairy-handed trucker.

Hopefully you will feel able to answer.

If you were sexually active at 14, can you say anything about why?

No! Too busy horseriding and fawning over Jason Donovan!

Yes. Curiosity, I guess.

No, and due to background wouldn't have even contemplated it.
I would have been too scared of an unplanned pregnancy, history repeating itself and being a disappointment to my family.
My bm was 15 when she had me, and now I tell my dd

No not until 19. Even at that I vomited then fainted after because of the pain/ shock of it ! Poor boy was a virgin too , so I managed to ruin his first experience as well as my own

At 14 there's no way I would've been ready. Not sure id even kissed anyone by then

Sexually active as in heavy petting but not full sex...was curious & exploring..but it was a much more innocent time...

No. Not on my radar.

Can I just clear something up? I think the term "age of consent" adds confusion to this issue. And I apologise if I am blunt in my language. It's just for clarity. LEM and others in a similar position, I apologise if this is hard to read, but for other little girls like you were, it's important that people know this.

The law, as it stands, states that under 13s cannot give consent, legally. So, however willing the victim, rape or sexual assault charges can be brought, depending on the gender of the perpetrator and the acts that were carried out. The sentences are in line with each other, whatever the charge.

Between 13 and 16, if both are of a similar age, the official guidance is that there is no public interest in prosecution. Providing it was consensual. Rape is rape (and sexual assault is sexual assault) , whatever the age. However, if the elder is in a position of authority or is over the age of consent, then charges may be brought. Those charges depend on the nature of the act.

As we know, the reality of bringing a case, or even reporting it, is too difficult at the moment. But that's the law as it stands.

Yes I had my first GF and she was 16. No sex though just manual stuff

"Manual stuff"

Yes I was, I don't think I had full sex at that age, well I think I tried but it wasn't really working out as we both had no clue at all.

My friends were all a lot older so I kind of went along with it. I can't say I have given it a lot of thought about myself as what's done is done but I would be pretty upset if my DCs were sexually active at that age.

I don't really think 14 year olds should be doing more than kissing but unfortunately I think it is pretty common, it certainly was when I was growing up (I am 34)

I was also quite promiscuous as a teen, lots of partners between 15 and 19 and lots of sexual 'stuff' age 13-14. I then met my XH age 20, we split up and I met DH when I was 25 and they have been my only two partners in the last 14 years.

No, I wanted to wait for the mam I would marry! !
He wasn't my first though

Man *

No way! I was still reading my old Bunty annuals and pretending to be a horse with my friends when I was 14...

Did not lose my ‘V’ plates till I was 17. Was dating another girl the same age for about 4 months before DTD, we were both virgins and our first time was really crap sex insofar that I lasted about 6 seconds. We persevered over the next few months and actually got pretty good at it.

Started being sexually active around 12/13 but the thought of PIV sex actually terrified me at the time. Had an unusual relationship at the age of 14 with a girl in the town I grew up in where we would meet up to masturbate in the same room together, we rarely touched each other but enjoyed just watching each other ‘play’ we had no desire to take it further, we did not consider ourselves in a ‘relationship’ as such but we trusted each other and found our activities comforting.

Sexually active - yes.

Having actual sex - no (didn't lose my virginity until I was 17 and had been with BF for 2 years)

I wonder, those who did lose your virginity early and did it for the "right" reasons (ie because you wanted to, not because your friends were), were you early developers? I ask cause i did it (i only regret that the boyfriend at the time turned out to be an arse, not that we did it) and I was one?

• reason why is that I was a randy little thing! Realised how nice it felt to be 'touched down there'. BF at he time was almost a year older but still only 15 himself. It was all consensual but never led to full sex.

No absolutely nothing other than snogging till I had left my teen years behind.

OP
Haven't time to read all the pages so may have missed this- but can I ask why you are doing this 'survey'?

Yummy, there was a thread recently (think it is still going) about girls being able to go on the pill without parents permission pre16, and a lot of people said on there that they were sexually active at 14. It might be related to that? Or not?

Op is asking because she has a 14yr old dd

Yes. Lost my virginity at 14 and 3 months. (I wrote about it in my diary at the time).

He was 18, and quite pursuasive, i was curious.

No - I was 19 or 20, obviously a late bloomer by current standards. It was intimate (with longterm BF) but frankly pretty crap sex! It took years before I really enjoyed sex and knew what I was doing and what I wanted.

No, definitely not.

I had kissed a few boys but that was it. I was way too nervous to think about anything else.