Dating Thread 80

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As we were saying...

Lottie it sounds like you are uncomfortable about it? I don't know too much about dating norms, but if it was the other way around, ie 34 yr old guy going out with a 21 yr old girl, that sounds fairly acceptable as in both are adults and free to do as they please? Although, some eyebrows would be raised, he'd hardly be called a child molester or anything along those lines! What's more important is how it would make you feel, IMO.

I struggled a bit to have a conversation with Mr Engineer on the phone. Could have been that it was late, I/he was tired, we don't know each other well, he could be boring! A second date will soon tell.

Grrrr, what is it about Friday's seem to get messages form even more knob heads. Am in a bad mood anyway but just got a message saying "would you like to make love" to which I replied "yes but not with you" childish but really. This one of many idiotic attempts to make contact today.

blossom love it, that's a perfect response.

He replied to that saying he was I did not want to but was just asking WTAF. My reply to him was "so would walk up to some random person in the street and ask them that, no I did not think so, all brave behind a computer screen though" He has at least apologised now. See am in a right mood, normally do not respond to idiots.

Just on my way back from lunch time date with MrMMA. It went quite well I think. Definitely some spark/physical attraction but I wasn't blown away or anything. We have quite different views on certain things too. Anyway, I went in for the kiss and he hugged and kissed me on the cheek . He's text saying thanks for a lovely time. I'm going to guess he wasn't feeling it with me. Next!

single he might just be shy re the kiss thing. I had a similar thing with MrItalian and he is very keen to see me again but maybe too much too soon for him?

Jarlin I will meet him - the kiss in the car park was worth a second date! I don't particularly like talking on the phone after a certain time of night (is that an age thing?) so I probably wasn't that scintillating either .

Got a party to go to tonight. Haven't really 'done' parties since my son was diagnosed and none since he died. I'll just pop in for a bit and see how I feel.

OK, maybe I am being trigger happy.. I'll be happy for input.

I met the guy on POF, few emails/texts before I went on holiday, picked it back up when I got back. arranged to meet a week ago last monday, was lovely, bit of a smooch/snoggette not tongues down throat etc, but certainly not the kiss you'd give a relative... :)

Met him again this Monday just gone, again, super lovely evening, more of a snog.

In between only texts, he's never rung me, so all i get is hello, how are you, sleep well, good morning, i'm doing this/that, what about you? so no depth at all.

then i met him again last night, dinner, country pub, all fine. we broached the subject of 'pasts' dating, what he wants in a relationship etc.

end of the evening, walks me to car, more of a snog and then 'I guess in terms of next steps etc, moving the relationship on etc (i got the inkling that it was actually about him making it to the next 'base' with me..) it'd be about your son. I could erm, arrange to bump into you both...

I replied In Time, and he took that as an answer..

i'm not ready to sleep with a person I have known for a total of 2 weeks and spent only, what, 6 - 8 hours with, not when there is nothing but text in between, no banter, no cheek, no 'rapport'. I am not going to introduce my child just to make a leg over easier.

Ooh, Hissy I don't blame you at all. I don't like introducing my children at all. My last boyfriend didn't meet my kids for a year! Probably a bit OTT but I don't want them seeing random people who might not be around in 2 weeks time.

Question - I do feel a but uncomfortable about it but he seems to think this is unreasonable!

jarlin I know how you feel about weekend plans. I booked tickets to a play this weekend, and a film next week and two more plays over the next two weeks, so I'mmaking my own plans now and will find ppl to join me one way or another!

hissy it does sound way too rushed and for very wrong reasons to start meeting your DS.

lottie I don't think YABU, it's about how you feel. It's a personal choice.

I have another date tonight, Amsterdam ain't too far, right? [Grin] he lives there btw, date's not there..

I just replied with 'thank you also'. He's now texted making light of the awkward goodbye moment , but also to ask for a second date .

Quick loo update...ahh I'm falling in love!

No time on this date for a loo update .
After 15 mins of my sterling efforts to make conversation he said it feels awkward, all new to him & would like to take it slowly but still see me again. I don't think so sunshine..I've given up my Friday night, put a frock on & bought DO a takeaway as you offered to take me for a meal.
Twat.

Aghh DD

questions Amsterdam very nice & quick flight. Hope it goes well.

I have never struggled to converse with anyone like I did tonight. I spend most of my working day chatting to wide range of people & engaging with them so figure it ain't me. An hour round trip for 15 min date grrr. So rude.

Ooh is he Dutch, questions? I think Dutch men are very sexy and funny (massive generalisation, obviously!!)

Hope party is going/went well, Minmooch - I agree, phone calls with potential dates are a massive effort for me. Happy to talk once it's established that there's a definite attraction, but until then, I'm not really up for it. Mind you, I can barely be bothered talking to friends on 'phone these days, I'd much rather save the chat until we meet.

Hi all, can i throw my experience in?
I started OLD a year after i left me EXH, i met a man i used to do nothing but boost my ego. He was funny and good looking, but right from the start my gut reaction was id never be able to introduce him to my friends (thick as sh*t, but amusing all the same), 2nd man was dumped in the que while waiting to order a coffee on our first 'date'. I then met my DP. Hes fantastic. Throughout all of this i treat OLD exactly how i would RL.
We met, sat chatted and agreed to meet again, at this point we agreed to have the exclusive chat. In RL we wouldnt expect potential partners to multi date, its a respect thing. It showed we both thought 'this is worth giving it all my attention' and not hedging my bets keeping others on the go. We dont play games about who contacts first, its a case of who has time to send a sneaky message from work etc. with a proper catchup at night.
I hope this helps (its too easy to get in a busy head mode and not see the blatantly obvious). But basically respect-for yourself and anyone you want to involve in your life.

jog I am glad you have found the one & take your point about multi dating.
I find, however, that multi dating prevents me from becoming over invested too soon & helps me cope with inevitable twats I meet.

Just i lurke on this thread, and there seem to be a lot of twats about! Keep the filters switched firmly on, and during the screening process any twinge of 'im not sure i agree there' delete, i was so ruthless you'd think i looked like Claudia Schiffer-but i found it easier to delete men on a whim rather than go to the effort of giving them a chance. Lifes too short.

(i didnt mean other posters are twats btw! i mean men they come across)

just I'm gobsmacked on your behalf!

Dutch guy was luuurvely! Cutest dimples! And a doctor. I just had to take him home let's see if he's just a flash in the pan type guy. I hope not!