First lesbian date? Clueless old bird needs your help.

[Nearlyteatime]

In short: was married to a man for years despite knowing I was gay from young age. Marriage ended amicably several years ago, but there's been too much going on in recent years for me to consider dating. Have NCed as I've posted so much on here that would identify me!

I have never dated. My relationships have evolved from close friendships.

A woman I've met a couple of times (and really like) has asked if I'd like to discuss a shared interest (let's say "upholstery" for the sake of anonymity) over wine. I've said yes. I know she's gay. She knows I'm gay. We've fixed a date. But is it a date, or is it just talking and drinking?

If I wanted to talk about 'upholstery' with someone and didn't want it to be misconstrued, I'd always say coffee, not wine.

Really, really hoping it's a date...

Any advice on how to read the signs, o wise and lovely MNers?

And if it doesn't work out with Adara, I've got a lovely friend for you

Ha ha 2 people talking about upholstery. I've heard it called many things but never that. Have fun.

If a colleague tells me on Monday she did a bit of felting over the weekend, there's a real danger I'll give her a slow wink. "And how was your (ahem) 'felting'?"

Ha ha ha! This thread has changed your life forever I fear

Ooh I love a bit of felting! Good luck OP

Also, hi GhoulWithADragonTattoo, good name ;)

[Waves] to girlwiththegruffalotattoo! Great minds and all that!

I call date.

A woman wouldn't be mentioning wine unless she was:

A) going out with a group of friends or
B) seeing her best friend she has known forever

The fact she's going out of her way just proves it more for me.

Have a good time on your date and see what happens :)

I too love this thread. Never thought that 'upholstery' could be so erotic and redolent of promise. You sound lovely, OP. I hope you get everything you want from your evening out.

I love the way that 'upholstery' has morphed from a substitute for a respectable RL interest into a sordid euphemism.

Oh I have to mark my place

This thread really makes me - op, you sound utterly fab. Can't wait for the updates

Deforestation of the brow completed.

DC are gainfully employed in piano playing and comic making. I have to tell you that because it counterbalances the fact that I lost it spectacularly with them earlier when they ended up scrapping in a flower bed about who had the better deal (stale chocolate cake vs squashed Tunnocks tea cake) and I actually did the 'count yourself lucky because some people have to eat out of bins' screech speech and hurled my secateurs across the garden, thereby forfeiting occupation of high ground.

All this high emotion, Date Speculation and Eighties pop has left me a bit heady so I'm going to retrieve my secateurs and do some intensive gardening this afternoon (by which I mean going into the ACTUAL real life garden and pulling up weeds. Steady).

Laters.

Ooh lady gardening good luck OP you do sound lovely, fun and interesting so I'm pretty certain it's a date and she's looking forward to plumping your cushions. Look forward to the update.

Ooh exciting good luck OP

I'm so excited for you OP

Can we officially make 'upholstery' a MN euphemism?

Well, I'm about to commence the making of a roman blind, can I join the corset ripping heaving bosom gang please? Or is haberdashery a bit short on passionate promise?

Haberdashery definitely sounds a bit saucy!

Ooh, Mumsnet, can we have an upholstery emoticon thingie??

Haberdashery is rampant fucking in a car, absolutely insatiable. Upholstery is passionate sex in bed or the kitchen. IMO.

Ohh yes, MN do lets have a nice upholstery emoticon, perhaps a smart red sofa...

I reckon haberdashery would be the kind of preamble you get before the passionate sex, the sort of flirting you do when you know where they evening is headed but you're not quite there yet.

OP you sound lovely and if she doesn't lunge for you it's her loss and MNs gain, frankly.

Overlocking could be fun

So, glowwith, haberdashery is what the OP will engage in before the upholstery?

Exactly! Visiting the haberdashers before a spot of upholstery makes sense to me...

Ooo, only just seen this

How does she know you're gay BTW?

BTW NearlyTeaTime, your story about coming out and overcoming all that anguish is inspiring. You're fab and you totally deserve to be haberdashed and upholstered to your heart's content. I really hope you get it

Marking place Teatime, as I join the hoards who are living vicariously through your excitement.