feelings on porn

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Just wanted other peoples opinions on if they are ok with there partners/husbands watching porn regular ..do you get worried or wonder why they have the need to ??

I'm with you AF I'm hoping in the future it will be looked upon with the same disgust as the slave trade is looked on now - here's hoping

And just for zippey sake I also hope child slave labour/trafficking/treating animals badly will be a thing of the past too

Far too depressing for a midweek slump day

Watch a bit of porn might cheer you up a bit

whilst there is no doubt exploitation in the industry, I would be surprised if everyone involved was being exploited against their will

That's the point though isn't it. Not everyone is being exploited but there is no way of knowing who is and who isn't. So when you watch porn you don't know if you are actually watching abuse.

Ive had bfs in the past who watched it openly one tried showing me but it just did nothing for me at all I dont really know why anyone gets off on it. Ive never really had an opinion on it to be fair maybe through my own ignorance.
I deffinately wouldnt let it come between my relationship unless he was using it as some sort of substitute over me or needing it to get him horny.

WOW AF. You deem seem to have a habit of labelling people who have a different point of view to you. I wonder why you engage in the first place. Your position seems to be that ALL porn is bad and unethical. I think some is. But not all.

yes, xena, because I am a joyless old sex-hating harridan, you got me

like I said, sometimes it's simply not necessary to say anything more

Fairenuff, agreed. There may be abuse and we will not know it, much like a strip club I presume.

Nope, hate it.

I married someone who 'read' a mag when he was 14 but never viewed porn in any form after that. Although people love to tell me he is lying.

He is as much against it as I am.

I find it disgusting. Treating women like commodities, the unrealistic expectations of sex and the whole industry and seediness of it.

I would not want anyone to view my daughter as nothing but tits and arse and so I don't want to contribute towards other people's daughters being seen that way either.

Sadly, I was talking to my teen son who has looked at some porn and it was very clear that he and his friends have a completely unrealistic ideas about what sex is like and what every day woman look like naked :( We talk about this a lot but I do worry about the amount of teens who view it so easily are going to become very dissatisfied with their sex life when it turns out like it really isn't like a porn movie. He watched some on someones iPhone at lunch time at school. I hate how accessible it has become to young people.

I would leave my husband if he ever watched it and he would me. I couldn't be married to someone who has such a low opinion of women and doesn't care about what actually goes on. I can't fathom how anyone can get turned on by it knowing what so many of these women go through. Nothing sexy about that.

Surely "ethical porn" is an oxymoron.

You don't know that the adults are consenting placid. Even if it looks like they are, you don't know. There could be any number of reasons why a woman would make it 'look good' for the camera. Threats and drugs being very high up there.

You really don't know. If you are ok with that then you are ok with watching women be abused sometimes.

I know that's hard to admit to yourself and it's easier for your own conscience to deny it but abuse does happen and you have no way of knowing if you're watching it.

AF Sex can be really fun!!

MysteryMan1 My exs best friend went out with a stripper she was very much there by choice. I had been a number of times during nights out with them and sat and chatted to some of the strippers they were actually really nice lasses I think I was more forced there than them

aaha looks like someone already said my husband was lying.

Makes you feel better doesn't it? to think all men watch it. The women ime who believe all men watch it are the ones who are desperate to convince themselves that their partners viewing of porn is just natural and healthy so perhaps they don't have to question it.

Since when are all women in poem being abused and raped..??

Wow there are some very jaded views on this thread

This is 2014, sex is normal, people have sex, people watch sex, it's a billion pound industry...

Porn is not some dirty secret, people should not have to hide it or be forced to by partners who disapprove

If you don't like it, so be it but don't try to inflict that on to others

After all they are doing nothing wrong by watching it, each to their own.

If you can't be arsed then don't!

I knew / know some lovely girls who are involved in the adult sex industry and they are neither addicts or abused. They are intelligent ladies who have made a career choice and who earn a hell of a lot more than I do.

It wouldn't be my choice but I stand by their choice to support themselves however they see fit. They pay tax (again, a lot more than I do)

Yes the adult sex industry has lots problems. I'm not sure how we would go about fixing it - but blanket 'porn is the worst thing ever' doesn't really progress anything. How we go about educating young men about porn is a more interesting topic.

If the OP is comfortable with the arrangement between. Herself and her partner then great. Best to be open and honest about these things IMO

Porn* not poem

U2 I worry that my DDs will think that porn-type sex is normal, that that behaviour is what is expected of girls. Multiple partners. Gang bangs. Semen on their faces. Sex with strangers. Even "Sexy" outfits.

DD1 has seen porn and she is TEN.

Since when are all women in poem being abused and raped..??

I don't know what thread you're reading Salene but no-one has said that on this thread

I just don't think you can blanket it all with the same brush. The amateur husband and wife sites seem perfectly ethical to me. Just obviously adult humans with an exhibitionist streak. How can you be so sure that it must be about abuse?

It is everywhere. Primary schools are rife with it.

I don't think OP is comfortable with her partner, that's why she started this thread.

I should have said men too. I admit that I have read tons of things about women in porn and not so much men so I think mostly about the women which is wrong.

The amateur husband and wife sites seem perfectly ethical to me. Just obviously adult humans with an exhibitionist streak. How can you be so sure that it must be about abuse?

Firstly you don't know that they are actually partners. Secondly you don't know that she consented.

How can you be so sure that she is not being abused?

You really, really don't know. You watch it and don't spare a thought for that woman. She could be in fear for her safety, or the safety of her children. You just don't know.

Even if it is genuinely a couple having consensual sex, has she given permission to upload it onto the internet? How do you know.

The answer is quite simple, you don't know. You really don't.

Page 1 and 2 people are going on about girls in porn being raped and men getting off on watching women being abused

I absolutely agree we need to do more to restrict access to it to prevent children becoming inured. Not sure how to solve that one though.