aibu to think this is disgusting?

[knowledgeispower]

I recently started online dating and have met up with 2 guys. The first date went okay, there was no spark.

The second guy I met up with was a real sweetheart and we took to each other straight away. We arranged a second date and he stayed at mine. We dtd and it was wonderful. It was so good to feel wanted and desired again. He was really gentle, considerate and was a gent throughout. We had a condom split on the last time (4 tines in all) and I said of get the morning after pill and get the implant refitted. He admitted he's a worrier and I said well if it turned out I was to get pregnant I would always keep it as I couldn't abort for personal reasons. We carried on talking and he said something along the lines of: 'well I'd have to kick you in the cunt'....

I was totally shocked and told him so, he immediately backed down as he could see how disgusted I was. He said: 'do you really think I could do that to you'!

Apart from this comment he has been wonderful, he wants to see me again but I'm unsure!

Wwyd?

[LuluJakey1]

My DH would not make that comment ever, not ever, not flippantly, not as some weird joke or by mistake or anything. What kind of man even has that comment anywhere in him? That it exists somewhere in his 'mind' is incredibly disturbing.

It is disgusting.

[BringMeSunshine2014]

That made my stomach turn over.

I hope this is a wind up thread (can't be bothered checking your posting history).

If it's not, I hope you got the MAP and realise that you'd be fucking bonkers to see this wanker again. If not, I guess you'll be posting frequently

[DoItTooJulia]

Don't ignore this early signal. Please.

[ohfourfoxache]

No no no no no no no no no.

Don't see him again - sickening

[ApplebyMennym]

OK, I didn't read the OP properly, missed that this was on a 2nd date. I revise my feelings to "unacceptable". If it was a serious comment of course it would be disgusting no matter what, and as a joke it's far too soon to judge how that will go down.

[Vivacia]

Holy. Shit.

[AnyFucker]

what

the

fuck

[MildDrPepperAddiction]

Red flag!!!

[RedRoom]

It's hard to imagine what went through his mind when he thought 'in this conversation about unplanned pregnancy, 'I'll kick you in the cunt' will be a suitable thing to say.'

Even if the word 'cunt' doesn't offend you and you assume that the 'kicking' you part was in no way a sincere threat of violence, it doesn't change the fact that you were talking about something as serious as unplanned pregnancy and abortion. At the very, very best, he is immature, thoughtless, insensitive and unable to engage his brain before speaking.

There js absolutely no way that I would see this man again if I were you. He's not remotely on your wavelength and you certainly don't want an imbecile like him fathering any of your children!

[SweetErmengarde]

An ex of mine used to make "jokes" like this.

I'm pretty easygoing when it comes to language, but this was indicative of his superior, disrespectful attitude to women.

Unfortunately, I didn't break up with him until after he had given me a black eye and a fat lip.

Don't see him again, OP. You're only a couple of dates in and already he is showing you who he is.

[getthefeckouttahere]

+1 sweet.

Its unusual that anyone should let the mask slip so early on. Lucky you, at least you get to ditch him now.

[Davidtennantmistress]

Vile person totally disgusting.

Like previous posters my dp wouldn't dream of using the c word around me it's majorly offensive, but he's very much a respectful gentleman. I know which I prefer.

[Primadonnagirl]

You're unsure????!!!!!

[BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted]

It's a pity that he didn't get the chance to reveal himself in his true colours before he was in your bed.

See him again at your peril. He's fucking vile

[googoodolly]

run - fast!!

[Itsfab]

Only read OP.

Do not see this man again. Normally men behave and then start with the disgusting comments - if they are twats. This man as done you a favour. DO NOT see him again unless you want to be abused, controlled and bullied.

WIWD is play nice until he is out of my house - no contact though - and then delete and block all contact details and not invite the next bloke to my house until I am sure he isn't a twat.

[Itsfab]

Did you get the MAP?

[QuacksForDoughnuts]

Firstly that comment is just fucking nasty. Ok so some people might get off on saying that stuff to each other and that's their business, but in your case it clearly isn't a mutual thing and unless you'd threatened to kick him in the cock earlier in the evening he'd have no reason to think it was acceptable. Secondly a relationship won't work if you're not on the same page about what to do if pregnancy happens. Get out now, and not after a long session of waiting for your period and watching fuckface plan his exit strategy. /bitter experience

[HumblePieMonster]

Do not see him again.

[PedantMarina]

DP's (man's) opinion: There is no circumstance in which he could picture a decent man saying that.

Further, the saying it, then retracting it indicates a sociopath whose "editing" slipped momentarily. Thank crap for that: it showed you who he is.

[KissMyFatArse]

Yeah he Defo sounds like a keeper......

[expatinscotland]

I would delete this person from my life is what I would do.

[knowledgeispower]

Thank you so much for all your replies. No, unfortunately it isn't a joke.

I will post again in a while after I've read through all the posts.

[Meerka]

he said WHAT?!

and this was on a second date?

RUN. Don't go near him again.

That's an appalling comment. At a stretch I suppose some people might have a sense of humour like that (ugh) but only after they knew each other really, really well. On a second date? Even if it was only a 'joke' for him to make a 'joke' like that at this stage shows an awful lack of social sense. But I don't think it was a joke. This guy is a bad un. He's shown you what he is. Run.

[aylesburyduck]

If someone had said that to me, it would be one of the last things they ever said in my presence.

What a horrible man. Be prepared for the "oh for gods sake, it was a joke!" if you do decide to kick him in the bollocks to touch