dragonfly my ex started like yours, eroded and wrecked every friendship I had. sulking, bitching about them, and me, and terrorised me into seeing that having anything in my life except him was wrong, and that i'd suffer the consequences.
after isolating me, we went abroad and he'd not allow/enable me to go out. for months I was stuck in a flat, with a small baby. and him.
I ended up with mild agoeaphobia and muscle wastage.
he was the perfect man for me. for about a year. he was then a little bit hideous, but as long as I didn't rock the boat was 'manageable'. When we went abroad was when he stepped it up and I was lost.
it took him 5 years to get to this stage.
yours took 5 months.
I spent 10 years with miine, and when it ended I was a terrified shadow of myself, afraid to even do the school run, but having to (feeling sick) because there was no-one else to help me.
do yourself the biggest, kindest favour? end this.
end it because it's what you HAVE to do. we know it's not what you want to do, but it's a seriously dangerous relationship.
it could kill you. seriously. or it turns your life into a miserable existence.
mumsnet was there for me when I emerged from the end of the relationship, we won't let you down. if you end it, you'll feel sad, miserable, of course, but you'll be doing it for the right reasons. let us hold your hand, we'll be there for you for as long as you need it!
what wallaby says is exactly right, he'll erode your life to nothing, he'll suck every bit of joy out of it, he'll hurt everything/everyone you love JUST to hurt you, just to gain control.
thinking of you. PM me if you need to?