Oh, are there other thread? I was only going by what the OP posted on this thread.
I've been trying to work out why this thread both intrigues & irritates me intensely (in between meeting /missing a couple of deadlines damn you, MN so here are some [disjointed] points:
It's the unrealistic notion of "being a writer" and the OP is untested untried. She says she's had some work published & paid for. Why not more?
She's been given a huge amount of really excellent advice, but no, la la la la (we need a "fingers in the ears" smiley)
It's the dismissal of "drudgery" jobs which many people have to do just to survive. Those jobs are essential to our society and should be regarded with dignity.
But I think it's more than that: paid work is a way to self-worth. And I'm only too aware as a woman that we all come from a history of being excluded from paid work, and formal education which lead to (well/better)paid work.
A life is a long thing, and child-rearing takes only a small part of it (speaking in time, rather than emotional resources).
The OP is not thinking about that future and getting some training. It looks from what she's said in this thread she has only GCSEs, and a DH who wants the comfortable lifestyle in which he was raised.
(And as a side question, what is wrong with that?)
Why doesn't she do a degree -- maybe a history degree, which would give her a far broader view of the world, research skills for her writing, exposure to all sorts of different types of writing, and writing for different purposes (why do most people who say "I want to be a writer" always want to be novelists? It pays far less than other sorts of writing). Or a Social Work degree: her experience of early teen motherhood taking over her life etc etc that she hints at on this thread would be of use, and the job would give her such an insight into all sorts of ways of life and thinking.
But more than anything else, I'm probably a generation older than most of you here (my son is grown to around the OP's age when she had her DS, I could be a grandmother if he were at all precocious!) And I was raised in an extended family where all the women were SAHMs - for several generations in fact. And I saw the talented energetic women who are my mother, aunts, grandmothers, all stymied by lack of formal education, and the assumption -- by themselves & everyone around them, that raising children was enough It's a huge job, but I don't think it's enough for a whole lifetime. It's never been enough for most men, why should it be enough for most omen?
I've seen several of my aunts have MH issues, my grandmother also -- nd I think that their issues were at base, that their lives, as determined by the "old" model of gender roles, was just not enough. But that was, apparent their failing, not that of the limitations of gender roles.
And if we go back into the 1800s: when women were incarcerated in mental institutions for wanting to be educated, wanting to work and develop careers & influence just like men.
What really worries me about this next generation (early 20s young people) is that many of the women are falling into this old old trap. They don't know about the awfulness that Betty Fridan wrote about: the "feminine mystique" and so on.
That is not to say that SAHmming while DCs are very young is not a productive thing, but that it may not be enough for the next 50 years.