I dislike my husband

[Edtfdess]

He's sitting here slagging off everyone. Just stomped off to the bathroom calling Cheryl Cole a 'talentless, Jordie Slapper'.

I've had to sit here tonight and suffer another diatribe on immigrants, music (he's a failed musician and v bitter), and anyone who isn't him.

I did actually argue my point on a load of racist crap, but that just makes it worse. No he's just angry, slumped on the otherwise if the sofa on his iPad.

I'm lonley. I'm so sick of this.

Oh well, I ruined the night, so he's gone to bed.

The thing is, I try so hard.

Wel if its any help I dislike your DH too.

Seriously, just tell him to do one!

How the actual fuck do some of you end up married to these people? Surely they don't start out as perfectly pleasant and then turn into total bellends overnight?

I dislike him as well. I think most people would.

It's not you. It's him.

(Mini - ah well, I've loved and lived a lot in a short time I guess... I'm 34 now. First dh (twat head) I left when dd was 6 months old, second dh left me after 5 years for ex girlfriend he found on Facebook and now remarried to a lovely man who is perfect. ..and have a 2 year old with him and my high school aged dd.. I seriously cannot tolerate any nonsense anymore. My tolerance just got less and less over time. I think everyone has a no more no more point).

Op but I just spat my tea everywhere at 'the japanese descended from fish' that is possibly the funniest thing I have every read on mn

On a more serious note, yes please do LTB he sounds like a nightmare.

Honestly, there are more blinders like the Japanese thing.

My personal favourite was "Muslims have only had mobile phones for ten years ".

I almost died laughing. He didn't speak to me for a day.

Honestly, there are more blinders like the Japanese thing.

My personal favourite was "Muslims have only had mobile phones for ten years ".

Oh good lord, this would be a mind-fuck to live with OP. By the time years have passed, you are going to dislike him a whole lot more than this .

Please tell me you don't have children wiht this man

Yes I have a baby.

God, this was such a terrible mistake. I don't even recognise who I am anymore.

OP- In all seriousness though, why on earth are you still with such a hateful, bitter, dislikeable man?

He sounds odious, and you clearly have zero respect for him (for good reason).

But...who is more stupid? The man who thinks the Japanese are descended from fish, or the woman who hasn't left him yet?

Something to mull over.

who is more stupid? The man who thinks the Japanese are descended from fish, or the woman who hasn't left him yet?

That sounds a bit Zen and I think it should be on a fridge magnet.

Well lets just hope that is doesn't think that 100% of IQ is inherited? and that he isn't right! then maybe you can salvage something from this mess, at least you have a lovely baby.

You really risk losing perspective and sight of who you are living with someone like this. It is inconceivable that you can spend a lot of time over years with someone and not assimilate any of their views into your own. He sounds totally batty.

I know, I am the stupid one.

But for the sake of a easy life, I'll be off to bed in a bit, cry myself to sleep for the thousandth time, be the one to wake with he baby in the night and be up with her at the crack of dawn. In the morning I'll make him coffee and breakfast on bed, be extra nice, apologise profusely for my 'behaviour' if needs be, wait on him hand and foot all day, keep my head down, smile, nod and agree.

that he doesn't think

Edtfdess, don't apologise and don't wait on him, why should you? It sounds utterly soul destroying.

I already have lost who I am.

And now I am angry at myself because why didn't I just nod me agree and keep my mouth shut. It make life easier all round.

It makes life easier for him if you nod and keep quiet yes, but it can't be making your life easier, either way you are losing sight of who you are. Do you have any family or friends you can speak to and help you could rely upon?

Anyone who thinks they need to keep their mouth shut and their head down in order to get through each day without a row should really be spending tomorrow packing a suitcase, not making her husband breakfast in bed.

Nope. No one. Only child, parents one dead, one with dementia. No real friends.

And now I am angry at myself because why didn't I just nod me agree and keep my mouth shut.

Because deep, deep down, you know you are worth more than this. You know what he says is utter, utter crap, and your mind reels against the constant stream of bullshit coming out of his mouth.

You will be doing yourself or your baby dd no favours by staying with this man.

You need to work out how to separate from him, you can't be with someone you don't like or respect - what on Earth is the point?

Ah, but you know who you are. Your personality comes across on this thread! You are intelligent, witty, strong. You just need the confidence to realise it.

Your husband is my father. Leave now before you find you have wasted 50 years of your life on that piece of shit and made you and your child(ren) truely miserable. Go and go now!

sunny thankyou. I can't tell you how long it's been since anyone said something nice about me.