Work Stress? Err don't think so mate!

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I can't copy and paste a link rather annoyingly - but this is my follow on thread from my original How far can he take the stressed from work excuse?

It burst at the seams with all the fantastic MN support I received and so I have started a new one as I carry on my journey of divorcing my very abusive husband.

I'm awake here in Malaysia and I'm sure others are over this side of the world should you need company as the nights comes in.

Hope you are ok op. You have been in my thoughts x

Dr lurking from deepest darkest Cornwall - good luck for tomorrow lovely, stay strong, brave and awesome. A better (oh so much better) future awaits xx

Another de-lurker here: good luck for tomorrow name - you are strong and wonderful and I look forward to hearing about your new, fantastic life once this bit is over.

I've been following your thread(s) from the beginning and I am wishing you all the best for tomorrow. You're almost there

Right name time for a nice calming and then ready to face the day. This is your day, the first day of the rest of your life.

I will try and check on you during quiet spells in school (totally against the rules) but please be assured I am thinkin of you every minute.

Good luck, stay safe and be strong. Pom poms all the way. .

Remember you have all these mumsnetters around the world standing behind you. At no moment of the day or night there won't be someone thinking of you.

Another de-lurker thinking of you today. Be strong xx

Hoping will go quietly and smoothly for you today, stay safe x

De-lurking from Essex to say:

2-4-6-8
Things are gonna be just great!
3-5-7-9
Get those papers served in time!
Service day! Service day!
GooooooOOOO NAME!

waves pom poms like a mad'un

Oooohhh Blimey.

Chin up, stones face on and remember this is the first day of the rest of your life.

I have spin at 9.30 and will be peddling away thinking of you.

Thank you so so much I really don't know what to say, you people are amazing

Well, here it is, D Day! I'm feeling ok, quite calm at the moment. I don't think he slept with me in the bed last night, I woke up with a start at about 3ish I think and he wasn't there. I left him working on his laptop when I went to bed (he works SO hard everyone, always working, busting a gut for his family!)

Last night he came home and started on me about why I wasn't wearing my wedding rings (which I honestly kept forgetting about!) there was nothing wrong with him letting me down on Saturday but everything wrong with me complaining about it, he is working SO hard for us and I just don't get or appreciate how hard. He may shout, call me 'generic' names like cunt or retard, and might punch himself in the head occasionally and of course there was the spit in the face, and all that makes him look bad, but what about me and my clever 'behind the scenes' winding him up that no one sees? Where's his apologies from me, why am I always playing the victim about it? He wouldn't care a toss if I spat in his face and called him a cunt. Will he ever get his day in court to put his side across?? (He meant in front of a marriage guidance counsellor!!) um yeah H, day in court heading your way son!

I just said please stop ranting I don't want to talk about any of this now. And then after that he turned pleasant because there was a programme on he wanted to watch and I needed to help him with a couple of legal forms from his old work!

I felt bombarded but went to bed and thought 'he can say and do whatever the hell he likes....I am putting me and the girls first from now on - no more bullshit'

So - there we have it - my exhausting last night with my H! he knows it's all hanging by a fraying thread.

I'm hiding upstairs now hoping and praying he will have gone by the time I venture down - I can leave it as late as 8am.

Ok so I will let you know what happens!!! I think judging from him last night I can expect a volley of abuse and threats but then that's nothing new is it!

I will just say 'I'm sorry you feel like that but my mind's made up' 'you are being aggressive I strongly advise you not to turn up at the house or the police will be called' and other words to that effect!!

Love to you all, all over the world and UK!! I really would not have got here without MN - really!! Be back soon

Good luck today name

I hope everything goes perfectly!

Please don't be afraid to make good on that threat of calling the police.
Don't even stop to think about it.

Good luck today, have been lurking but will be thinking of you

I won't Egg, I really really won't - I'm in new territory here, I don't want him coming in at all tonight so I will threaten him with the police , will call 101 this morning and will have my phone on me at all times. I will also tell the solicitor straight away if he's threatening on the phone

Will be thinking of you name

Has he gone to work...?

Another delurking to wave the pompoms as your H leaves the house for the final time this morning. He's had it coming for a long, long time... for you

My first thought when I woke up this morning was of you name. We're all rooting for you but like we all keep saying, keep your wits about you. Stay strong, the day you dreamed of is almost here.

Will keep checking in on you, x

De-lurking to send you love and strength.

You have an army behind you x

All the best for today, Name

Thank you!! Yes he's gone, that felt like a small victory in itself. I'm going to drop the girls at school then phone 101 on the way to the freedom programme

Yay - go team name Today is the day I put out the trash. Same for you!

Thanks Carbe
Thanks Anyone
Thanks The name

Another de-lurker here. Good luck, darling. X

I'm delurking to cheer you on op. He really is a vile piece of work. Will be doing a victory arm pump for you later, best wishes, stay safe x