feelings on porn

[lollypop77]

Just wanted other peoples opinions on if they are ok with there partners/husbands watching porn regular ..do you get worried or wonder why they have the need to ??

Yeah, yeah. Let's shift the focus about one harmful activity to another. Like we can't think about more than one thing at once.

That's another "trope". By the way, that buzzword you keep using doesn't make your arguments any more relevant.

Actually, there is no guarantee that a vegetarian/vegan diet is 'abuse free'. The agricultural industry uses trafficked labour.

I don't know he'd want to do it regularly, but I don't mind and have been known to enjoy it myself.
I don't like the new stuff and neither does dh, if you are able to find real good porn then its ok with both of us.
I'm not sure I could be with somebody who rally opposed my views on something like this.
I don't think he thinks any less of me because he watches porn, it doesn't make me insecure.
I assume you are an adult and wonder why you need to ask why they have the need to.
They have dangly bits that need a regular sorting out, better this than trying to pressurise somebody.
I must stress though if both parties aren't happy about it I don't think the other should just Pun intended.

They have dangly bits that need a regular sorting out, better this than trying to pressurise somebody.

What? Porn is good because it helps men not commit rape?

That's bull shit anyway. Men who use porn regularly have less sex with their partners and less enjoyable sex (scientific studies have shown, due to chemicals in the brain) I wouldn't be happy with my partner using porn instead of having sex with me, it is a threat to healthy relationships when it becomes a habit

Conversely it can be a response to an unhealthy relationship too. No 'one size fits all' in this debate.

Completely not the right solution long term though.

Housework isn't a sexual activity. There are many things that improve or detract from relationship satisfaction, change dynamics etc. However, the repetitive use of porn damages libido and sexual performance.

If I'm in a relationship I would hope that my partner would like to have their "recreational" sex with ME, not just procreational! I'm not going to compete with porn, thanks.

Oh, I remember that article. If you calculated the actual difference in numbers of shags, it was something like 8 per year - less than one a month difference, anyhow.

Yep, I'd rather have an equal relationship and 0.75 fewer shags a month, or whatever.

Plus... Shall we postulate that in a relationship where one party feels entitled to leave the shit work to the other party, one party might also feel entitled to have sex on the other party? It's a hypothesis and would need further research, of course.

And by " feeling entitled to", I mean getting grumpy if said party doesn't get to do the sex, or in other ways behaving unpleasantly.

They have dangly bits that need a regular sorting out, better this than trying to pressurise somebody. This is utter nonsense, it's not a 'need', it's a 'want, and a bloody selfish one too!

Aside from the possible abuse, which contributes to my extreme dislike of porn, it does affect relationships in many ways. There are many forums for porn addicts and their partners, some of them very young. Porn is very damaging. Obviously the pro porn posters on here have never been affected by these things so don't have any need to change their views.