Dating Thread 80

[UrsulaBuffay]

As we were saying...

[steelchic]

JUJU, lol I wouldn't have minded if he slightly scratched that itch, I was still very itchy. Yes I've put it down to experience, ( not an experience I would like again) x

[steelchic]

Jarlin, he did but that wasn't the problem really. It was a bit strange sorry in advance if this is TMI! He didn't get a full erection but still managed if you know what I mean, but I felt nothing,and then he lasted about 30 seconds, he apologised I was very understanding , saying don't worry about it cos honestly I know these things happen esp 1st time. The problem was he was really quite rough, no regard for me, his idea of foreplay was squeezing my boobs very roughly like he was kneading bread, it was very uncomfortable. We tried again in the morning same problem but he lasted about 60 seconds, even less foreplay, honestly I felt like a piece of meat. And to cap it all he let of 2 enormous farts ( I think he though I was asleep ...I wasn't I was just waiting for a decent amount of time between DTD and leaving as I wanted to spare his feelings) if it had just been ED we could have worked on it. He is a very intelligent guy and a good communicator he must honestly know he has a problem, it was so awkward I had a coffee again to spare his feelings didn't just want to get up and go :( x

[steelchic]

Jarlin, I do remember you're posts about Slow, am I right in thinking he new he had a problem ? My Mr Farter seems to think he's some sort of stud !

[minmooch]

Steel sorry but I had to laugh at you calling him Mr Farter! I had a bf once who had ed problems. But we loved each other, had a great relationship (aside from sex) and enjoyed other areas of sex. However I don't know if I would proceed now with a relationship if the sex was terrible at the beginning. I've had way too much bad/boring sex to waste my energy now - I'd rather do without. However you don't know until you try! The two enormous farts would have put me right off. I know they are a bodily function but not on your first night together.

[steelchic]

Exactly Min, the Farts were the final straw ! Lol , sex for me isn't the be all and end all as long as lots of kisses and cuddles. The last relationship I had ( before he dumped me back in May ) the sex wasn't fantastic but he was so gentle and caring and he was the most fabulous kisser, lots of affection etc. Mr Farters idea of snogging was to just to stick his tongue as far down my throat as he could. So disappointed I had high hopes for him, quite good looking, good job ticked a few boxes. I'm so glad he's not the 1st encounter I've had after my EH (he's the 2nd) if he had have been the 1st I think I'd have given up. X

[Blossomflowers]

Morning all, hope it was a good weekend for everyone. Well MRItailian get in touch test and called so seems just me being sensitive.

[LittleBlueMouse]

Steel you are a much kinder person than me, sparing his feelings. Perhaps he hasn't had much experience???

Jarlin Sometimes its a timing thing. I think if I wasn't 40 I might even consider someone with a life limiting condition, thinking in terms of long term, I would have time to rebuild my life. I think as we get older it becomes more important to consider long term and whether many years on you could be left alone.

Minmooch sounds like two good dates.

I text MrC yesterday, still no reply. I know I am bad at keeping in touch over the weekend, I have dcs and spend time with them, but I do know, that had he wanted he could have text back. Put this way, I know he isn't stuck up the side of a mountain, whereas I have been in the past! This is make and probably break week for me. I am tired. Got to the point where I am ambivalent about the whole thing I'm sure that isn't the effect he is aiming for but I don't like games.

[LittleBlueMouse]

Blossom its so easy to panic and read too much into the silences. I do all the time.

[Blossomflowers]

little I know but have good reason to fret a bit. Have had a couple of guys who seemed really keen but then only to suddenly disappear in to thin air. Very odd but seems to happen a lot for what I have been reading.

[LittleBlueMouse]

I think sometimes they go poof so it leaves them the opportunity to go ping. They drop off and reappear. If they were to say "hey no spark" or "I have found someone else" or "I think she will put out quicker so got to dash" it would close the door behind them. I am becoming very cynical, can you tell!

[Blossomflowers]

little I am already in your cynic club. I would have been really annoyed with MRItalian if he did the disappearing act, especially as he begged not to date anyone over the weekend and give him a chance. Well did spend lots of time with X but nothing happened, just food and lots of chatting.

[JuJuHeyHey]

Oh good grief, what is wrong with these people who think that the other person in bed is just there as a human wanking post?! Steel, next time a bloke does anything that makes you feel uncomfortable in bed - or, god forbid, hurts - say a loud, indignant 'Woah! Did you puncture your last girlfriend?!' and make good your exit. It won't get any better if they think that a tongue rammed down throat and breasts kneaded into bruises is in any way shape or form a pleasant experience for you!!!

[JuJuHeyHey]

(Err, rant over btw...)

[steelchic]

JuJu, I know, I need to toughen up ! Haven't heard anything from him (thankfully ) I'm angry with myself that I let it happen, I won't be in that situation again. "puncture your last girlfriend" love it x

[Blossomflowers]

Well just got back from date no 3 with Mr Italian, it was reallly nice. So easy to chat think he really likes me and he is really growing on me, early days.

[JuJuHeyHey]

Aw, don't be angry with yourself! Just be thankful that you have a 'try before you buy' policy! I mean, what if you'd gone and fallen for him and then that had happened!? SO much worse!

[steelchic]

JUJU you're right I was starting to really like him, I think another few dates in I would have been falling for him, so glad in away it happened sooner rather than later. Now I can walk away and not look back. I think I fall to easily I'm going to have to think with my head and not my heart, :(

[Justatoe]

steel I think you are being too hard on yourself....you liked him, DTD & realised not what you wanted, so walked away. Sounds to me like you thought with your head.

[steelchic]

Justatoe, yip I have walked away, that's it the end. :)
But talk about heart ruling head, I emailed my ex tonight ( not EH but guy I dated for 6 months) god he is so lovely, the anniversary of ours firsts meeting is next week , he said he remembers everything about our date, I told him about my horrible experience, he was so lovely said lot of lovely things, it's obvious we still have deep feelings for each other but he left me for someone from his past and he's still with her, But still something there on both our parts, but nothing can come of it. He was the opposite of Mr Farter, I've never been with a more gentle, loving and considerate man :( x

[UrsulaBuffay]

Wow you lot can talk! We need a new thread - someone start one