Seeing the light, and healing the hurt. Breaking free from 'him'.

[surereadyforchange]

Hello, this is a new thread following on from my last one where I received lots of wonderful advice and support regarding the reality of the situation I was in with an abusive shit of a 'man'.
I am seeing things more and more for what they are now, but I still have along way to go
Old thread here:
Previous thread

I'd happily come with you and egg his windows - in my head that's not actually too bad, legally

The police attitude to your case is deeply underwhelming. Sadly I think the only way to get any official attention these days is via a large public shaming.

I know you have told them Sure.....shame they dont seem to be hearing it clearly. That's why lots of people are saying you need to keep on at them....even though it is shit and exhausting and wrong that you have to do that. All i can think of is it is because, in their eyes, you are not in immediate danger.

I promise that nobody here is of the opinion that you aren't doing enough. The problem is, if you stop doing what you are doing, if you stop making niose about it, it reduces the chances of action being taken at their end.

Well it probably wont be will it?
And I'm waiting on tenterhooks giving him headspace while trying to get them to listen.

I just want it to go away now.

Rung the initial PO i made statement to. He rang PO dung with case. Apparently they need to re-download my phone.
Will maybe be arrested in a couple of weeks, county where it happened have had to deal with some burglaries so they've been busy.

*dealing not dung

The joke is I bet if anyone did go round and brick/egg his house, I bet there would a quicker "talking to" to the perpetrators, at the very least. Only it's not a joke because it's not funny.

How about your police Commissioner? They are falling arse over tit here (south west) to show they are taking rape and dv seriously. High ranking officers; ask them which is the more serious crime, rape and harrassment or burglary. This makes me sick, so god knows what it's doing to you. No wonder conviction rates are so bloody bad.

I know right.
I could stand outside his house banging a drum, if police come to stop me I'll say hang on, I'm only playing music- he raped me 2 months ago and nothing has happened to him!

Jux i am in the south west

And yes- I feel sick to my stomach.

Sure - I think forwarding texts/emails etc is different from just telling the PO it is happening. I would do this for 2 reasons:

Seeing the actual content of the messages is a good way for PO to "get" the impact it is having on you. I know you are telling him but actually seeing the messages is more impactful.

It may help you to feel better because you are "doing something" with his messages.

Avon and Somerset PCC
Dorset PCC
Devon and Cornwall PCC

Don't know of any of those help. Google Police Commissioner and your area if not. They all have contact us pages.

I would add to an email outlining the case and what is still not happening, a copy of, say, 3 days' worth of texts to underline how much under seige you still are.

A woman from Rape Crisis was on Spotlight yesterday morning, talking about this. Maybe remind the PCC of that too.

How about calling Rape Crisis?

Rape crisis might be an idea. I need to make a new thread apparently, NO idea what to call it. 'Come and ruminate with me on the worthlessness of anything I have to say on sticking up for myself by saying I shouldn't be abused' ?

They shut at 2.30 (RC)

Patiently waiting for police involvement: the Sure chronicles continue.....

At least MN is listening! Sure's quest for personal justice continues....

Let's ignore the twatbadger: Sure's third (?) thread

Hello police, are you there? It's me, Sure (third thread)

Just a few suggestions....

Thanks Partridge :)
new thread

Aw, sure, hugs.
That is all.

See you on the new thread soon.
Hang in there in the meantime.

See you on the new thread.