It was never 'work stress', it's emotional abuse and you're going to get divorced because of it H! (part3)

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New thread!

As always I'm hopeless and can't link properly to my old thread Work stress? Err I don't think so mate'

Thank you everyone for finishing off the last thread- glad to be starting afresh actually! I did have a little chuckle about Greg the plumber (Phwoar!!) thanks H for the suggestion - us at Mumsnet ran with it and he sounds like my dream man haha!

Anyway - I'm upstairs as usual avoiding going down and seeing old King of the Castle in his throne. He came up half an hour ago in the hope of 'some action' but was told to bugger off - he's manageable at the moment because all of a sudden it's him who's 'scared to rock the boat' and keeps telling me how grateful if he is to have been allowed back - yack! (You didn't give me a lot of choice H though did you? You played every emotional card in your pack and then literally forced your way in!)

Anyway - I'm feeling strong, seeing the police tomorrow - and action plan will be in place!

Love to you all

Another one, signing in here. Have a good Sunday OP.

Good point Annie. What an absolutely wretched neanderthal you're escaping, Name.

You should move to Australia - the plumbers are rolling in it here!

Here you are! Xxxxxx

Found you! You sound much more hopeful now - and YOU WILL WIN! Gregg the Plumber sounds a dish - but if he isn't quite your cuppa tea, I could offer Dick (honestly) the Electrician - I quite fancy him myself but he's at least 25 years younger and I ain't no Joan Collins ...

As for Arseface trying any stupid stuff about 'oh, but Name slept with me when she was starting divorce proceedings ...' well, you were sort of forced, weren't you? To avoid a huge scene, kids woken, distress etc. etc. etc? You really had no choice? Make sure the Police, tomorrow, know all this. And - I've banged on about it before - the manic driving putting you in danger, and the horribly sinister comment about 'understanding men who slaughter their families ...' Frankly, to me that ought to be grounds enough officially to order him out of the family home.

I have been lurking on the other thread and watching everything with jubiliation ...... followed by horror at the arrogance and manipulation of this man.

But > >>>>> if everyone else is after Greg the Plumber, can you check if has a brother please (for me )

Go girl Go (KOKO) - the mumsnet army are standing with you!

Go Name another squaddie in the MN army signing in...

Signing in and wishing you well Name. And hoping Greg has some lovely male cousins here in Essex somewhere

Delurking here name to say you are fantastic and so strong. This will come to an end and every day will take you closer to your new life and Greg . As well as all the people who have posted on your previous threads there are also lots of silent lurkers like me thinking of you and wishing you a happier life
You sound lovely and deserve happiness and peace.
X

I quite fancy Greg the plumber and I'm not even single!!!

I do think you need to tell police that you were co-erced and it wasn't willing even if you don't want to press charges at the moment having it logged will be very worthwhile doing.

Found you.

Greg the plumber sounds bloody fine after being married to Mr Cunty McCuntington.

Glad to see you're sounding a little more positive Name
Sending you more strength. Xx

Here's me sat near outflew but not close enough to take her eye out with me pom poms!

Is it the Greg from www.gregstoolandpipeworks.co.uk ? If so he'll do you a bang up job

Hi Name.

Glad you are sounding upbeat today. And glad you have a new thread.

Hope the meeting with the police goes according to plan tomorrow, don't forget anything on your list; they need to know all about what has been going on.

Another long time lurker coming to wish you the best.

How about this guy - looks like a nice young man...

Sexy Plumber

Oh how funny!! Greg the plumber can come round anytime he wants and clear my pipes out

Good old Mumsnet, thanks so much everyone

You should have seen H earlier, lying on the floor doing DD1's homework with her. He couldn't be being nicer, puppy dog eyes and soppily asking for hugs. Usually he would revert to type after a bout 2 days of this but I'm wondering if he'll make it the full week as I've gone legal on him!

He's paranoid about me on the phone though, keeps asking who I'm texting and even said he'd thought I might be having an affair with a vague acquaintance of ours! When I said WTF! last night when he was talking about me being allowed out of the marriage in March, he immediately assumed I had someone lined up err yeah, Greg the plumber?

It's tiresome. he's never been this openly possessive or accusatory before.

Name he is escalating. Please be careful and call the police at the first sign of any pressure or violence or any more coercion.

Name: I think you need to be careful about logging out of this site when you've finished posting. You've made him curious now so it's only a matter of time before he starts prying.

"Openly possessive or accusatory" is just another weapon in his arsenal. He's got plenty and you've not seen the worst of them yet.

Never forget: this man is your enemy now. Be careful. Be vigilant. It's only a matter of time before he blind-sides you again.

Ok ,thanks darkest and bitter - I am always careful on line, he would have no clue about MN and I delete all my texts now since he went through my phone that time.

He will claim that I have made him paranoid with my dreadful behaviour but again, Abuse aside, I just wouldn't stick around if I didn't trust my other half and then he served papers on me at work!

Wow Annie, very insightful, sums him up really,

Name I have rad a lot of yr story today & think you are amazing -,I am so rooting for you too! :)
I hope you have some good RL friends supporting you...

That would be read!

Glad that you are sounding better, name.

Funnily enough, I read the first couple of posts of this thread before reading the end of the other one and thought 'Blimey, name has really moved quickly to have lined up this Greg chap....' before the penny dropped!

Standing with you. One day you will be looking back and all this will be behind you.

Found you :)

KOKO!

Just wanted to say, I am in a very similar dilemma to you, need to get out but because I cant 'prove' the EA I apparently have to choose between making myself and DCs homeless or living with the Dominator until i can get divorced. I got rid of him once, but took him back due to extreme emotional pressure, suicide threats and lack if RL support. I really feel for you, watching your situation and hoping that you have the strength to get away and that I do too. The sex thing I totally get; I feel like I no longer have control over my own body. It's so much harder than people think to stand up to, because of the backlash.