It was never 'work stress', it's emotional abuse and you're going to get divorced because of it H! (part3)

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New thread!

As always I'm hopeless and can't link properly to my old thread Work stress? Err I don't think so mate'

Thank you everyone for finishing off the last thread- glad to be starting afresh actually! I did have a little chuckle about Greg the plumber (Phwoar!!) thanks H for the suggestion - us at Mumsnet ran with it and he sounds like my dream man haha!

Anyway - I'm upstairs as usual avoiding going down and seeing old King of the Castle in his throne. He came up half an hour ago in the hope of 'some action' but was told to bugger off - he's manageable at the moment because all of a sudden it's him who's 'scared to rock the boat' and keeps telling me how grateful if he is to have been allowed back - yack! (You didn't give me a lot of choice H though did you? You played every emotional card in your pack and then literally forced your way in!)

Anyway - I'm feeling strong, seeing the police tomorrow - and action plan will be in place!

Love to you all

OP, this is still the old thread. Not sure how you make a new one?

It's the pressure of thinking of a new thread title Oldgrandmama haha! I thought I'd been clever with the 'Work Stress' running theme, I'm stumped now - might just take Petunia's suggestion!

I've been quiet tonight on here, I've been on a couple of other threads though. H is upstairs, I'm downstairs - have barely seen him all day really - I detected though when he came down for dinner that he's got some sort of 'problem' with me - he wasn't aggressive but the manic happiness from this morning has turned into he's alright but there's a mild irritation there!

Zazzles, yes exactly - H's way of being employed and the jobs he has are unrecognisable to me in my line of work. He's like a free agent, calling the shots - I'm just your bog standard office employee, when I work.

I think you are exactly right, Zazzles -- in fact a business with a proper HR department and protocols and procedures for promotion, or defined parameters of work and regular appraisals would not be attractive places for them to work, as they like to imagine they are forces of nature that can't be tied down by mere mortals with degrees in communication studies or personnel management or whatever. They do not like to feel they are accountable to anyone.

Totally Mathanxiety - it's all reputation, schmoozing and using with H

Which kind of makes me think he won't just walk out of his job. He's nothing without his job.

He won't but I'm past caring now, nothing I can do about it either way, just have to crack on.

Ugh!! I HATE that 'waiting for the other shoe to drop' when you can just feel the 'attitude' and you know they're just waiting for you to say or do something 'wrong' so they can unleash.

Hopefully, he'll keep that shoe on!

Oh I know Pond! I think he's asleep upstairs now - I've hidden away from him pretty successfully all day actually, even though it's him who's stayed upstairs tonight, I bet that's what the silence was about when he came down to eat - that I haven't been paying him attention by going up and checking on him maybe? Who know!!

*Who knows

And who cares?! Not us huh?!

I remember those days! I had the cleanest hair & the most hairless legs in Christendom. My refuge was always the bathroom. Our attic always had too many spiders.

As frustrating as it is for you, I notice that you are more and more able to have a sense of humour about it. That's because you know your runway is clear and you are ready for takeoff

Name he won't walk out of his job! It's just a threat, not a promise. To keep you in line.

How about 'new name, new game; less stress, more progress'? Or something along those lines...you need to start describing this about your 'new start not the old fart'.

Ahh thanks Ribena! I think you're right.

Thanks Pond, yes still trying to see the funny side, that's me through and through or rather that's me having the mental maturity of a 16 year old according to H

I'm out in the garden on my iPad. H has decided to put 'The Good, The Bad and The Ugly' on which he recorded last night and him the poor kids are sat in there watching it. How fucking apt is that for his please God hopefully last weekend here!

Anyway, he's in another manically happy morning mood but I am treating with caution and will avoid interaction as much as possible today!

Have a lovely Sunday everyone

A shame you are still feeling under the weather Name

Fresh air is great when you feel poorly. Keep out if his way if you can, and I hope the other shoe doesn't drop!!

Positive title : no more work stress! Next step a good life for my girls (after rottie gets me a great divorce package)!!

New title suggestion: Go, Rottie, Go!

How about "I'm working hard to end my stress and soon it he will be gone!"

Hey there, Name. Hope the rest of your Sunday has been OK.

I like Ribena's suggestion, "new name, new game; less stress, more progress".

Hope the girls enjoyed the film. I did see it once, not long after we married, and we did the Tequila game, only as much of the film is in the middle of the desert with not a bar in sight, we had to just have another shot, um, whenever we felt like it. No, we were not standing at the end of it!

Yes great suggestions thanks FB and Pond

The shoe fell off a bit tonight. He gave me an analogy of 'us'....here goes - we are like two boxers fighting, everything looks equal except in my boxing glove I have a concealed horse shoe. So it was the horse shoe that fell off tonight I guess.

Anyhoo, after a good old rant about my cheating, dirty tactics, he then tried to cop a feel as I was cleaning out the hamsters!

Ho hum!

Cross posts there Jux and a name change I see haha!! Nice!

Think the film was lost on the girls actually, it got stopped half way through!

Err, what? So you have a horseshoe in your glove?

New thread title right there!

Right that's what the new thread will be called jux, thank you

Oh Yonic, honestly you couldn't make it up - he is fucking bonkers. Wish I did have a glove with a concealed bloody horse shoe in it, or just a knuckle duster actually!

He really is a bonkers twat

Rant away at you, accuse you of all sorts and then tries to cop a feel...

It did occur to me that they may not have found it too engaging! The only reason I got through it was the tequila, and I was nearly 40! Gosh, yet another silly misjudgement on h's part, there's a surprise.

Haha yep Jux, a 6 year old's viewing choices on a Sunday morning wouldn't normally include 'The Good, The Bad and The Ugly' in my book but hey ho!

Totally Random!

New thread created guys - can't link coz I'm on an iPad but it's 'New name, new game, less stress, more progress!'