Hello again - thought I'd check in to check up that you're still checking out!
Talking of 'checks' (US).
Just so you know, you really don't need to keep your SHL updated with his fuckwittery - it just costs you ££££s for them to receive the emails. It makes not one jot of difference to the divorce.
Keep notes and discuss anything you have concerns/anxiety about the next time you have to make an appointment.
As soon as you want out of the marriage, off you tot! Whatever 'game' he wishes to play is for much later down the road in proceedings - and even then, it doesn't matter one jot.
This is all about arrangements for the children (i.e. you remain their mother, you remain the primary carer, you remain in the family home) and the finances (you get a minimum of 50% of the assets).
That's it. The rest is just bureaucracy. He can allege all he likes - it still begs the question: why now are you so concerned? What stopped you being superman before the divorce?
You're going to be absolutely fine - in the interim he is going to be a twat, a arse and a wanker.
Keep up the dissociation.
Nothing is going to change except that a) you'll be managing your own budget, b) bringing up your own children c) in your own home and d) without your husband.
Take care.