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I dislike my husband

167 replies

Edtfdess · 26/09/2014 21:16

He's sitting here slagging off everyone. Just stomped off to the bathroom calling Cheryl Cole a 'talentless, Jordie Slapper'.

I've had to sit here tonight and suffer another diatribe on immigrants, music (he's a failed musician and v bitter), and anyone who isn't him.

I did actually argue my point on a load of racist crap, but that just makes it worse. No he's just angry, slumped on the otherwise if the sofa on his iPad.

I'm lonley. I'm so sick of this.

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Edtfdess · 26/09/2014 21:16

*otherside.

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DontDrinkAndFacebook · 26/09/2014 21:17

You need to leave. When you've reached a place where you have nothing but contempt for someone there is nothing else for it.

sunnyrosegarden · 26/09/2014 21:18

Well, you know the mumsnet answer - LTB!

cluckymare · 26/09/2014 21:19

Does he have ANY redeeming qualities?
I too am sat here trying to think why I SHOULD like my husband (I too just started a topic about it)
Must be the night for it Sad

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Edtfdess · 26/09/2014 21:20

I know.

He's now not talking to me as I dared disagree with him.

Christ, it's Friday night. I wish I was with someone I could enjoy myself with and be myself around. I usually agree with him for an easy life, but then sometimes I say what I really think and then I get accused of ruining things.

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FelicityGubbins · 26/09/2014 21:21

I agree with him about Cheryl Cole...

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Edtfdess · 26/09/2014 21:23

He's now shouting at me for voicing my opinion.

God, this is pointless, isn't it? He likes it when I shut up, smile, clean the house.

Trouble is, he's not that bright and he talks a load of rubbish. It grates on me.

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Fairylea · 26/09/2014 21:24

Oh gosh he sounds like my first husband.. (who'd then have the audacity to say he had been in a good mood until I had put him in a bad one!)

He won't change. What a miserable life... you'd be happier on your own. At least you wouldn't have to put up with his moods.

When I left my twatty ex it was like a sigh of relief.

cluckymare · 26/09/2014 21:24

He's now not talking to me as I dared disagree with him.

Im now getting the silent treatment as well.

MiniTheMinx · 26/09/2014 21:25

FelicityGubbins, wow really. She might lack talent but is it really ok to call someone a slapper?

Find something else to do on a friday? Leave? sit in different rooms? find hobbies? have an affair? go to work overtime? your choice really, but if I were you I wouldn't spend any more time listening to his nasty racist rantings.

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Edtfdess · 26/09/2014 21:26

fairylea that's what he says!!! It's me that ruins his mood/day/night.

clucky I'm sorry, it's shot isn't it? Wankers.

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WaitingForMe · 26/09/2014 21:27

Did we have the same first husband Fairylea?

motleymop · 26/09/2014 21:28

I'd be furious if mine was raving on about how wonderful Cole is!

But joking aside, it sounds like you're reaching the end of your tether with the gloom. Are there good bits? How long has this feeling been going on? Is he miserable in his work as well?

WaitingForMe · 26/09/2014 21:29

Cross post, that's three of us!

Sorry you're going through this OP but there is more to life than this. I'm remarried now but I was happier after I left him. Falling in love again was just a bonus.

MiniTheMinx · 26/09/2014 21:29

OP, you just said "he's not that bright"

erm, has he suddenly become thick? why did you marry him? one might ask how someone with any intelligence could fail to notice their potential husband is thick.

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Edtfdess · 26/09/2014 21:29

No he loves his work. Always harping on about his rocketing career. Loves the people he works with, he's so nice to them it makes me sick.

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Edtfdess · 26/09/2014 21:30

Sorry, he loves his work until......I ask
Him to help round the house or with the baby. Then his job is hard, he hates it, only does it for us and he's knackered.

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Edtfdess · 26/09/2014 21:33

I realised he's not that bright over time. Believe me, he does a good impression of bring bright. But after we were married he told me he'd never read a book and never will. That's what I mean. Some of his beliefs are stupid. For example, he thinks the Japanese can eat sushi and 'we' would get ill if we did as they came from fish. Honestly.

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Edtfdess · 26/09/2014 21:34

Just keep my mouth shut, keep washing his clothes, picking ip after him and pretending to be quiet for an easy life.

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Fairylea · 26/09/2014 21:34

Ha! Maybe he remarried a few times?? Who knows.... :)

He'd also frequently choose subjects like immigration etc (that I was and am very left wing about) to pick a fight with me about and then get pissed off with me when I got annoyed! So ridiculous!

Life is too short for this shit really.

I am sitting here with dh (3rd one!) watching x factor and ipadding and having a laugh. No one should settle for life with a twat head.

MiniTheMinx · 26/09/2014 21:36

Hang on, so...he thinks the Japanese can eat sushi, because Japanese people descended from fish? LTB what a twat.

LEMmingaround · 26/09/2014 21:37

I think this could be the first ever matchmake on mnet - felicity gibbons with the OP's DH. Sorted

ugghh, i bet he votes ukip too

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Edtfdess · 26/09/2014 21:39

Yep. He got that from his dad. Asians come from fish. You can and will catch a cold from being cold. African people are a different species.

Mind boggling isn't it. You couldn't make it up.

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Edtfdess · 26/09/2014 21:39

Hahahahahahaha yes, UKip!!!

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MiniTheMinx · 26/09/2014 21:39

Fairylea, you are on your third? crikey, I had better get my skates on, I'm 40 and still a miss!

But seriously, could it be that because you have a baby you are forced to rely on him more for company? or have less money and time to socialise with others? Would you be happy with him if you saw less of him? probably, but how much less of him would you need to see? if the answer is "never" then it's time to call it a day.